Looking to make a guy chase you? How can you convince him that you’re a catch without
making the first move? To put it simply, you can’t. You need to send one of these simple
text messages in order to spark his interest, catch his eye, and encourage him to make the
first move.
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So let’s talk about texting. Twenty years ago we hadn’t even heard the term, so how
important can text messages be when it comes to dating? Well it turns out that they’ve
really impacted how we communicate in relationships. In fact, a recent study found that 88 percent
of men and 18 percent of women have broken up with someone over text. But it turns out
that text messages are not only useful to end a relationship, they can actually be crucial
to beginning one. Which brings us to our first text:
Text number 1...Hi :)
A simple text message with an important message: if you want a guy to chase you for a date,
it doesn’t mean you have to just sit on your hands and wait for him to make the first
move. If you’re watching this video, chances are that it hasn’t worked out for you so
far. Instead, you should make a concerted effort to seek him out and connect with him,
to signal to him that you’re single and interested in getting to know him more. You
don’t have to spell it out to him too clearly--you don’t want to come off as desperate--but
simply reaching out and engaging him in conversation is an effective way to let him know that you’re
looking for a date. So don’t leave him on read. Keep your text messages fun and engaging,
and always keep the conversation going. Pretty soon, if he’s interested, he’s going to
ask you out.
Text number 2. I had a dream about you last night…
This one can be great if you’re looking to introduce a little sexual tension to the
conversation. You don’t need to get too specific about what the two of you were doing
in this dream. Let his mind run wild with assumptions. Basically you’re letting him
know that you’re on his mind and that’s going to give him the idea that you might
see him as more than just a friend or coworker.
Use this one sparingly though. You don’t want to be that person who is always describing
their dreams to other people.
Text number 3. What are you wearing?
This one flips the script on a typical question that a guy might ask you during phone sex.
That’s what makes this text both flirty and funny, as he’s not going to see it coming.
Whatever he says in return, keep the conversation going. You could follow up with a “sounds
like it would look even better on my floor” if you want to get really graphic, or just
play it off as a joke. In any case, if he knows that you have a dirty mind, it’s going
to make him wonder what else you’ve got in store for him.
Text number 4...How about we meet up during the day next time
This is for those women who have already been with a guy and are trying to get to know him
a bit more outside of the bedroom. I find that some women like to read a guy the riot
act in this situation, or give him an ultimatum, but I find that it’s always more effective
to start with a more measured approach and see if he picks up what you’re putting down.
This text also let’s him feel like he’s in control of the situation, that it’s HIS
choice to ask you out, not the other way around.
Text number 5…. You’re not like other guys
Be careful with this one. It shouldn’t be a putdown to other guys but rather a compliment
to him. Chances are there are things about this guy that sets him apart, or why would
you be interested in him? Simply identify these aspects of his personality and shine
a light on them. Men want to feel special just like women do and if you can make him
feel special, he’ll be yours.
Wondering if he even likes you at all? Sometimes it’s not easy to tell...but it just got
a whole lot easier. Go to CoachNorth.com/DoesHeLikeMe right now and take my free quiz. It just takes
five minutes and, based on your answers, I’ll tell you what chance you have with this guy,
and what you should do next. It’s totally confidential too. That’s CoachNorth.com/DoesHeLikeMe.
Text number 6...no text at all
If you want a man to chase you, you’re going to have to let him chase you. A recent study
published in the journal “Computers in Human Behavior” found something interesting about
text messaging in relationships. They discovered that something called “text message share”
is a big predictor of relationship satisfaction. Put simply, this means if both partners sent
close to the same number of text messages to one another, they both reported high satisfaction.
If the text message share was uneven--meaning one partner sent many more messages than the
other--then both partners reported low satisfaction in the relationship.
All this to say, you need to take steps to equalize your text message share, as early
in the relationship as possible. So don’t double text. Don’t send him a bunch of messages
when he’s sending one word replies. And don’t reach out to him too often, or risk
scaring him off. It’s much more common for women to scare a guy off with more text messages
than it is for her to win his heart with the right text message. Keep that in mind when
you’re trying to entice your guy.
I know, I know, it can be a lot to try to absorb all at once. If you feel like you need
more help with your texting, you’re in luck because I’ve barely scratched the surface
here. For more in depth information, you need to check out my free video presentation right
now over at CoachNorth.com/Texting. There you’ll learn how to win his heart with just
ONE text (along with a TON of other sneaky text messages that will win him over). That’s
CoachNorth.com/Texting!
Thanks for watching. I’m Amy North, and I’ll see you in the next video.