This is when it started.
The affair with her physical therapist.
This wasn't some run-of-the-mill affair; this was the kind of
scandal that dominates talk shows and tabloid headlines for years.
We had been married for 15 years at this point, living in a small college town in New Hampshire.
We were both 29 when we got married, and I had just finished my Bachelor's
in history a few years prior, thinking about what to do with the rest of my life.
We were living a comfortable life at this point, I'd been promoted to branch manager at the bank where I
worked for 3 years, which brought us an extra $1000 a month after taxes.
It allowed us to pay off our student loans, put a little away for retirement,
and spend money on things like the occasional out-of-town trip or new TV.
We would have liked to have kids, but neither of us were in a rush, so it wasn't really at the top of our list.
I was active, running every morning, while she taught Zumba classes at the gym nearby.
We had a pretty good bedroom life, but in the last few months, I caught her bringing a magazine in to bed with her.
Not even an adult magazine, it was Teen Vogue.
I confronted her about it, asking what she could possibly be reading in there.
It turned out that they were fashion magazines and catalogs from some department store.
I caught her again a few weeks later, bringing that same magazine into our bedroom.
I asked what it was doing there, and she told me that she'd found an article
about how to be sexy for your man and wanted to try out some of the tips.
She said that she wasn't trying to hide it or any thing, just caught up in what the article was saying.
So, I put her on the spot, telling her to try out one of the tips right there for me.
She went into the bathroom, and I started undressing.
When she came out of the bathroom, she had apparently followed all of the tips from the article.
She was wearing a silk thong, and a glittery choker.
This caught me completely off guard.
Didn't expect her to be wearing a choker, it looks like my wife is kinkier than I thought.
Where did this side of her come from?
She has never displayed this type of behavior the whole time we have been together.
Did it come from the magazine she has been reading?
I am not complaining, just a little perplexed as to all of a sudden to want to try new things in the bedroom.
It was fun though, to try new things, but it only lasted a few weeks, then, our bedroom went dead again.
I expected her to come up with some new game or tip, but, she didn't.
Well, I started to try and initiate different things in the
bedroom, but, to my surprise, she wasn't in the mood to try them.
I said, "Honey - it's been almost a month since we have been intimate while I am at work."
She replied, "You just can't keep up with me.
I said, you are being ridiculous, you know I can keep up with you, it must be something else.
Because that’s not the issue.
She replied with, "You don’t want to try new things, and she said, she had to get back to work.
I thought to myself, where is all this coming from?
I then start thinking that this is work related.
She works long hours, and she may just be stressed, so, I didn't think about it any more, I just knew,
that shouldn't be a problem, wanting to be intimate with your wife.
So, when my wife came home, I decided to confront her about making time for us.
She then got all defensive when I brought up the subject of intimacy.
I asked her why she was so defensive about being intimate with me.
She said "you are ridiculous".
Again, I thought that it could be work related stress, so I didn't say any thing else, just accepted that right
now was not a good time for us to have any type of intimate relationship.
The next night after my wife came home from work, she went
straight into the shower and stayed in there for over an hour.
When my wife finally got out of the shower, she walked by where I
was sitting at the kitchen table and said, "I am going to bed."
She did not even say goodnight to me.
So, I went upstairs and tried to get her attention by saying, "Honey?"
She then replied with something like, "What?
Why do you keep bothering me?"
I then asked her what was wrong with her, that she couldn't even say goodnight to me.
The next morning, I got up early and got ready for work while my
wife slept in another bedroom, so we didn't have any intimate contact.
It is almost like we were roommates or something.
When I had finished getting ready for work, I went into the room where my wife was sleeping and opened the door.
She had her back turned to me and continued to sleep.
I then sat down on the bed, looked at her back and said, "Do you know what you did?
Do you have any idea how much I love you?"
My wife got angry saying she was trying to sleep, and didn't want to talk about anything.
I really don't know what she was so angry about, but, I didn't press, I
got up and got myself together, didn't even say I loved her or anything.
Just left for work.
When I got home, most of her clothes were gone.
I found a note on the counter, saying she had gone to stay at her sisters for a while.
Called her sister and asked if she knew what was going on, but, she said no.
So, I tried calling her and texting her, she didn't return any of my calls or text messages.
A couple of days went by, and, to no avail, still can't get in touch with my wife, I even called her sister
again, but, she still told me, that she still doesn't know what's going on.
