Hello everybody, this is me Meera and today on Skillopedia I am going to share few body
language habits that will help you impress anybody. Let me start with this, I'm sure
we all agree that, our first impression is based on our physical presence and physical
movement. Isn't it the first few minutes that we make our decision and form judgments about
what the other person’s intensions are whether or not that person is credible and someone
we want to continue meeting. In order to make a positive or a good impression about yourself,
you would need to groom your non-verbal communication skills to showcase your emotional intelligence
or EQ as we call it and impress others effectively. Let us begin and see how.
To generate good feelings, Smile, the oldest and easiest trick is smile. People like those
who make them feel good and a simple smile can make others feel good. Well I don't want
you all to mistaken fake smile with a genuine smile. You must generate positivity inside
yourself. Feel good from within and there you go. It is usually a negative atmosphere
when people do not have a happy face. And I'm not saying smile all the time, that is
not natural, but you can always start with it. Introduce yourself with a smile. Do not
forget that you are capable of making a warm impression when you meet someone anyone and
all it takes is a simple twinkle called smile. Smile like you are happy to be there.
Slightly bow to connect with people. Um yes having a firm hand shake does make a good
impression. But let us say you are not that comfortable shaking hands or get confuse whether
the person in front of you wants to or not. Then the safest way is to bow a little bit
with a smile of course and your back should not be bent or curved. You must maintain your
bow as well. You may also keep your hands in front relaxing locking thumbs, like so.
Make sure if you are meeting a lot of people, greet the crowd. Not just the known face.
Bow, introduce yourself and say hello to everyone around. This is very simple even if you are
sitting, right? I must say, this body language is very humble as well it helps in greeting
people without any awkwardness. A method widely used in many countries to make good impression.
Sudden jerks of looking around, can really disturb a conversation. You must maintain
a certain speed of movement and not to forget, grace and calmness unless it’s an emergency.
Try not to keep you chin held too high that might seem a bit rude and unapproachable.
You can keep a relatably parallel chin not too high not too low. Just keep your natural
position, like so. Don't be too stiff, nod when you are listening to show your involvement
in the conversation. This will help you in keeping any conversation, engaging. People
who are listening and are present in the conversation are usually the most impressive ones. You
can use appropriate hand gestures to express or explain better for instance whenever I
am with someone and I open a door I always let the other person pass by doing this hand
gesture. This tells the other person that I want him or her to pass. Similarly I use
soft hand gestures to explain things such as faster, right? Continuously, great job
do not use your fingers to keep fidgeting with your phones clicking pens, um-um. Avoid
keeping folded hands all the time and keep them in your pockets. No, don't do that. Show
signs of being that shows that you are probably shy or an introvert. Instead keep open arms,
like so. Avoid resting your elbows on the table. Although you can rest your forearm,
that's fine. Let us picture this, you are all proper from head to waist but your feet
are three feet apart, or awkwardly placed, wouldn't that look inappropriate? Wouldn't
feel inappropriate? The person looking at you is definitely judging you by now. You
can sit and stand with lesser than your shoulder length apart. It the safest at times, believe
me. If you are sitting and there are pillows around you, don't put them on your lap. They
are meant for your back and not your lap. This shows insecurity, that's why. You can
also lock your ankles across while seating, like so. This shows that you are keen, open
and well aware of your complete posture while in a conversation.
Many a times it is some fear, shyness, low confidence and lack of focus that make our
eyes wander and we look in every other direction. Lose eye contact with the person we are having
a conversation with. Well what is important here is that we, must maintain that and avoid
looking at someone's hair, someone's watch, someone's bag. This way you are present with
body and mind and we can impress anyone by engaging them with us. Being aware by looking
around is a fair point here. So here is a trick, gracefully and slowly look around,
without spending too much time looking back at that person. And look at that person right
back. Focus, continue to focus as you were before, or if you are looking or waiting for
someone just excuse yourself by saying, "Excuse me please." And then say, "Sorry, Please continue"
that way. You've at least not insulted anyone, right?
What happens when you maintain a straight back position? Well according to various researches,
it is said that maintaining a straight back, helps you to automatically feel confident,
powerful and in this process you can start looking the same as well. Helping you to make
a strong impression keeping your back straight is a great mindful idea. Also mindfully maintaining
the same while sitting is very, very important. Here I would also like to add that you must
be well aware of your surroundings. Sometimes when you are standing in a group, some people
are left behind facing your back now that is being ignorant, right? Always make sure,
you invite and include people and not let anyone stand behind you facing your back unless
you are standing in a queue. That's a different, that's a different situation. This tiny gesture
will make you stand apart from the crowd. Here your mind, eyes, body posture will help
you form a great impression that yes, you do think of others as well.
This is again another old trick to engage and involve people in the conversation. Another
way to win the conversation, don’t be too obvious or too creepy here. For example, if
one picks up their coffee, with a few seconds apart you can do the same. If someone smiles
at you, always smile back. IF they are nodding and you agree, nod back. This shows that you
are on the same page as they are. With these few tricks you should be able to make good
impress. In fact to be able to make it look natural, you must practice it. All these are
daily life gestures that you might want to use. Feeling foo from within, is the key to
it all make sure that you start your day with a beautiful smile and the rest shall follow
with good practice.
That is all for today. I will see you very soon right here until then, keep practicing,
keep smiling, spread love and happiness. This is me Meera signing off for the day. Bye.