Yeah, it's true, They're so jealous of you.
They really are, and I'm gonna tell you what they are here in a minute.
So I know, they act like they're so all of that,
like, they're so much better than you and
they're constantly making you feel like you're there and they're here,
and you're less and they're more,
but there are actually traits you have they wish that they had,
I'm gonna go over that right now,
I'm saving the best till the end.
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Let's go over the 5 traits narcissists wish they had, that you have.
You actually feel things,
they know how to like, pretend,
but they're like they're over there looking at you and
wondering how to even do that.
They almost, like, contort themselves, hurting themselves,
trying to figure out how to do it.
They try to mirror what that looks like and
I have videos on narcissistic mirroring, by the way,
if you wanna check those out and
even in the love bomb stage,
they're trying to mirror you, try to make you like them more,
try to bring you into their layer and reel you in to lure you.
But, they don't really feel that empathy, they can't.
But you actually can feel what other people are feeling,
you actually feel when somebody is hurting,
when somebody is sick,
when somebody is mourning the loss of a loved one,
those of us who really are empathic or empathetic people,
we really get sad for somebody,
or really feel other people's pains when they're going through it,
they don't feel that, they feel nothing.
That's a very sad thing.
That's number one, they do wish they had that.
They actually don't even really respect themselves.
They have this dichotomy going on
between their true selves and their false selves,
so they've kind of created this duality, this dichotomy between themselves,
they've got this little teeny kind of true self that
I almost picture the shriveled up little weak self;
that's who they picture their true self to be,
is the shriveled up little weak thing that's inside of them,
and then, they've created this persona that they see,
it's like this false self that they've created,
that the one that they bring out to the world,
it's the one that they masquerade with and
there's a huge dichotomy between these two parts of themselves,
everybody kinda has some of that,
but the narcissist has a huge dichotomy between that and
they really have a deep sense of shame,
they have a deep deep deep sense of self hatred,
that's why they hate themselves,
they hate you.
I actually have a whole video on why the narcissist hates you,
definitely check that out too.
So they really have no respect for themselves,
they really have no respect for others.
That's why they're kind of afraid of other people
who have real confidence in themselves.
I do have a whole video on
this is the only type of person narcissists respect,
I would highly recommend you check out that video
because there are certain types of people
narcissists do kind of give deference to,
I definitely recommend that.
But they have no real respect for themselves or others.
That's one of the traits a narcissist wishes they had.
A lot of them masquerade, especially covert narcissists,
in these positions of caring,
because they wanna appear like they have a lot of compassion.
So, they put themselves in positions where
it looks like they're gonna be very caring,
like, clergy, things like that,
but they don't actually feel that deep compassion for others,
But you do.
You're on the path to healing,
I know you're on the path to healing because you're here,
because you're watching this video.
You wouldn't have discovered these videos
had you not been on the path to healing.
I want you to start saying “I am healing”,
“I am becoming whole”,
whatever follows “I am” is what you become,
because your words are powerful,
your words are placing orders to the universe every single day,
you really are the designer of your life and
your words are the beginning of that.
They literally are the writer of your life,
so be careful about the words that you choose,
be careful about saying things like “I'm never gonna win”,
“I can't get what I want” or things like that.
So say things like, “I am healing”.
Deep compasion for others is the third thing they wish they had,
that is the third treat they wish they had and they don't.
You cannot have no empathy,
no compassion for others and
then turn around and have a connection with others.
They don't.
All humans inherently want to have connections with others,
but they really don't have that ability
to have a real connection with other people
because they've lost that ability,
because of there's something misfiring in their brains,
something that got broken in there a long time ago,
because of whatever traumas they experienced,
or whatever happened to them as children
that cause them to become narcissists in the first place.
The ability to have a loving authentic relationship with another person,
because clearly, you can’t love another human being
If you cannot have compassion for them,
if you cannot have empathy for them,
you cannot truly feel for them.
I often say it's like if you are in deep pain,
if you have a horrible toothache,
or if you're doubled over in pain,
or if you've ever had a stabbing pain,
if you've ever had appendicitis or something like that,
all you can feel is your own pain,
you cannot feel anything other than that pain,
you can't be aware of your surroundings and
that's really what's going on
if you're starving to death or something like that.
I mean, if all you are is in survival mode and that lizard brain,
your limbic brain is the only thing that's in control at that time,
then you can't feel anything about anyone else.
That's kind of what's happening with them
because they're in survival mode at all times.
So, they can't have the ability to go reach out and
be in connection with others during that time
because they're distant full on survival mode at all times.
So, those are the 5 traits narcissists wish they had.
You are in healing mode right now,
they cannot be healed, they cannot be changed and
because they cannot be changed,
because they cannot be healed,
you cannot as the empath heal them.
There's this black hole that's deep inside of them,
you're gonna keep depositing your love and compassion,
and it's just like water dripping out the bottom,
you're just gonna end up feeling totally and utterly depleted and
nothing's going in to them.
I mean, you're not helping them at all,
all you're doing is depleting yourself.
So to help yourself, I'm telling you now,
do what you need to do to heal yourself,
Take care of yourself.
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Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will definitely see you in the next video.