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>>> WELCOME BACK EVERYONE, ALL MORNING LONG WE HAVE BEEN
SEEING OUR COMMUNITY SHOW UP
FOR THOSE IN NEED THROUGH OUR
11ALIVE ANNUAL CAN-A-THON.
WHEN YOU REALLY THINK ABOUT THE
PEOPLE THAT WE ARE HELPING,
THOSE IN DANGER OF GOING
HUNGRY, AND MAKES US GRATEFUL
FOR WHAT WE HAVE.
GRATITUDE IS SOMETHING THAT WE
WANT TO DO FOR OUR KIDS AS
WELL.
WELL.
WELL. BUT
WELL. BUT HAD WE TEACH IT?
HOW DO WE MAKE SURE THAT EVERY
DAY THEY ARE PRACTICING
GRATITUDE?
GRATITUDE? ALL OF OURS ARE PRACTICING
GRATITUDE.
GRATITUDE. WE THOUGHT IT WAS A PERFECT
OPPORTUNITY TO DIVE INTO THIS
IN REAL TALK.
OF COURSE CARA STUCK AROUND,
WHERE ELSE WOULD SHE BE?
>> KNOW WHERE I WOULD RATHER
BE.
BE.
BE. >>
BE. >> ALSO, SHERRI OWENS AND HOST
AND PRODUCER OF THE EXCURSION,
DAVID ZELSKI.
DAVID ZELSKI. WELCOME YOU GUYS.
SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU.
SO FIRST, LET'S JUST THINK
ABOUT THIS.
ABOUT THIS. YOU THINK THAT KIDS THESE DAYS
ARE LESS GRATEFUL THAN PRIOR
GENERATIONS?
GENERATIONS? >> UNFORTUNATELY YES, I'M
SORRY, I FEEL LIKE THAT.
IS OF THE WHOLE ME THING, ME,
ME, ME.
ME, ME.
ME, ME. IT'S LIKE BEING INTO YOUR PHONE
BUT ALSO WAYS OF EXPRESSING
GRATITUDE HAVE CHANGED OVER THE
YEARS.
YEARS.
YEARS. IT
YEARS. IT WAS A LOT MORE OF ITS RIGHT
A NICE NOTE TO THE PERSON
THANKING THEM FOR SOMETHING
THEY DID, OR SOMETHING THEY
GIVE YOU.
GIVE YOU.
GIVE YOU. NOW IT IS JUST A QUICK TEXT
MESSAGE.
MESSAGE.
MESSAGE. OR ENERGY.
OR ENERGY. >> YES, I LIKE THAT.
THE WAY THAT WE EXPRESS
OURSELVES HAS CHANGED.
WHAT YOU THINK, AGREED?
>>
>>
>> >>
>> >> THE
>> >> THE RIGHT EMOJI CAN GO A
LONG WAY.
LONG WAY.
LONG WAY. [ LAUGHTER ] I THINK EXPRESSION
IS SOMETHING THAT WE CAN TEACH
OUR CHILDREN, LOOK THEM IN THE
EYE, THEY DON'T ALWAYS DO IT,
THEY FIND A WAY TO EMAIL OR
SEND A TEXT.
BUT MY MIDDLE SON SENDS A LOT
OF EMAILS TO THE GRANDPARENTS.
HE WAS VERY GOOD AT THAT.
THEY DO LIKE THAT, SO THAT IS
TECHNOLOGY COMING THROUGH, BUT
NOTHING WOULD BE BETTER TO THEM
THAN HIM JUST CALLING.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. AT LEAST HE IS COMMUNICATING
AND TRYING, REACHING OUT.
AGAIN, IT GOES BACK TO IT
STARTING AT HOME AND WHAT WE
DO.
DO.
DO. WE
DO. WE HAVE TO MODEL THAT BEHAVIOR.
ARE THEY HEARING US CALLING AND
CHECKING IN ON PARENTS?
ARE THEY SEEING AS GIVE THANK
YOU NOTES.
YOU NOTES. I KNOW I HAVE ONLY TOTALLY
SLACKED OFF WITH THANK YOU
SPECS YOU ARE GREAT.
