- Shh, don't tell him,
don't tell your significant others,
but once you find out that love language,
use it to your advantage Sis!
Use it to your advantage, okay?
(mellow r&b music plays)
- Hey guys, it's Brittany Williams.
- And I'm Darryl Williams,
and together we are the Williams Family.
All right, let's go back to the beginning
of when we actually first started dating.
It's quite a while ago.
It's a kind of complicated story.
So we actually met back in high school
at a track meet in 2008.
- I wasn't paying him no attention.
- She's lying. She was..
- I wasn't paying you any attention.
- That's kind of how that went back in high school.
We kind of parted ways,
didn't really think about each other
but we knew of each other for a while.
So, years later, she ran track.
- At colleges not too far from each other,
maybe 30 minutes or so.
And it was actually the year we were graduating
from college, about to leave our college towns
and go on with our lives that, you know, he shot his shot.
You know? - You could say that.
So that was actually 2013. - Yes.
- And since then we've been, we've been kicking it.
We've been rocking it.
- He's been my shadow, my side kick.
You name it since then.
So our family is growing.
No, I'm not pregnant right now.
- Not yet. - Not yet, anyways.
But we do have two beautiful little girls.
We have our oldest whose name is Noel.
And then we have our youngest,
who's only a year and a half,
but acts like she's 10 or so already.
And her name is Sage.
- She's not necessarily a fitness influencer.
- Yeah, I wouldn't label myself that.
- She's more so lifestyle.
I'm definitely in that fitness influencer box though.
That's everything I do. - Yeah, he's gonna check
that box off for the gym every day.
Every day.
I'll skip it.
Gimme Starbucks.
- You skipped today.
- I did skip today. It was a busy day.
But you know, I'll be there tomorrow.
- Literally anything we're talking about between us
it has a lot to do with communication.
Because I understand she's at home with the kids.
So as soon as I walk through the door,
it's like, all right, your turn.
However, she doesn't understand,
I've dealt with people all day, you know?
So I have my own like, all right, you know,
now I need a little bit of time to kind of,
even if it's 30 minutes,
we called it like decompressing time.
- Yeah. - Right.
To where I need a good 30 minutes to an hour,
to kind of decompress do whatever it is I need to do,
workout, whatever.
So that then I'm not one bringing home anything
that I've gotten from work.
You know, if I've gotten yelled at at work
or I've yelled at somebody else,
I'm not bringing that same energy.
as soon as I go from interacting with one person
to interacting with my wife.
I'm giving her the same energy I've given
this other individual.
So when she allowed that, I needed a hug as well.
That was one thing.
Because my love language is touch.
That's one of them.
So I needed a hug when I come home, I need a kiss.
And that kind of let me drop my guard.
'Cause I'm used to dealing with,
I'm not hugging nobody at work.
I'm in the military.
You know, we're not hugging.
So I'm used to, you know, a certain...
- You darn sure ain't kissing nobody.
- Yeah, so, you know.
I come home that helped me calm the Hulk, you know?
- Yeah. That's what we would refer
to him as after the military.
He's Hulk and I need to calm him down
with a little hug and a kiss.
And it, honestly when you first said it, I was like,
there's no way this is gonna work.
You have way too much aggression for a little hug from me
and a kiss to work.
And look at us.
- Did it work? - It worked!
Once I noticed it worked, I was like, come here! Hug!
- We're talking about love language.
That's a very big one.
That to me rolls right into
that communication foundation key that we talked about.
That's a secret.
I'm telling you, communication is a secret.
I tell her everything, you know.
Sometimes she don't like it,
sometimes she do.
But she always respects it.
And she'd rather me tell her, than to not tell her.
So communication is number one.
So eventually after we were together for a while,
obviously we had beginner couple type, you know, issues.
And she actually came to me
with the whole love language thing.
I didn't know what the heck she was talking about.
You know, I'm like, I don't know.
What do you mean love language?
You know?
Like, how do you receive your love?
I'm like, what are you talking about? You know?
So she's like, just read this, just read this.
So I read through an article that basically
was helping you analyze yourself in terms of, you know,
what you like, what you don't like, how you, you know,
what makes you happy?
What do you feel like if you would have
to rank these things, you know,
you received your love.
So number one for me was touch.
And we're not just you know, talking sexually,
we're talking about, you know,
I'm cool with my foot touching her.
You know, if I'm sit, I could be sitting across this side,
and I'm looking, I'm not playing footsy,
but I'm looking for contact with her body.
You know, if her foot's touching my foot, I'm good.
Giving me a simple hug was me receiving my love.
And after that was acts of service.
Which is, you know, she takes good care of me, you know?
And that's how I know, you know, I'm loved.
- Shh. Don't tell him,
or don't tell your significant others,
but once you find out that love language
use it to your advantage Sis!
Use it to your advantage, okay?
'Cause once I found out that physical wasn't, you know,
doing everything that you think you don't wanna do,
and it was just a hug, I was like, this is a win.
So since I've learned that,
I've definitely learned to use my knowledge to my power,
you know, and my benefit.
- Thanks for telling me.
Thanks for telling me. I know now.
- Shh, he didn't hear that.
He didn't hear that.
- It's a simple Google.
- It is a simple Google.
A simple Google can tell you so much
about not only yourself, about the people you care about,
because your love language isn't necessarily
just how you receive love, but how you also give love.
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