Power from porn is an illusion. I'm Dr. Trish Leigh, let me tell you what I mean by that on today's Monday motivation.
We're going to talk about 3 things in this video. Number one, what is power? Number two, how do you truly get power and what does it look like in your brain?
Number three, is your brain tip for the day. On how you can get power, the power that you need, in a healthy way so you can leave the screen. Leave the habit behind and reach your full potential.
Ok, number one power what is it? Power in the healthy sense comes from being on purpose and you've heard me say it before
it is when your brain and this is skipping to number two. But it's when your brain is humming in the middle at perfect speed it's not going too fast which creates
anxiety. It's not going too slow which creates boredom and overwhelm. It is running at the perfect speed in the middle for calm focus.
So when you have calm focus going back to number one, what does it mean? It means you're confident, you're self-assured,
you can keep yourself poessed, you have self-regulation skills which means you can make good decisions, you can be kind to other people, you don't have to be
offended by things that happen to you, you can extend grace to others instead of preserving everything as attack. That
is power. Power is when you control your brain and it's not controlling you and you feel in the zone. Now what that looks like in your brain is
more of that calm focus speed in the middle. Now your brain tip for the day is, how can you get that? What can you do,? What strategy can you use? Well number one
I'm sorry to tell you, you have to leave the screen behind because you can't ever get power in the real world if you're going to illusions, which again I have to remind you that porn is fake. It's not real. That's not how
real sexuality happens. Your not even a participant in the fake experience you are the fourth wall observer. So you can not gain power from something that's not
real. It's not true. The funniest thing happened when I was talking with someone and he's like I believe you, I believe what you're saying. You don't have to believe me, it is truth and it's science.
You don't have to buy into the truth. The truth is the truth and so unfortunately illusions can't be true they're just fake. So, when you get
your power in the real world. You don't need to go back to the illusion and so you leave the screen behind and the illusions fall away. Then you develop healthy sexuality
by trying to be with a honey, finding someone that you can connect with in the real world, and develop intimacy and arutasism and a shared connection with another person while you're getting intensity
albeit a little lower. when you're getting the intensity for pleasure and for happiness so that your brain runs in the middle. Ok, so what's the brain tip in there is
get on purpose in your work, in your relationships, in your hobbies. So this week I want you to do something that makes you feel good in your work
pick the one thing that you like about your work and do more of it this week. In your relationships find the one person who you can be yourself where your brain goes to that middle zone and call them or hang out with them. In your hobbies
do the hobby that you like and maybe that you don't do frequently enough
because it's going to pop up that speed in the middle and you're going to gain your power in the real world by being on purpose will make it easier for you to leave the screen and habit behind. If you're looking for help on that journey
go on my website at drtrishleigh.com because I have awesome programs that can help you and I'm here for it if you need the support so go one over check it out. And remember control your brain or it'll control you.