>> THAT'S VERY NICE OF YOU TO
SAY BUT NO, I OWE YOU A THANK
YOU FROM LIKE FIVE MONTHS AGO.
BUT I WAS WRITING A THANK YOU
THE OTHER DAY AND I LOOKED AT
THE DATE THAT SOMEBODY HAD SAID
SOMETHING ON AUGUST 28th AND
I'M JUST GETTING AROUND TO
THINKING AND.
THINKING AND. SORRY.
SORRY.
SORRY. BUT I THINK EXACTLY WHAT YOU
SAID IS RIGHT.
THEY WILL MODERATE OUR
BEHAVIOR.
BEHAVIOR.
BEHAVIOR. IF WE ARE MAKING AN EFFORT TO
DO THOSE THINGS IN THE SOCIETY
WORDS INSTANT GRATIFICATION,
IT'S LIKE WE GET USED TO THAT,
YOU JUST GET USED TO IT.
AND THEN YOUR KIDS GET USED TO
IT AND THEY'RE BEING BROUGHT UP
IN A TOTALLY DIFFERENT WORLD.
SO IT DOES FALL ON OUR
SHOULDERS TO INSTILL THOSE
VALUES THAT WE CHERISH, EVEN
THOUGH WE DON'T LIKE WRITING
THANK YOU NOTES WHEN WE ARE
LITTLE.
LITTLE.
LITTLE. I
LITTLE. I CAN STILL REMEMBER MOM SAYING
CALL YOUR GRANDPARENTS.
AND NOW I WOULD LOVE TO MY
GRANDPARENTS BUT I DON'T HAVE
GRANDPARENTS TO CALL ANYMORE.
>> RIGHT, THIS ARTICLE, I TOOK
A SCREENSHOT BECAUSE IT STUCK
OUT WITH ME.
WHEN KIDS GET EVERYTHING THAT
THE ASK FOR AND ARE ALLOWED TO
DICTATE HOW THINGS GO, THEY
BECOME UNAWARE OF OTHER THINGS
AND EXPECT THE WORLD TO CATER
THEM IS LIKE AND HAVE --
TRANSLATE INTO FILLED INTIMATE
RELATIONSHIPS.
RELATIONSHIPS. SO, WE TAKE IT ONE STEP
FURTHER, BUT THINK ABOUT IT.
EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU, HOW DO
YOU EVEN DO WELL WHEN YOU ARE
TRYING TO CREATE AN US OR A WE?
THAT IS HEAVY.
THAT IS DEEPER.
SO, THIS ARTICLE GIVES US SOME
GUIDELINES, AND SOME OF IT,
AGAIN, WE KNOW, BUT WE HAVE TO
PUT INTO PRACTICE.
NUMBER ONE, SPEND TIME WITHOUT
DEVICES AND TALK.
WHO HAVE YOU BEEN KIND TO TODAY
AND HOW?
AND HOW?
AND HOW? WHO HAVE YOU REACHED OUT TO?
TELL ME MORE ABOUT THAT.
HOW EARLY DO YOU THINK IS TOO
EARLY TO START THAT?
>> PRESCHOOL, REALLY.
ONE OF THE THINGS THAT WHEN MY
KIDS GET OUT OF THE CAR I SAY
BE KIND TO EVERYONE.
IF YOU JUST HAVE THAT LITTLE
BIT OF TALK TO THEM, JUST THAT
LITTLE THE KIND TODAY, THE
CARRY THAT IN THEIR HEART.
AND YOU WANT TO TEACH CHILDREN
TO BE GIVERS.
AND YOU THINK SOMETIMES
ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS WILL HAVE
DRIVES, SOMETIMES THE GIRL
SCOUTS OR OTHER THINGS.
YOU HAVE TO GET YOUR CHILDREN
IN ONE OF THOSE PROGRAMS THAT
THINK ABOUT COMMUNITY, AND NOT
JUST THEMSELVES IN A SPORT OR
JUST A THEMSELVES IN A RECITAL
OR THEMSELVES IN AN ACTING
CLASS.
CLASS.
CLASS. YOU HAVE TO GIVE THEM INVOLVED
IN THE COMMUNITY.
IF YOU RAISE CHILDREN WITH A
GIVING HEART, THAT IS REALLY
WHAT I THINK WOULD BE THE
ULTIMATE PARENTS LIST.
