Hello my wonderful friend!
Today's video is on what women really want.
This is based on my extensive training as a certified coach, my insights as a woman,
and my extensive research.
This is not based on hearsay and popular, untrue opinion.
I have an important secret at the end of this video if you are struggling to get the girl,
so be sure to watch to the end.
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My name is Melannie.
I'm a Christian dating coach from men.
My specialty is helping good guys get the girl of their dreams so be sure to subscribe
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If you saw this video which is How to Make a Girl Think About You All The Time then you
know I mentioned nice guys.
P.S.
If you haven't seen that video there's a link in the description.
Be sure to check it out.
Some awesome stuff over there.
But one of the things I mentioned is that girls like a good guys and they like a nice
guys.
Now, I am sure I do not have to tell you that a lot of people don't believe this, a lot
of people have been taught differently, and frankly have seen differently.
In high school it was often the jerks who got the girl, right?
And the media and movies and TV shows certainly portray the nice guy always getting left in
the friendzone, and many people have actually experienced this.
Don't worry, if that is you, you need to know the secret at the end of this video.
I have you covered, because there is a reason behind that.
However, the truth is girls really do like good guys and nice guys.
I'll be using good guys and nice guys interchangeably throughout the video, just so we're clear.
Story time.
Several years ago, long before I was a coach or knew even half of what I know now I started
to get to know a guy and he was cute and initially it was so much fun, you guys.
Butterflies and just we had really good chemistry and it was just really fun to get now him.
Initially.
As things started to progress and I started to get to know him better I started to realize
some things about him.
If he ever needed anything from me, oh my goodness I was there.
One hundred percent I was there for him.
If he was having a bad day or anything I wanted to be there for him.
I tend to be a giving type person, I want to make people feel good, and so I was always
there for him.
But if I ever needed anything from him it just didn't really happen unless he thought
he could get something out of it.
I remember one I am I asked him to help me out with something.
There was a certain project that I couldn't do on my own, I needed a man's help, I need
a little bit of strength, so I asked him to help me.
We set aside some time and about an hour before we were supposed to do that he called me and
said "Hey, I decided to go swimming, I'm not going to be able to help you out."
And that really hurt.
He also, as I started to get to know him better, I started to realize that we did not remotely
have the same standards and he would frequently try to convince me to relinquish my standards,
which I would not do, but when I wouldn't then he would be little me and try and make
me feel stupid and act like my standards didn't really matter anyway.
Long story short, guys, he was a bad boy.
I did not know it when I first met him but the truth is, guys, I know what it it is like
to get to know a bad boy.
And the truth is this was not the first one, there were several before I became aware of
how to spot it much sooner than I was.
Here's the important part.
I know that it is hard to change perspective when we have grown up thinking a certain way
and even seeing things pan out a certain way, but just for a second think about it from
the girl's perspective, just for a second.
Why in the world would she want a bad boy?
Why in the world would she want some one who doesn't treat her right?
Because at the end of the day, again, I speak from experience.
I have known a lot of boys who have not been nice guys and the the truth is they're selfish,
they're self centered, all they care about is what you can do for them.
I am sure you saw this portrayed and high school.
Well and other places as well.
This often happens at work and etc. etc.
Even in our adult years.
So what does he have to offer her?
A lifetime of misery?
[laughter] Why in the world would she want a bad boy?
News flash: she doesn't.
There was a large study done with ten thousand people across thirty three countries and six
continents.
They were asked what they wanted most in a potential partner.
And the number one thing that people said was money, right?
No, it wasn't money.
Well then it would good looks, right?
No, it wasn't good looks.
Well then it was prestige.
No actually, it wasn't.
It was kindness.
At the end of the day, that's what we want as humans.
When we are looking for a partner in life, what we want is kindness.
We want someone who's going to treat us with respect.
You want that in a spouse, right?
Well then why wouldn't she?
Now, with this being said, it is important to point out that some women do fall for bad
boys.
Some women do seek bad boys.
That is true, that is reality.
However, it's for one of three reasons.
One, like me, she doesn't he's bad boy when she starts getting to know him.
That's the important thing about bad boys and bad girls.
They know that they can't get their way if people know who they are up front, so they're
very flashy and flattering and attractive and fun, initially.
And then as people start to get to know them better, hopefully they're able to read the
signs and say "Uh-uh.
This isn't good, I'm done."
