If you could teach guys like one thing or two things about women, what would it be what would you tell them don't chase?
Don't chase and don't be afraid of rejection, you know, don't be afraid rejection
My I
Guess like
My strategy in college would be every time I would see a hot girl I'll just go up and talk to him
I didn't care about in a fucking grocery store if it was in a library
Like if I saw a girl that I found attractive I would just go talk to her and I wouldn't go up and say oh
I think you're beautiful and all that cheesy bullshit. I would just go talk to her about whatever like
Didn't matter you just have a conversation with her see where it went. You know, sometimes didn't go anywhere
Sometimes they wouldn't want to give you the time of day
Sometimes he'd have a casual conversation lead nowhere
But at the end of the day because I did that it would just make me more comfortable talking to girls
And it was just kind of a numbers game
So I had you know, pretty great success and you know, I always used the example of my one buddy
It was like real conservative
He would only talk to a girl that he knew like really liked him and you know
so maybe he would like
Talk to two girls and he would sleep with both of those girls
And I would talk to a hundred girls and maybe I'd sleep with four of them
But at the end of the day like he's batting a thousand, but I'm still fucking twice as many girls
So it's like one of those things where?
I just you know, I'll just put in the time and I would just
interact with tons of girls and
Now, I realize that a better strategy if you can do it
a lot of guys
don't really have their life set up to do it is set up your life to where the girls have to come to you and
So you don't have to
Pursue them and when you don't have to pursue them
Like I said earlier
You know just the dynamic is different when they're chasing you as opposed to you chasing them and everyone has more fun
Yeah, I mean it's you know, it's better for the girl because then when she finally sleeps you she feels like she accomplished something
and
you know and she's like kind of work for us if she's a little bit invested and
if you hook up with her, it's because you know you
And they're going with her and not because you were chasing something, you know, so I think it's better for both people
Actually, do you think we'll see more like dan Bilzerian type scenarios in the future where you know, there's a guy and lots of women
Mmm, yeah, I mean, I think there's a lot of people that are like trying to like copy what I'm doing
I don't know how effective they're gonna be at it but
You know, there's what eight billion people in the world I'm sure somebody's gonna be able to pull it off at some point
It's not easy
I mean, I'm in a very lucky situation
and I say lucky not because look I didn't work hard to get where I'm at because
There's just definitely a degree in luck and you know, super successful people
I mean you have to be at the right type
Right time at the right place and then figure out a way to capitalize on that
A lot of people are given an opportunity and they squander it
but you know a poker for instance like I got in into poker at the right time the right time the right place and
I
Put in the fucking hours a minute, you know that 10,000 hours theory. I logged my 10,000 hours. I've paid my dues
Playing 18 hours a day fucking six seven days a week
piss on the laptop won't play in ten fucking table at a time and you know doing all that and
and
It paid off, you know
You know is there was a grind and it sucked but then I made a bunch of money and you know
And I used that money to you know, hire a bunch of staff and now I've got who know anything
I know like 90-something people working for me
So, you know, I don't have to spend any time going grocery shopping and I'll make my bed and wash my clothes
I don't, you know, do any of that stuff
So all the time that I spend is on
Business or hanging out with girls or handle the friends or traveling or doing things that I want to do?
So I really don't spend any time
doing things that I don't want to do and so I would say that I've lived like
ten lifetimes at least a look an old person just because I
Haven't like if you look at a normal person I spend you know
40 hours a week working plus the commute and this and that and so of
their usable time if you subtract out the eight hours a day, they sleep and
Take a shower and take a shit and brush their teeth
Like all this stuff that like they have to do
right
Like how much of their day is actually?
Usable and then of that day like how much of that are they spending going to work doing something. That isn't
Anything they really want to do like no they're sorting mail there in TPS reports
So they're fuckin flipping burgers or whatever it is
But it's like something that's not contributing their life at all and everything that I'm doing is something that like I want to do
it's interesting to me and that's contributing in my life and you know and
And then I'm learning something from it or whatever
even even with girls
I mean every time you interact with the girl you learn something you figure out more psychology
understand
Why they do because like it makes sense like girls just want to do what they're not supposed to do
Like I feel like they kind of like get off on that
So if you understand that premise and then like the whole competitive piece of it like the stuff they do
It makes sense if you like understand all that stuff
Still surprising sometimes but how do you keep them all happy you must have that's hard
Actually that that is actually probably like the most difficult piece of this
because
Yeah, I mean it's
Yeah, I mean you gotta like sleep with all these girls
If you don't then like they get you know, like upset so there's like a definitely a big sexual obligation. I would say
But you
have to like if
It's I don't know. It's like I mean, okay we go off on this tangent for a while, but you know
the girls I
guess I
Think it's like two to three months and then they usually just like all get too attached
they can't deal with the situation but up until that point, you know you
Have to kind of like you can't spend too much time with the girl
Because then that will accelerate the situation then she'll get to the point where you know
She's just too invested and she can't deal with the other girls
So you have to spend like a somewhat limited amount of time with them
but enough time that they're like happy right and then you have to keep the rotation so that if you know
Some of them leave it doesn't matter and because you're okay with letting them leave and they can date other guys and they can do
Whatever they want
It makes them not necessarily want to do that as much as if you told them not to and you tried to control them
So it's a whole crazy dynamic. I don't know. It's pretty much like uncharted territory
I was just talking to this girl about this last night
You should write a book about this
Yeah, yeah are there rules?
The rule is honesty, that's my one rule
It's like you have to be honest with me and I'll be honest you can lie to your boyfriend
You can lie to whoever the fuck you want your friends
I don't care but you have to be honest with me and I'll be honest to you. That's pretty much my one rule
So if she asked me a question, I'm just gonna tell her the answer and you know, so I tell her you know
You know what scary answers don't ask security questions, but I'm gonna tell you the truth. So and I think because of that it's
It's weird, I mean I I think they're so unused to that that when they ask you a question, you know
Like oh like how many girls have you hooked up with this week and you tell them the truth?
like at first it's just like what the fuck and then a
part of them is kind of like a little bit relieved because they're like
Fuck like this guy's like gonna be honest with me. Like I can ask him any question
He's gonna tell me the truth and I think that's like really rare
Like I don't think there's many people that are being honest like in in LA now they have this whole sugar daddy thing
We're like the guys got five girlfriends and the girl's got like multiple boyfriends. She's got like four dudes paying the same bills
So it's like if she gets the more expensive apartment
It just means that she just made three times more income because four guys are paying for that same apartment
He needs us like a whole crazy thing and they're all lying to each other and it's this whole nutty situation
But yeah, I think the rarest thing is the honesty and
I would I
think the reason the girls are okay with it because a lot of people ask that like why the girls are okay with it is
because of the honesty because
And I would choose it too. I would choose
honesty over
the
You know possible illusion or the you know, the
The hope of monogamy, you know, I mean because they asked me a question. They know I'm going to tell them the truth
So I think there's more value in that than in the pretense of like, you know, I think this guy's monogamous
but I don't know what I'm gonna try and catch him cheating and I always have in the back of my mind like
You know is he doing that and then two years down the line they find out that the guy's been cheating on the whole time
And then they end up like an emotional wreck and you know, they've been deceived and they have all this animosity
I never really have like any bad breakups or any like, you know negative fallout of the girls like yeah
sometimes like they'll implode and I get upset like I never lied to them and they never like
Got swindled or like sold a bill of goods
So there's never usually like any animosity at all
All right, and I think that's kind of a cool thing
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