>> WHAT ABOUT EXPRESSING
GRATITUDE DAILY.
GRATITUDE DAILY. YOU KNOW, I USED TO GET THOSE
JOURNALS.
JOURNALS.
JOURNALS. HOW DO YOU MAKE SURE THAT WE
GIVE IT BUT HOW DO WE GET THEM
TO DO IT?
TO DO IT?
TO DO IT? WHAT DO YOU RECOMMEND?
>> A JOURNAL IS TOUGH.
THAT IS ANOTHER HOMEWORK
EXCITEMENT TO ADD TO WHAT IS
ALREADY THERE.
ALREADY THERE. BUT IF YOU CAN GET THE DAILY
GRATITUDE, FIND SOMETHING TO BE
APPRECIATIVE OF, TELL YOUR
PARENTS, OR TELL A TEACHER,
SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE
APPRECIATIVE OF.
APPRECIATIVE OF. IT IS HAULED HARD TO INSTILL
EVERY DAY, THAT IS ANOTHER JOB
ON US TO GIVE TO THE KIDS BUT
THE MORE WE CAN DO, THE MORE
THEY WILL LEARN.
THIS IS SOMETHING MY WIFE AND I
BELIEVE WE ARE STILL A WORK IN
PROGRESS WHEN IT COMES TO THE
GRATITUDE, BUT WE KNOW WE HAVE
DONE A PRETTY GOOD JOB BECAUSE
WE SEE THE GOODNESS COME OUT OF
ALL OF OUR CHILDREN.
SHOWING THAT ACT OF KINDNESS ON
A DAILY BASIS, THAT WOULD BE
PERFECT.
PERFECT.
PERFECT. >> CHILDREN ARE SELFISH ANYWAY,
THEY DON'T NEED US CATERING TO
THEM.
THEM.
THEM. THEY ARE THE CENTER OF THEIR
OWN UNIVERSE.
OWN UNIVERSE. SO, THEY JUST HAVE TO PUT THEM
IN THEIR PLACE.
WHEN JAMES IS LIKE MOM, DID YOU
KNOW THAT -- IS LIKE I DID KNOW
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. OKAY?
OKAY?
OKAY? PASS IT AROUND, THAT'S BEEN
ALLOWED A LOT LONGER LIKE OKAY.
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> OKAY, YOU CAN SEE THIS
DEFAULT AS PARENTS WE FEEL LIKE
WE HAVE TO GIVE THEM THINGS
JUST BECAUSE WE CAN OR WE HAVE
TO SAY YES TO THEM BECAUSE WE
CAN, JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN
DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD.
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> ABSOLUTELY. IT IS HARD TO SAY NO, BUT WITH
LOOK AT WHAT YOU END UP GETTING
SOMETIMES.
SOMETIMES. JUST KEEP SAYING YES, THE WORLD
IS NOT FILLED WITH YESES.
IT IS UNFORTUNATE BUT TRUE.
I LIKE THIS THIRD ONE, I NEVER
REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT IT.
SHINE A LIGHT ON INSPIRATIONAL
PEOPLE, SELECT A STORY.
MAY BE A BOOK, I HAVE A WOMEN
IN HISTORY BUT -- BOOK THAT I
FOUND THE OTHER DAY.
LOOK AT THIS AMAZING PERSON WHO
DISCOVERED THIS OR LOOK AT THAT
WOMAN WHO WAS THE FIRST
ASTRONAUT IN SPACE.
THINK ABOUT DOING SOMETHING
LIKE THAT.
LIKE THAT. >> THERE IS A THEORY -- AND
THEN THEY TURNED IT INTO A TV
SHOW.
SHOW.
SHOW. AND
SHOW. AND THE KIDS HAVE BEEN OBSESSED
WITH IT.
WITH IT.
WITH IT. THEY HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE AND IS
A LOT OF WOMEN TOO.
AND ANOTHER THING BECAUSE YOU
ARE TEACHING THEM HISTORY.
IS A FANTASTIC SHOW, EVERYONE
GO LOOK.
GO LOOK.
GO LOOK. >> THAT'S ALL RIGHT.