Or unfortunately they end up in a ban relationship.
The second reason some girls fall for for bad boys is frankly because they're bad girls.
Bad girls like bad boys, okay?
But do you really want a girl like that?
If you don't, then don't take it personally.
And number three is that she loves drama.
Now this is something that actually happens a lot with all kinds of women, including Christian
women.
They love the drama of "Oh he's a bad boy and he treats me terribly, but oh I'm here
for him."
Now I don't understand that guys, I really don't.
I think it's kind creepy.
But the truth is there a lot of women who love the drama fix.
And drama is actually as addicting as some of the most addicting drugs, that is an interesting
fact for you.
So there are certain women who enjoy that.
These are the types of women who enjoy stories like fifty shades of gray, okay?
There are just women like that, but again, do you really want a woman like that?
A woman like that is not going to help you create a healthy relationship, so honestly
I would avoid a woman like that at all costs.
So we're about to get to our very important secret that you need to know in order to start
attracting women as a nice guy and as a good guy, but before we get to that I want to hear
from you in the comments.
If anything in this video has been a surprise to you be sure to leave me a "WOW!" in the
comments below to let me know.
And as always if you have any suggestions for future videos let me know about that as
the well.
All right, I'm about to let you in on one of the biggest secrets of all time, the secret
behind why so many people think good guys can't win.
We have a huge misunderstanding about what a good guy and what a nice guy is.
When we hear nice guy or good guy, we kind of tend to think of a really bad pushover,
someone who gets walked on all the time, someone who's always stuck in the friendzone who can
never get out, someone who is always there for other people but who just gets pushed
around and nobody's there for them.
We think of the guy who never gets the girl.
And this is a sad reality for so many guys who are just nice.
However, there are nice guys, there are really, really good guys who do get the girl.
Tim Tebow is really good example of this.
Dude Perfect.
I don't know if you guys watch Dude Perfect here on YouTube.
They're one of the biggest channels on YouTube, and guys, they're good guys, and if you've
seen their wives you know that their wives are gorgeous and incredible.
Good guys get the girl all the time.
So what's the difference?
The difference is, some nice get pushed around and some guys do not.
This means that the problem is not being a nice guy or a good guy, the problem is knowing
how to stop being pushed around.
The truth is, you can be a good guy and not be pushed around, and you can be pushed around
and not be a good guy.
Therefore the problem is not in being a good guy, it's in being pushed around.
Not setting boundaries and not being able to stand up for yourself and be assertive.
Because the truth is, guys, I can tell you very, very confidently and strongly that being
pushed around and not having a backbone and not knowing your own mind and really not having
self respect, that is not attractive.
That will not be attractive to anyone.
This is one of the reasons it is so important to learn how to create confidence and how
to set boundaries and how to create a healthy self respect.
This is why it is important to learn how to pursue, how to stay out of the friendzone,
how to present yourself with confidence.
That is how you become the good guy who gets the girl, instead of the nice guy and the
good day who nobody notices because he's always pushed around.
We have to respect ourselves before we can expect someone to respect us.
Now guys, these are all things I teach you extensively in How to Get a Girlfriend, my
online course.
This is how you become the really nice guy who attracts the types of women he wants like
a magnet, instead of the nice guy who never gets the girl.
And the truth is, you don't deserve to be that guy, you deserve to be the incredible
guy who gets the girl.
I have seen my methods work over and over, I know that they will work for you.
Be sure to check out the link in the description below to learn more about How to Get a Girlfriend.
How amazing would it be to finally be the nice guy whose got his dream girl?
Now one other thing I want to mention real fast, is another thing that can stop a lot
of guys from getting the girl who are just good guys, is that they're hanging out with
the wrong women.
This is why, guys, I teach you guys so much about toxic girlfriends and toxic women and
how to avoid them.
It's not all women who treat guys like that, it's just the toxic ones.
This is why it is so important to make sure you are attracting the right times of women
instead of toxic women.
Again, that is something I go over extensively in How to Get a Girlfriend so be sure to check
that out.
Thank you so much for watching my wonderful friend.
I hope this helps you see how girls actually do like good guys, because the truth is, why
wouldn't they?
Good guys have the traits that women are looking for.
If you have been struggling to attract a woman despite being a good guy, well then there
are just some additional skills you need to learn.
And the good news is you can totally learn them and they're so much easier than most
people think once you know what they actually are.
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Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day.