jealousy a fundamental emotional trait we all feel from time to time but in the 21st
century this trait has been enhanced by the toxic digital world that we live in our personal social
media pages have now become the cv for our own life experiences and seeing as the majority of
people's pages are open to the public we get lost in this realm of comparing our lives to others
scrolling through our news feeds and looking at other people's highlight reels wishing our lives
were like theirs now this might sound depressing but it happens and you're not alone i can't tell
you the amount of times i had to stop myself from doing this growing up i'd be scrolling through the
news feed watching other people's stories the new houses they've bought the holidays
they're going on the new lifestyle changes and it's simply not healthy but i can tell you for
a fact that watching their lives or i should say their highlight reel or their good moments because
let's be honest people only shared the good on social media no one's sharing all the negative
stuff that happens in their life the struggles that they face on a daily basis they only want to
show people the absolute best now doing this on a daily basis is not going to get you any closer to
the destination you want to reach financially it's all a waste of time but i know how you
feel after seeing content from your favorite creators there i even say it me you put your
phone down and you reflect and although this sometimes might kickstart some motivation to
work harder or make more money more often than not you're left with these feelings of jealousy
and envy and an overarching feeling that you're just not living your life to its full potential
so in today's video i'm going to share with you a number of tips to help you both stop
feeling financially behind and actually being financially behind but firstly let's dive into why
generally speaking the poor stay poor sadly a lot of people around the world are born into poverty
or even grow up in third world countries and that isn't necessarily what i'm going to be covering
today i want to be very careful about what i say because i do not intend to offend anyone in
this video today so i want to make it clear i'm talking about why the working or middle classes
in western society stay poor and very rarely make it to the top one percent of wealthiest
people on the planet in my personal opinion it falls down to two main factors and the first
is poor money management or what i call the debt trap naturally as human beings we have the desire
to have more and to be more and for many the way to express this is through material objects and so
many people live way outside their means they buy expensive cars on finance so they can't actually
afford they'll buy clothes at the weekend on a credit card and have to pay it off over months
on months almost every significant purchase is put on the tick and they just surround themselves
with a bunch of stuff they want but don't actually need they're simply running before they can walk
and in doing this they'll always stay poor because they're fighting an uphill battle because they're
cash negative instead of cash positive now if this sounds like you then write a list of all
your debts and establish how many of those things are actually essential then work to pay them off
and next time you think about financing something that you don't actually need then think about your
future instead the second thing in my opinion is bad habits and poor time management the majority
of people just don't use their time well it's easier at the end of the day to sit in front of
the tv or scroll through your social media pages it's not easy to say no to going out with friends
and instead spending that time educating yourself and if that sounds like you next time you think
about putting netflix on head over to youtube instead and watch some educational content on a
side hustle that interests you instead maybe even head over to my second channel jordanpad and extra
put a link in the description and learn about the business model that made me a millionaire before
the age of 25 social media marketing anyway those are some of the basic things you can do
to avoid falling into the poor stay poor cycle but what about if you feel financially behind
right now what does financially behind even mean well it's all about perspective and in life we set
goals and standards of where we want to be at certain points within our lives at certain ages
i mean i remember conversations throughout my life telling people exactly who i wanted to be in the
things that i wanted to achieve then i would tell my friends that i wanted to make 100k a
year by the age of 21. and we set all these goals and standards for ourselves that we pluck out of
nowhere and then within our subconscious we hold our sense of self-worth to those standards we set
previously now because of this at 21 years old i felt an immense amount of pressure and sadness
because not only was i not making 100k a year but i was also in 5 000 pounds worth of debt now
looking back that drove me so much and it's one of the main reasons i am where i am today but that's
not to say it was this straight and easy path to making my first million especially when it comes
to my relationship with money and how much work i associate to it it's not until i went through
this cycle of financial comparison a multitude of times that i realized that there will always
be someone richer out there there will always be someone for you to compare yourself to and money
has no true correlation to meaningful happiness and so if happiness is your goal and it should
be then you need to stop financial comparison altogether because if anything it's just going
to keep you poor so how do we stop comparing ourselves well the first step is understanding
your triggers and avoiding them if you recognize that scrolling through instagram triggers you then
limit your usage and i know this is easier said than done but what i mean by this in a micro level
is when you go onto instagram and you see a certain person on there that triggers you
unfollow them don't absorb their content if you're following someone that fundamentally doesn't bring
happiness into your life then what are you doing for motivation or for inspiration that's bs if
it's having a negative impact on your motivation and the way that you feel about yourself because
you yourself need to be successful if you want your business to be successful then just unfollow
that person it has no positive impact on your life so don't waste your time doing it when i
first started my business i read a book called the miracle morning by hal elrod i cannot count
the amount of times that i've mentioned it on this youtube channel but one of the things in the
morning routine that hal teaches inside that book is gratitude and practicing gratitude every day
every morning writing at least five things that you are grateful for within your life and when
we practice gratitude and we make it part of our daily routine we surge yourself with positivity
and negative things like comparison to others just become irrelevant and at the end of the day
the only person we should be comparing ourselves is us compete against yourself on a daily basis
strive to become a better version of yourself every single day even by just one percent your
efforts should focus on growing from within being kinder more resilient working harder
and being more open instead of whether or not we're making more money than someone else
and remember colonel sanders didn't launch kfc until he was 65. apple didn't truly have its
blow up success until the iphone launched when steve jobs was 52 and the average age globally
for a startup founder is 40. so you've got plenty of time yet so give yourself a break and focus