Hey guys, so the seven ways
to avoid online dating scams
is to watch for these seven sneaky red flags
with somewhere between 40 and 70%
of new romantic relationships
starting online on dating sites.
Well, these seem like an obvious choice
to go shopping for love.
Unfortunately, unscrupulous people
take advantage of vulnerable people.
I know of a man who lost $5,000.
I know of a woman who lost $50,000
and I know a man
who lost over $5 million.
Scammers can be very sweet and charming
and are often quite young
and very attractive.
And the next thing you know you're out hundreds
or thousands of dollars or worse
and you feel like a fool.
You end up shying away from dating entirely,
and you spend your evenings eating
three day old leftovers in front of the TV,
vowing to never go on a dating site again.
Well, my friend you deserve fresh food
and you deserve an amazing
woman with integrity to share it with.
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so you can find, attract,
and keep your keeper.
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Welcome to just the tip,
let's jump in.
Watch out if,
number seven,
she's way better looking than you
or a lot younger than you.
If it seems too good to be true,
it probably is
because the reality is yes,
if you meet in person
there's a chance you can charm
the socks right off her
and some other attire,
but online is a different story.
A woman who hasn't met
the charming real life in person you
might be after something else.
If you post a lot of photos
that show off your financial status,
whether or not you have financial resources
then you're going to attract scammers
or at the minimum goal diggers.
And even if you don't
post those kind of photos,
scammers will still prey on lonely men
and will take away
whatever you have for retirement.
So, be cautious
if there's a big gap
between your age or attractiveness and hers.
The next red flag
is one many guys fall for
because you are innate heroes.
Number six, at the first sign
of a damsel in distress, run
you feel good helping others
especially if you can help a woman.
But scammers prey on this
and even if she's not a scammer,
you don't want a fixer upper.
If she gives you some sob story
about how hard up she is,
that's your cue to run away.
Key point,
even if she tells you
she's dealing with it
and doesn't want your help
that may just be a setup.
And then she'll be sweet and saucy
and eventually she'll be in a tougher spot
whereby you feel compelled
to offer help
and be wary if she asks
for a very small amount of money,
that can be a test to see how you react
later, she'll be asking for more.
Key point, human nature
is to invest more money
in something that we've already invested in.
Now, to weed out the unsophisticated scammers
you'll want to heed the next tip.
Five, move to video call as soon as possible.
So, women need to feel safe
and while meeting in person is ideal,
she might not feel ready for that right away
if she's just met you online
and messaging is good to get
to know her initially,
but you do need to move
into a video call
because you want to be able to
verify her identity
and be able to see face-to-face
that she is who she says she is.
So, a video call can help you confirm that
and it also helps you get to know
her personality and intentions.
If she's resistant to a video call
or makes excuses continually,
that's a red flag.
If she's been equally engaged
in your conversations online,
then it should be safe
to suggest a video call
within three to five online conversations.
Assuming you're in the same city
you could say something like,
I've enjoyed chatting with you
and want to meet you in person.
Are you ready to meet in person
or do you prefer a quick video chat first
so you can verify my photos aren't 20 years old?
If you're not in the same city
then just skip that part.
Key point,
if you've built some rapport
and she's interested in you,
any woman who is interested
in looking for a long-term relationship
with the right person will want to meet
in person sooner than later.
If she says no or not yet
it could be that she's not ready
or it could be that she's not sure
about you, doesn't like you,
or she's a scammer.
Again, most women who are actually serious
about finding the right person
will want to meet in person within
a few weeks of meeting online and engaging.
At the same time, be careful
if she wants to move too fast
that brings us to number four.
Put the breaks on rapid advancement.
If she wants to meet in person right away
that should be a red flag
regardless of whether or not she's a scammer.
If she agrees with everything you say,
flatterers you with tons of compliments
or moves to sexual undertones or
even overtures right away
that should be a red flag for you.
Either she's completely reckless
or she's planning to lure you
into a situation
whereby you think you're in for a good time
but instead, you wake up with a throbbing
headache and a missing wallet.
Remember, women's primary need is to feel safe
if she's speeding along without caution,
that could be a red flag
that she's after something else.
If it's too good to be true, it probably is
or she'll video call with you right away
and she is that hot chick online
just to virtually seduce you
and suck you into her scam.
