should people make news resolutions
people should make new year's
resolutions if they're actually watching
this video on January 1st if they're
watching it on December 23rd
they should make December 23rd
resolutions waiting miraculously to win
the calendar flips to start making your
life better is silly at best and pisses
me off at worst and so whenever you're
watching this because it lives on the
internet and thus that means you could
watch this on June 17th make a
resolution every day of your life
because you only get one at-bat the
reason people struggle with having a new
year's resolution and sticking to it is
because it was a tactic to do a new
year's resolution hence why my first
answer was right which is when you
actually decide to make a change in your
life whether about weight or job or
going out with somebody or relationships
that's when you actually pull it off
it's religion not tactics
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a new year's
resolution have already broken it by
today and that's if you even made a
resolution I mean think about it most
people don't even make a resolution
anymore why because they've made them
from years and years and years and they
know they're not gonna follow through so
after a while who wants to disappoint
yourself who wants to be upset with
yourself why even bother to set a new
standard for this year you know it's
gonna be the same as last year so the
question is you know what is it that
makes us even want to make a resolution
resisting question why is it at the
beginning of the year we have this
tradition but it goes beyond tradition
it's something inside of us that makes
us want to make things better and I
think part of it is the calendar gives
us this idea that we can have a fresh
start that we can it start from fresh
and have this great victory let's use
the calendar to serve you today
let's just see what does it really take
to make this thing happen because
there's no denying that inside of you
the only thing that's gonna make you
happy and the year ahead and the decades
ahead it's gonna be having you have an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
so the secret to real happiness is
progress progress equals happiness and
if we can make progress on a regular
basis we feel alive and that's why at
the beginning of the year we get this
thing like okay I can have this fresh
start I could really do what my soul
desires I could expand I could grow I
can improve I could change or maybe
better than change I could progress so
if you want to make real progress then
you really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that's gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn't what they're really doing at the
beginning of the year they're saying
well here's my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes it's their wish list it's what
they hope it all comes together and then
they call it a resolution but they don't
know what a resolution is when you
resolve something to have a resolution
is to resolve it when you've resolved
this is how it's gonna be that's when
you cut off any possibility except the
thing you've committed to make a
resolution every day of your life
because you only get one app back
most people they're stating what they
hope will come together and if it
doesn't happen then they're disappointed
but they're not too disappointed cuz
they're not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year's resolution you follow through on
that really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year's
resolution fundamentally it's the same
the first step is you got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want I mean one of most
people's New Year's resolutions I'm
gonna stop eating sugar you know I'm
gonna stop smoking I'm gonna lose 10
pounds toppled that is it's not very
inspiring for most people you know it's
not telling you what you're gonna get
it's only what you're not gonna do and
it's kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you're here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well mine you know my resolution
my goal my how come for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that's okay but it's not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision it's gotta have something has the
power to pull you not something you have
to push yourself to do those are two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
last what will last is pulled having
something so exciting so attractive so
some of you desire so much that you have
a hard time going to sleep at night and
gets so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that's what you're looking at great and
that wasn't easy to get
and the bottom line of our
follow-through comes down to our
emotional intensity you gotta have
strong enough reasons that you're gonna
follow through and the going gets tough
they don't have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what's gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you're starving hungry and
you're trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time you're stressed out you
haven't worked out still that's what
you're supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you're
gonna do doesn't work and so you give up
on the goal instead of finding another
way to get there you don't let the fear
take you over if you've got strong
enough reasons reasons come first
answers come second if you've got a
compelling vision and you got strong
enough reasons that will push you
through the tough times you're gonna do
things other people don't do instead of
collapsing even if you get off target
you won't go I blew it you'll get right
back on target make the change make
things happen if we do our best when our
destinations are beyond the measurement
when our reach continually exceeds our
grasp and when we have a more Toole
finish line and when we do this the race
is never over journey has no port the
adventure never ends because we are
always on the way so do this do this and
let them let somebody else come up and
tap you on the shoulder and say hey you
score it let them run up and tap you on
the show and say Mindy you want
let them come tell you you go home now
let them say I love you too
let them say thank you take the lid off
the man-made roofs that we put above
ourselves and always play like an
underdog when you really get clear and
it's compelling and you're reviewing it
every day got strong reasons you're
viewing it every day and you're feeling
it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward you know what do people do with
New Year's resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it's not a
compelling vision they don't really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again until they notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn't really resolve if you resolve you
got the vision it's compelling you
review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple
as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you're gonna
have lasting change in anything you're
really talking about just raising your
standards raise your standards what does
that mean corny as it sounds raise your
standards I'll thank you for the
breakthrough thought Tony
lasting change is different than a goal
you don't always get your goals but you
always get your standards but when you
decide something as a must for you an
absolute must when you cut up any
possible you say I'm gonna find the way
I'm gonna make the way human beings when
they resolve things and they have make a
real resolution inside themselves which
is they raise the standard they make it
a must they find the way
if you say sent to me well I'm really
gonna work hard to stop smoking but you
know I've been a smoker my whole life
and I'm you know I am a smoker I know
your days are numbered you're gonna be
back smoking cigarettes again because we
all act consistent with who we believe
we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you're not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you're
really drunk or something and then you
can say it's the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you're a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don't have
conservative because that's not who you
are very often people say well I can't
do that I'm not that kind of person and
I always say to people really when did
you define yourself I mean very often we
made decisions in our youth or very
young about what to believe about what
we were capable of about who we are as a
person and that becomes the glass
ceiling if you will that controls us
we'll Bauer doesn't last but Richards
can last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you've
been doing for years even though some of
them don't serve you I'm just saying
wake yourself up make you want a new
year and a new life you don't need to
start in January first start today start
with this little video
then how'd you knew you're coming out so
far when did you define yourself I mean
really how many years ago did you come
up with what you could and couldn't do
in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how
they're living their life today it's
based on a set of standards a set of
beliefs that they made choices about 10
20 30 or more years ago
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