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Hey it's Barron Cruz from Charisma Matrix. I'm so excited for you to watch this because
this technique that i'm gonna talk about is true matrix level sub-communication
most people may feel the impact of this but we've never know how to actually use
it to their advantage
what im gonna teach you how to do is how I truly decided a conversation with three or
more people
who was gonna talk. Literally it's like you have a picker.... you have a picture and say you talk now
you talk now you talk now but just by where
you gonna focus your attention so let's say
there's three people in a conversation you're one there's two
and theirs three. the person that you put
all over your attention on very strongly is the person
that will have the four speak she say to people start speaking
I don't care one of them's the boss or the company and the other ones the
janitor
if they both start speaking at the same time and the janitors over here
you go just complete orientation to them just look at them
boss is gonna stop speaking a he's gonna continue speaking
it doesn't matter the level is social value in in a situation it's its it's
crazy how this works
help everyone doesn't matter what the position is will be quiet
it the third person Koreans and give you get the attention to someone else
Now you can even take this to another level in that
if no one speaking like say no one even said anything
or if this guy say the boss starts to speak but you want him to speak
orient yourself to this guy he's gonna have to come up with some saying start
speaking
it's the strangest thing how just by one person
exerting all their attention towards someone just
Mason and undeniable I'm
encouragement to use it in it undeniably encourages someone to say something
every other person not to talk now if you have a very strong presence
you can even do this in a group of four or more to say there's five people cuz
people are gonna follow
the leader in a group or somebody who steps up and makes a leading gesture
say there's five people now and just you know I just use example because the
hierarchy is very clear when there's a boss or a CEO
and a subordinate so let's say there's five people as me
2345 in the boss is here and the low-level employees here
if people start talking at the same time
you young not not sure I'll you not like looking like this
you like this you're falling gauge Mets
facially expressive so people know you're gauging decision
these other people are gonna naturally go with your or into them
and he's not to be able to talk so you really wonder stand up our listen to you
try it out but what it enables you to do is decide
and lead the conversation where you want to be must think about an implication
say John takes your side in an argument and bill doesn't build a CEO
and you know they're saying to you say something so yeah I just I think the
budget can fit that in
I think up we look at a five year trajectory the expense is really gonna
come back in place of work
well now you know I remember the names but you know the CEO doesn't have
decided he does the all-star talking
who do you want to talk the guy who has your site so what do you say your cell
and you watch assures day these guys gonna stop talking
and he's gonna keep talking it's amazing try it out use it to your advantage this
is
this is one of the small tricks in the charisma
like I said that most people have no idea that's going on but
if their number two and three they're gonna know what's going on so
consciously because they're gonna turn or it just like you
because it feels right the person that feels like they have enough from
I guess value to choose who's gonna talk by completely or getting themselves
is the person is gonna make decisions the other people are gonna follow
because it kinda goes back to my lesson on body language
in that year or eat Asian has a lot to do with how engaged you are
and how much social are you giving of so if you're perfectly square to someone
you're giving them as much attention as you possibly can but watch
as I square this person the sea over here is at little
attention as I can get them I guess over the shoulder could be the very least
but now if he starts talking she saying that
I have higher value than him because I magnin already a damp summer giving him
the time a day so I could I don't care you gotta say
when USA so it looks very weak and low-value
for them to actually step up and do that so you really taking both these factors
into play
and you're deciding really what you're saying is listen talk all you want your
gonna be low by I'm a turn or issue I may not
you look even worse if you both continue to talk
and I continue or ran into him and Sony's other people looks pretty low
value if you're speaking buying for people's attention
and they don't actually give it to you try this out I guarantee you're gonna
like it is amazing most people never know what's going on
you can be the magician behind they're making decisions deciding who talks
deciding who's on your side who is a two piece before a bit more time
you the maestro the conversation until next time
bearing crews