>> I LIKE THAT SCHOOLS ARE
GETTING INTO IT AS WELL, THEY
FIND AN INDIVIDUAL THAT THEY
KNOW NOTHING ABOUT, A POET.
AND SO THE KIDS LEARN ALL ABOUT
THE PERSON AND WHAT MADE THEM
GREAT, WHY THEY WERE IMPORTANT
IN THEIR TIMES.
THE SCHOOLS ARE HELPING WITH
THAT, BUT DOING THAT ON A
CONSISTENT BASIS, THAT IS
ANOTHER PLUS.
ANOTHER PLUS. >> CARE, WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT
NUMBER FOUR, HELPING PEOPLE IN
PRACTICAL WAYS, ABOUT LETTING
THEM SEE GRATITUDE
DEMONSTRATED, ACTS OF KINDNESS
WITH PUBLIC SERVICE.
AGAIN, MINE ARE A LITTLE OLDER.
>> IT IS NEVER TOO EARLY.
>> I THINK THAT IS SO
IMPORTANT, SOME OF MY BEST
MEMORIES ARE SPONSOR'S FAMILIES
OR DOING SOMETHING FOR OTHERS.
I THINK THE KEY FOR THIS IS NOT
TO MAKE SUCH A BIG DEAL OUT OF
IT.
IT.
IT. LIKE
IT. LIKE THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT HAVE
NEEDS AND WE ARE GOING TO DO
THIS BECAUSE WE WANTED TO DO
IT, NOT BECAUSE WE WANT TO PUT
IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA OR TO LET
OTHER PEOPLE KNOW WE ARE DOING
IT.
IT.
IT. I
IT. I THINK THAT TRUE GRATITUDE AND
GRATEFULNESS COMES FROM WITHIN.
IF YOU ARE TEACHING THAT COME
THEY DON'T NEED TO BE
DEMONSTRATIVE ABOUT IT.
IS FROM YOUR HEART.
>> RIGHT, IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN
MORE OUTSIDE OF THIS TIME OF
YEAR.
YEAR.
YEAR. >>
YEAR. >> THAT'S RIGHT, WE HAD A
NETWORKING GROUP, WE BROUGHT IN
CANTON UNLIKE BUT REALLY WHAT
YOU NEED?
YOU NEED?
YOU NEED? >> IS LIKE WE ARE SO
OVERWHELMED, I NEED HELP IN THE
SPRING AND SUMMER.
SO, HELLO.
SO, HELLO. >> RIGHT, HERE WE ALL ARE.
RIGHT, BUT AT THE END OF THE
DAY, IT SHOULD BE ALL YEAR
ROUND.
ROUND.
ROUND. THE LAST THING WILL DO, WE'RE
OUT OF TIME, MAKE SURE YOUR
CHILD DOES NOT TAKE YOUR
EFFORTS FOR GRANTED.
SO, WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING FOR
YOUR CHILD, OR HELP THEM WITH
ANYTHING, TEACH THEM HOW TO SAY
THANK YOU.
THANK YOU. AGAIN.
AGAIN.
AGAIN. >>
AGAIN. >> IT'S A PRIVILEGE, NOT A
RIGHT.
RIGHT.
RIGHT. THAT'S WHAT WE LIKE A LOT.
THEY WANT THEIR iPAD TIME, BUT
THEY HAVE TO DO SOMETHING TO
EARN IT, THEY HAVE DO SOMETHING
GOOD AND USEFUL.
AND WE ARE STILL WORKING ON
THEM UNDERSTANDING WHAT WE
REALLY DO TO HELP THEM,
ESPECIALLY THEIR MOTHER.
AND, THAT IS SOMETHING THAT I
THINK THEY ARE LEARNING, I HOPE
THEY ARE LEARNING.
>> LIKE HE SAID, IT'S A WORK IN
PROGRESS.
PROGRESS.
PROGRESS. BUT I THINK THAT EVERY DAY,
JUST SAYING THANK YOU, KEEP
DOING IT, KEEP DOING IT WITH
OURSELVES, AND THEN THEY WILL
BECOME THE GRATEFUL ADULTS.
>> AND IF THAT DOESN'T WORK,
TRY BRIBERY.
TRY BRIBERY. THAT ALSO WORKS.
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