So, I had enough, I start doing some digging, I don't have access to her phone, but, I have access to the on
line account where I can research phone numbers she has contact with.
So, I started looking up the numbers, and one number in particular came back to a physical therapist after
a few searches on google, he's also a personal trainer in his free time according to his social media profile.
I confirm that the physical therapist is the one that my wife communicates
with a lot, but, I didn't want to put 2 and 2 together just yet.
So, I looked into the physical therapist's life on Facebook and Instagram for some more information, but this caught my eye:
It says, "I love you baby", in Spanish, Not English!.
Who does that?
Well, Maybe it was an inside joke, or maybe not?
Either way I was a little alarmed at that.
At this point, the way she has acted, not communicate with me and leaving, I just wanted to tell my wife we were done
and call it quits, but, not just yet, I wanted to do some more digging, and wanted some confirmation on my wife's behavior,
so, I call my brother who went through a divorce just recently, his wife kind of acted the same way, out of the blue.
So, I call my brother and tell him what has transpired, he just came out and told me that my wife is cheating, I
said, why would you say that, he said, that his wife just changed overnight it seemed, come to find out his wife
already had a replacement and just wanted out, she became defensive and didn't want to be intimate with him.
He said, listen, if your wife isn't being physical with you, it's one of
two things, it might be a medical issue, OR, she is just straight up cheating.
After talking to my brother, I made the decision one last time to try and
contact my wife, if I don't reach her, I am going to hire a private investigator.
I don't have the time to keep wondering, if she is cheating, I am out.
I am really sorry for the long post, but, I had to, so you guys can see what I am going through.
But, I will be back with an update to let you guys know what happened and what I found out.
And yes, I plan to hire a private investigator.
UPDATE.
Hey everyone, I promised to come back and let you guys know my situation,
and, I told you I was going to hire a private investigator and I did.
I didn’t have time to keep wondering why she was acting this way, and she moved out of the house suddenly.
Well, the very first day I hired the private investigator, he immediately found out that she was having a relationship
with another man, it just so happened to be her physical therapist, who goes to the gym where she holds her Zumba classes.
The private investigator followed them to a motel on 3 different occasions, and, after the first time he caught them at
the hotel, I called a divorce attorney right away and set up an appointment.
That day, I told him that I wanted a divorce on grounds of adultery,
and, he simply asked did I have proof of that, I told him yes, I did.
I told him, I will have every thing to him by the end of the week, I paid him right away.
That night, I went home, and packed up the rest of my soon to be ex-wife’s things, but, I called her sister to
see if my soon to be ex-wife was there, she said she wasn’t, I said okay.
So, I put the rest of the things in my car, and drove to her sister’s, and dropped them off.
Later that night, my wife was blowing up my phone asking, why did I drop off her things.
I didn’t respond.
Here in New Hampshire, divorce is easy, I am so lucky, I guess.
No drawn-out separation or any of that non-sense.
My wife continues to blow up my phone, and, I do NOT respond, I would
suspect she would have come by the house by now, but, she never came.
2 weeks go by, and my divorce attorney tells me that my wife was served with divorce papers.
The day of the divorce hearing, to my surprise, my ex-wife shows
up at the divorce hearing with her new boy toy, and her attorney.
I was in absolute shock that she would do such a thing.
But, I am pretty sure her attorney told her what she was up against.
As the hearing starts, her attorney says my ex-wife wants
spousal support, and would like to have the house and its contents.
My attorney simply told the judge, that my wife was committing adultery, and she should not get anything,
my attorney told the judge, that his client would be willing to give up the bedroom set, but, that’s it.
She should NOT be awarded spousal support after she left the home, moved in with her sister, my
attorney said that she was having an affair with her physical therapist.
The judge flat out told my ex-wife that he was not awarding spousal
support to her after he saw the proof of her having an affair.
He did award her the bedroom set, but, I didn’t care about that.
My ex-wife blurted out something, the judge told her to be quiet, and she stormed out of the court room.
After that, the judge said that we need to set a time for her to come and get the bedroom set.
A week after court, her and her sister came to get the bedroom set, I didn’t help move any thing.
I sat on the couch while they moved everything.
After they left, I had the locks to the front and back doors changed.
Even after the divorce, my ex-wife still tried to text me and call me.
The next day, I simply changed my number, and, began living my life!
It was refreshing to know that, I didn’t have to give this woman a dime!
I played it cool, got my evidence and buried her.
I want to thank everyone who commented on this forum and the advice they gave, especially the old timers