- Do you feel like you need more attention from him
and how much you're getting just is not good enough?
Well you have come to the right place.
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Women often come to me with this complaint,
they are dating a guy that they really like,
there is just one really big problem
that they can't get over.
He is just not giving her as much attention as she wants.
She's smitten over him,
she wants to see him as often as she can,
to talk to him more
and just be around him as much as possible,
but he's just not stepping up to the plate
and she just can't wait to understand why.
More often than not these women will then
take the matter into their own hands
and will try to confront a guy over his lack of attention.
They will usually confront him, message him,
or just tell him that they expect a lot more from him
and he needs to step things up.
What they don't realize is that men who are confronted
with this either change for a short amount of time
and then revert back to what they were like before
or not change at all,
or ignore what she has just asked, or even worse.
Sometimes they just vanish.
Well I'm here to break things down for you
in three ways as why this happens
and what you should do instead.
Firstly it's about quality over quantity.
You don't need to talk to him every single day
to keep him interested.
Actually the less you will talk to him
the more interested he will get.
In the bible it does say
the less you speak the less you sin.
Oversharing often leads us to regrets.
As we say things that we shouldn't
just because we try to fill up a gap of silence
because we feel insecure
and are trying to please the other person.
The more you will talk long term
the less he will be interested in what you have to say.
People who talk a lot a majority of the time
they just baffle,
less is more, it is always quality over quantity.
Instead of oversharing everything,
share the fun and meaningful interesting things
such as funny stories, goals, dreams, et cetera.
And be comfortable in silence for the rest.
Let him speak and move the conversation forward.
And then you will speak quality
and then the rest of the time you will be silent,
he'll start to wonder what you're thinking of
when you're silent,
and will probably ask you
to something really fun
even if in truth is the grocery list for the next week.
Number two, you can't ask the guy
to give you more attention and talk to you more.
He will just rebel.
He needs to want to talk to you.
You asking him to do that will just make him pull away.
When a guy's being pushed to do something
he doesn't want to do freely,
he will either comply temporarily to stop the nagging
or will ignore you completely, or even leave.
The point is you can't make a man
to do what he doesn't want to do.
If you feel like your man is lacking interest in you,
check out my video right here how to keep him interested.
Number three, so what you should do instead.
If you confronting him won't work, what will?
The answer is simple.
Do not chase him, let him come to you,
it is okay if he's not texting you every day.
Focus on your path, on following the plan
that god has for your life.
Don't be needy texting him, sharing your every single step.
Let him miss you and wonder.
The same as your mind wonders
when you don't know where he's at,
same goes for his.
If after trying this he still isn't coming to you
then perhaps he just doesn't really care.
Actions speak louder than words,
and it is up to a man to lead the relationship.
Real men are hunters, it's in their blood.
They go after what they want.
If they don't do it,
it is basically because they don't see enough value in it.
And if he doesn't come after you
because he is playing a game,
or is feeling insecure,
well do you want a man like that in your life?
I didn't think so too.
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