Don't let your heart
or your wrong head
lead you into temptation with someone
you don't know yet
and this brings us to number three.
Do your research before meeting.
If you've had a video call
or two or more and everything seems okay so far
then it's appropriate
to research who she is.
You've offered up your name,
your social media,
and maybe a professional site
with limited information
so she can do her recon
so it's easy and appropriate
for you to ask for the same.
Google her name,
see what comes up on social media.
Does her friend list look suspicious?
Are they all foreign accounts
with limited info?
Are there only provocative photos of herself
or no real photos of herself?
Does she have a few interactions?
These are all pink flags at minimum.
Now, if she's not ready
to give you that information.
She may just be cautious or private,
but you should proceed with caution
and if she won't video call with you
or meet in person within the first few weeks, move on.
Two,
keep your personal information private.
Now, even though you shared your name
and where to find you online in general,
you want to make sure you don't reveal
your full legal name, where you live,
your email address
or your phone number right away.
Key point,
she may be the window dressing
to a larger scam operation with a crew
working in the operation.
Scammers use your personal information
to steal your identity
or commit other crimes.
Now, if all this sounds like way too much risk
just remember, most people
are still meeting online now
you just have to be careful.
I meet a lot of happy couples
who met online on dating sites.
And this next tip will also help
protect yourself
and it's one you probably haven't
consciously thought of.
Number one, and then I'm going to give you a bonus tip,
use a reputable dating site or app.
There are tons of new
dating sites and dating apps
with all kind of niche markets
but you want to avoid using
those free and new sites
and opt instead, for more reputable,
well-known sites that have better
security measures to protect you,
you want to know
you can report a suspicious account
and it'll be taken seriously.
And don't hesitate to block
or report any woman you find suspicious.
Okay, now the bonus tip actually ties in
to the real life
scam stories I mentioned at the beginning.
Bonus tip, trust your gut.
If something doesn't feel right,
no matter how badly you want it to be right,
trust your gut.
If it's too good to be true
it's probably too good to be true.
If you have a bad feeling about her,
no matter how charming or sexy she is,
trust your gut.
It's located a little higher
than the other area that's telling you to
ignore those red flags
and don't feel terrible
if you have succumbed
to one of these scammers.
They are professionals,
it's happened to many smart men.
Example, business man met
a business woman.
She was in financial investment,
owned her own home in Vancouver.
Everything seemed legit
after getting to know each other
for quite a long time.
She eventually offered him
an investment opportunity.
It was a too good to be true deal
but he was cautious.
He only put a little bit of money in
and guess what happened? No,
he actually got his money back
with a really nice return.
So, then what happened?
She offered him another investment.
This time he put a little bit more in.
Guess what happened?
Some of you might have guessed,
he got another good return.
Ahh!
But each time he kept putting in more
until eventually
he put in over $5 million
and that's when things went awry.
There was a snag in the investment
and his funds were tied up indefinitely.
Ouch!
Turned out she had a bunch of
fraudulent mortgages
on that house that was hers.
Did he go bankrupt?
I'll tell you what happened at the end.
Now, I know you may be
scared of dating entirely
but again,
online dating is where most
people are meeting nowadays
and here's the thing,
and this ties into the bonus tip.
All these victims that I know
all said there were red flags
right from the beginning
that they chose to ignore
either because of hope or greed
or simply loneliness,
they got sucked in.
They allowed themselves to be sucked in.
So, if you watch for these
seven red flags
and these ways to avoid
being scammed in online dating
then you should be safe.
And if you do want to consider
online dating options
then you might want to consider getting
my online dating video program.
It's only $10 and has a few short videos
covering the most common mistakes
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and how to initiate and carry on
a conversation starting online.
By doing your research,
keeping your personal information private,
watching for red flags,
using a reputable dating site,
and most of all, trusting your gut.
You can stay safe
while looking for love online.
Okay, what happened to him?
The almost X millionaire
who almost went bankrupt
after several years and some help
from the FBI fraud department,
he got most of his millions back.
If you've had an online dating scam story,
my heart goes out to you
that really, really sucks.
I invite you to share
your story in the comments
so others can learn from it.
Thanks for being here, God bless.