so earlier I was asked about our
communities we we practice you know
course miracles but we actually have two
guidelines that in our spiritual
communities around the world and those
two guidelines are no people pleasing
and no private thoughts because they're
designed to encourage getting in touch
with unconscious patterns and thoughts
let letting them come to the surface and
instead of being afraid of them like our
Mel was saying believing that they're
true and stuffing them down back down
into the unconscious mind it's like let
them out you know just like them but if
you have a wound let it have sunlight
and air let the the dark thoughts come
up into awareness and hold the space
hold the love and the acceptance and let
people move through their emotions like
we do when we would go through grieving
that's really what a funeral i think is
about why is it funeral helpful it's a
backdrop for healing it's a time to cry
it's a time to let up those thoughts and
feelings that are very intense that have
been pushed down and you feel so much
better when you when you set with a dear
friend and pour down your heart you
poured out all your emotions and all
your thoughts and you feel like you're
unburdened like somehow you got to have
the burden taken away we practice that
on the daily basis with lunch times and
so forth and we use because it works
it's it's fantastic
his general expression six-person
sessions it's really the the purpose and
the intention behind it really makes it
work so it's like it's not a venting
sessions these are not projection
sessions this is not blame sessions what
it is is once you start to see the value
on the allowance and the permission of
letting things up instead of stuffing
them down and we're pressing them you
can start to see the great value of this
and really everyone it's it's really
good to cultivate that for everyone so
there's a sense of spacious non-judgment
just like if you had a dear friend
someone who you loved and they loved you
and you can speak your mind and you knew
they would wink at you where they go
he'd give you a hug you no matter what
she said really you know because you see
how freeing that is and you can with a
dear friend that's kind of an example of
a like a mini expression session someone
who's deeply trusted and loved that you
could confide in safely and have them
not take the error real because they
love you so dearly that's what we're
actually having that happen now in
groups larger groups I was actually
doing it in China you know with large
groups of people and people were wailing
and screaming and letting up all kinds
of emotions and then crying bursting
into tears one woman came up i was doing
more like gangaji the hot seat you know
I I couldn't I couldn't go around and be
with all whatever hundred people so i
would say have somebody come up and they
would bring them up and i would be there
i would just be looking in their eyes
with all the love and my heart and
you're perfect you're just who you're so
you're a wonderful child of God and then
they would emote or whatever that they
had been repressing sometimes they
shouted at me I mean one woman just
screamed at me for like five minutes
just raged and raise your age and then
she
she just burst into tears and then at
the end of that her face lit up it was
just like it was just very quick like a
thunderstorm we went through that she
was just like and she then she invited
me to her town to do a gathering and you
know who went from the screamer coming
be with me you know but and you know we
know that how that is a relationships
you know when you have a friction and
somebody's got a lot of intensity and
friction there if you could just hold
them or love them then the storm goes
through and they're so grateful they're
like thank you oh my gosh thank you this
is the greatest thing they feel an
immediate healing so with these
expression sessions it's always
important to have the purpose of the
intention right out front that you're
not really doing this to point the
finger at anybody to blame a lot of
times when you're in that presence of
truly I want to heal you'll use more I
statements I feel I feel I feel not you
bastard you backstabber you know if it's
coming out with a lot of new statements
well the ego can get drawn in really
quick me and we also have no cross
talking so we've we've done these
sessions where we'll do a session and
somebody will just start to let the
emotions up and they'll start to you'll
be shaking and they'll just start to let
it out and we've got you know a
psychiatrist in the group or someone
who's going to say an advice giver it's
just as they're trembling and Shay say
the first few words now this is what you
really need to do here what I would
recommend if they're like you know they
just they're just ready to let emotion
come to the surface and I was on Wham
you know the knife comes in with the
advice so when crosstalking now advise
getting no teaching you get a whole
group and their Course in Miracles
students and somebody starts to just get
in touch with their emotions and their
trembling and it's like now you know
what the course says on page 52 you know
anila you know because they're just
getting in touch with their emotions I
just want to let it up and out and they
don't need to hear that quote at that
time so it's a spaciousness it's like a
soft spaciousness to allow it up and out
where everybody is in agreement we're
going to hold the love almost like we're
going to hold the space and let
everybody who ever needs to speak speak
and I just have watched in our
communities over the years how healing
it is it's like an accelerated healing
process one time at the monastery there
was a couple that came and they brought
their own laptop and everything and we
were working on we were working on some
project and whatever and you know how
these browsers are you can set them so
if you type a few letters in on the
browser if it's the page you've been to
before it will just fill it in you know
it just remembers it goes into the
history in the memory of it well well
the woman in the couple was in there
working on a project the monastery she
was typing in you know the thing in the
browser and what came up was a porn site
