Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
Today I'm going to be going over the 3 biggest conversation mistakes that I see most guys
make.
And how do I know that guys are making these mistakes?
A couple reasons.
One, I was making these mistakes when I was learning how to meet women and I coach clients.
I work with guys all over the world and I hear about their mistakes.
I hear what they're doing and I take them out in the field and I see the mistakes they're
making and here they are.
And I promise you, if you fix these, your conversation skills, your attraction skills
are going to go through the roof.
Let's get into it.
Number 1, in no particular order, they focus or maybe you are focusing on too many questions
and not enough statements.
This doesn't seem like there was a particular order but now that I'm thinking about it,
this probably is the biggest mistake that I see guys make.
They're asking so many questions and it turns into an interview.
And I know that a lot of guys do this, because that's all they know.
They're not used to making statements or telling stories or speaking about something without
being asked something first.
It's really easy to go in there and say what do you do for a living?
Where do you live?
Have you been here before?
Do you like this place?
What's the drink that you're drinking?
You go in there and you ask the question so you can relax and you let the woman do all
the work.
But this is not going to get her attracted to you because she's just going to be an interview
and not being able to understand who you are as a person.
Because you're just a guy asking questions.
She has no reason to like you.
Logical, right?
It's starting to make sense here.
When you go into a conversation, I don't want you to be thinking about how can I just ask
a bunch of questions.
But how can I make statements also based on what's happening in the conversation?
Let's say that you ask a question.
Maybe it is a really boring question.
You say, where do you live?
And she says I live in San Francisco.
Instead of being like oh, where in San Francisco do you live?
You can use that keyword San Francisco and say, oh, San Francisco, I've never been there
but I've always wanted to go.
I heard it's amazing.
My friend lives there.
Or you can say, oh, I've been to San Francisco before.
Yeah, it's really fun.
I did this, I did that, I saw the Golden Gate Bridge, whatever.
Start making more statements so it's more of a conversation than an interview.
Let's go to number two, this is an interesting one.
And I know that guys aren't really thinking about this.
But that's why you're here, listening to some Tripp Advice because you don't think about
this stuff and I'm here to do it for you.
Here it is, you're probably going into conversation and you're not talking about the stuff that's
interesting to you.
You probably don't think about that.
You think about I need to go into a conversation, I need to talk to a girl and I need to continue
the conversation.
Your focus is so much on how do I just keep it going?
Without anything else, you're just thinking, What do I do?
And like I said before, you just ask a lot of questions because this is the only way
you know how to keep it going.
You're focused on how do I continue, how do I continue?
Instead, if you want to continue the conversation, you should think about what are the things
that you want to talk about.
What's in interesting to you?
This is going to be killing two birds with one stone here.
Because one, you'll continue the conversation easier when you talk about the things that
you want to talk about, because it's interesting.
Also you're going to be having a really good time in the interaction.
You're going to be enjoying the interaction.
Guess what happens when you enjoy the interaction?
She enjoys the interaction, the people around you enjoy the interaction, they start to feed
off of your energy.
They see this guy is excited, he's talking, he's being engaging, and they like that.
They like that.
It's not that you're putting on a show but at the very least you're talking about the
topics of things that you're interested in.
I'm going to give you a little piece of homework.
Come up with something that you've been reading about lately, something you've been doing
lately, whatever it is, and bring that up in conversation to the next person you talk
to, to practice talking about yourself and talking about the things that are interesting
to you.
For example, I just started rock climbing this year.
This is something that's been fun for me.
I can go a conversation and start talking about rock climbing, whether the person's
been or not.
I can ask have you would rock climbing before?
They can say yes and now we can talk about it.
Or they can say no, I've never done it.
But yeah, I never did it either before this year, but I started doing it and it's really
fun.
It's challenging, it's scary.
And I just really enjoy doing it.
You can always get new paths every single month because they create new paths, whatever.
There's all this stuff that I can talk about because that's something that's interesting
to me and it makes the conversation easier to flow.
Let's go to the next one.
The next mistake I see is that guys, and I see this all the time with my coaching clients,
they get the number two soon.
They think that 5 minute conversation is going to be just enough to be able to get her attracted.
The problem is guys, I get it, you're in conversation, you're talking to a girl, 5 minutes does seem
like a long time.
But it's not enough time to get her invested in you.
If you want to get a girl invested in you and attracted to you, you need more time with
her.
You don't need an hour.
But if you're going out during the day, let's say you meet a girl at a grocery store, you
need at least 10 to 15 minutes.
If you're going out at night at a bar, you need anywhere from like 20, 25, maybe 30 minutes.
You need that time for you guys to connect so she can remember you become invested in
you.
And then she'll respond to your text or call or whatever you do to try to get her to meet
up again.
Make sure that you don't just go for the number right away.
Try to continue conversation with some of the things I said earlier so then it's going
to be easier to get her number and get her to respond when you reach out to her.
I go heavy and deep into these with more techniques in my program called Hooked, which you can
check out at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll put a link down in the description.
Here's the deal with this program, there's a bonus in there.
It's called Effortless Flirting.
It's all about how to be flirtatious in conversation and how to make conversation really smooth,
really fun and get her really enjoying it and I give you a cool system on how to do
it.
This is all in the program Hooked.
I want you to check out more about it.
Like I said it's www.getherhooked.com.
You're going to learn all about conversation.
It's going to help you tremendously.
Go check it out.
I'll see you on the next video.