I remember many years ago when I was learning how to meet women and I was trying to get more dates
and get better at building attraction. One of the hardest things for me personally was initiating a
kiss. Getting to the point where I could not just get to the kiss, but even just performing. Just
to go for it. I didn't even think I was a bad kisser, I wasn't worried about kissing itself.
Which is funny. It's like, I had a little bit of confidence with kissing once it would happen.
But getting to that point was so scary for me. I don't know if you relate, if you do, hit that
thumbs up button. But I just know that this was something that I had to practice over and over
again. I had to practice getting over the fear of initiating a kiss. And a lot of the clients that
I work with are having this fear too. They say it to me, I hear about it all the time. They're like
when do I go for the kiss? How do I go for the kiss? How do I make this happen? That's why I'm
making this video. To give you a little easy technique to teach you about how to initiate
a kiss for the first time with a girl that you're either on a date with or a girl that you're just
talking to for the first time. You want to be able to learn this technique so that you can escalate
to more. The whole point is you want to initiate a kiss so you can get out of the friend-zone. And
then it can lead to more, getting more physical. This is the start of getting physical. That's why
you want to make sure that you're implementing this technique and you're doing it right. First
things first is when do you go for a kiss? When are you going to do it? I want you to do it
only if you're having a good time. This makes it really easy for you. A lot of guys are like,
when should I go for the kiss? What's the perfect time? And you're only thinking of that because
you're thinking about how she's feeling. Of course you do want to have some social awareness. Like if
she's having a terrible time, you're not going to kiss. But again, if she's having a terrible time,
that's probably gonna make you have a bad time too. The indicator is, am I having a good time?
You want to focus on you and how you're feeling. Am I having a good time? Has this been a fun time?
Am I enjoying this date? Am I enjoying her? Again you can take it, you can make this easy and take
it to the point where you're not solely focused on her because it is hard to read a woman. I've
been on dates before where it seems like the girl is having a terrible time but I was having
a good time and I went for the kiss and she was interested. You thought that she might have...
I thought she was maybe going to reject me, but she didn't. So it's hard to say
whether or not you should go for a kiss based on solely how they're feeling. Focus more on you.
I think the best time to go for a kiss, if you just want to make it really simple for yourself,
is do it towards the end of the date. This is the typical time to do it. This is where there's been
hopefully enough time to build attraction because you need time there. You need to spend time with
her for her to get to know you, for you to get to know her. So it makes sense and it's pretty
common sense. And I still believe that that is the best time to do it. Can you do it in the
middle of the date? Yeah, of course you can. It is possible. But I would only do that if it really
calls for it and you guys are just like really close to each other and you can make it happen.
Otherwise towards the end of the date is just fine. And you can do it before she's getting
into her Uber or wherever she's going. If you end up walking her home. I know that my current
girlfriend and I walked her home and then I kissed her before she went inside. Just somewhere towards
the end of the date where it makes sense. The way that you're going to do this is you're going
to create a silence. What you're going to do here is you're going to stop talking. You're
going to stop talking. This is going to make it so it's less awkward. A lot of guys are really
awkward about it because they're not finding that little silence. Finding that time where you're not
speaking. Of course, there's some exceptions. Maybe she's talkative, talkative, talkative,
and then you can just say "stop for one second"... and then you pause. You go stop for one second...
and then you go in for the kiss. However, most times, you can just stop talking and they'll
stop talking... there'll be about two seconds of silence and then boom, that's when you go for it.
Right there right then. Then it's less awkward and then you know that this is the appropriate time
to do it. I have another way of doing this, of initiating a kiss. It's called Tripp's Tension
Technique. It's a way of building tension and then going for the kiss. It's worked for a lot of guys.
And it's a free video so I'll leave a link down below in the description. I've talked about it
many times before. It's awesome. It's going to show you a live demonstration with me and another
girl. This is going to be another way that you'll be able to initiate the kiss. Here's how you can
practice this. I know this is gonna sound a little crazy, but just hear me out here. Anytime you're
talking to somebody, create a silence. If you're talking to someone who is a friend of yours,
you're not going to go for a kiss. But practice just shutting up for a second and getting into
silence mode. It's going to be hard to practice this unless you're getting a lot of dates. That's
why I'm saying to you practice this when you are talking to a friend or family member, whatever.
Just stop talking and then they stop talking and then create a silence just for a couple of seconds
and feel comfortable in that dead space. And then. you can continue your conversation from there.
This is going to be great practice so you'll be boom, ready to do this when you go on a date with
a woman, when you meet up with her for the first time or when you do some sort of cold approach and
you meet her in a bar or wherever. You can totally do this. It works like a charm. That's going to be
the way to practice it. Get Tripp's Tension Technique. It is free. It's a free video. It's
going to show you a live demo of how to initiate the kiss. It helps tremendously. If you liked this
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