I don't know what you know and how this
browsers load real quickly I know and
before she could finish what I begin I
don't know what was on the site penises
breasts or something she's fine at a
monster just oh it was a shocking
Barrett's like she likes going to visit
mother Teresa oh yeah Jess what's a very
she was like oh so she was out so she
had all these emotions and she was just
she was so shocked and then she realized
it was it was their computer it was
computed at her husband which was that
was up it was and then really she
probably she looked at him and just was
like he was cool oh good from shock to
like rage like
so then I was in the monastery at the
desk and I was in there and talking to a
friend of mine and they came bursting in
the door and there was this wailing
wailing sound it was almost like you
know sometimes when somebody's died and
family mail well I mean they're talking
having a regular conversation about you
that's a vassal underneath it yeah and
so sorry way we go in and they both come
in there and the first thing I said to
my friend she said to me she said who
died I mean she it literally sounded
like the sound it makes when somebody
family post em whoever dies so they came
in and the wife was just really pouring
it out and then last one was sitting
high with a sheepish look kind of spaced
me you know okay it's a bomb was ignited
so this was like about eleven thirty in
the morning and then but they came and
just it was a huge amount of the loading
for like 20 minutes and then like they
were back to their projects and then one
o'clock I decided to sit in on the
lunchtime expression session at the
Mount of so I went in there and I
sat down and the husband was talking
about the pornography and this all his
shame this is an example letting up all
his emotions of shame of guilt of
embarrassment of his thoughts and this
and this and this may be like 2015 20
people having lunch well he's sitting up
with this motion and then interestingly
enough it triggered emotion in like two
or three of other of the men who said
well now you've talked about my issue I
didn't know that it would come up in
this way but so they started talking
about their their attraction to
pornography the guilt and shame around
at it isn't is it became part of the
open healing flow of these repressed
emotions and thoughts were still
down there that really needed to come up
and this was just a backdrop to let all
this wonderful healing occur and you
could feel the energy of the whole room
he went on wasn't like an hour lunch it
went on for like an hour and have two
hours it was very very healing and then
afterwards two or three people came up
and said oh my god that's but that was
profound like I I was amazed you see how
practical there was no sense of trying
to guide the discussion there was no
sense to try to facilitate anything it
was the Holy Spirit is there is the
presence of love and they were able to
do that and then also recently when I
was in China a friend of mine who had a
lot of what he called sexual issues and
and inhibitions and so on so forth he
voluntarily came up in front of the
whole room and we just joined it turned
into a DVD on even though he brought it
along with us but it was like healing
the shame around sexuality where he just
emoted all of his shame these carrots
his childhood in a in a very deep way
his face was shaking and bright red and
you could see his whole body was just it
was like very traumatic to even let
these memories and these self-criticism
and judgments up and awareness and then
after he did that for some time maybe 35
45 minutes and the Holy Spirit gently
came from me in a very lightweight
talking about sexuality and bodies and
body positions and fluids and
appropriate fluids at appropriate times
and inappropriate times and all it was
just a very light humorous talk almost
like an angelic talk of the angelic
realm going you are taking this
sexuality thing way too serious and
you've got a lot of shame built up over
a lot of judgments and concepts and that
you're holding onto about yourself and
others what's what's appropriate what's
inappropriate it was very light and
playful almost like just relax you know
what you think you've done you have not
done this is part of your hallucination
in this world you you're innocent it
came to very light and innocent and his
face just lit up you know by the end he
was big grin ear the year and he was
slowing and then after that he he ended
up getting into a relationship and he's
still in a relationship you know there's
inhibitions just cracked and popped open
and then the spirit was like oh good now
we'll take take it to the next level of
we'll have you go into a relationship
where you can have beautiful mirroring
that goes on where you both help each
other free yourself from these
unconscious beliefs so so it just shows
you the power it's available there but I
think the most important thing is the
presence that you have to really let
this stuff come up with a willingness to
to truly heal and release and if the ego
gets in there and it tries to turn it
into a blame session projection you know
all those things and that the energy of
that two spins the whole thing off in
another way and that's why it takes a
while to really get into the vibe of
that for everyone to get into that vibe
for the maximal healing in your groups
of the person who holds spirit so to
speak do they express as well or not or
do you think that's not a good idea and
generally the ones holding the spirit of
space don't speak there there are
exceptions like people they seem to love
to have me in the expression sessions
remember how deep and dark it is and no
matter how dense and tight and kitchen
when I'm there you know the spirit just
kind of comes ripping through with with
inspiration and joy and everything like
that so occasionally when I bet it will
come through that way but in general if
you have a group of people most of them
are just learning to practice holding
the presence and watching their own
costs watching their own mind and
reactions really praying for the Holy
Spirit to use it for healing in their
mind and there's not a lot of words
other than the one that's letting the
emotions