Welcome back to TLC Thursday where a weekly video can make your life a little
easier. I'm Christal Fuentes, Founder of The Ladies Coach, and also your host and
coach for today.
In this video we are going to talk a bit about confidence. Actually I'm going to
get in the truth of truths about it, because in some way shape or form
I get asked about how we're able to exude more confidence in our day-to-day
lives. If you follow me on Snapchat, you'd probably heard me do a rant about
this very subject but I felt it was important for me to go a little deeper.
Before we go a little further, I want us to recognize the differences between
confidence and cockiness. Intellectually we know that they are very different, but
for some reason most of my ladies think that if they are confident then they
will be perceived as cocky, so let's nip this in the bud
first. Confidence is a love based emotion and stems from not only self-love but
also trust... More on that in a bit. Cockiness is a fear-based emotion that
stems from fear that you aren't enough. WHAT? Yep crazy, especially when you see
cocky people you think they love themselves a bit too much right? But that
couldn't be further from the truth. It is actually a behavior compensating
for the lack of love within. So now that we cleared that up, let's talk a little
bit more about this trust thing and, why beyond self-love it's one of the most
important keys to becoming confident. Trust: The firm belief in reliability,
truth, ability, or strength of something or someone. Forget trusting everyone else
for now at least. We need to start with having a firm belief in ourself. WHY?
Because if we don't trust ourself, it will be easy to be influenced by others
and easy to not live our truth which will always keep us seeking and
uncertain of our decisions. Not to mention puts other people in the
driver's seat of our life. Hello how are you? Hey. How's your day?
Fine. It's really nice outside. Okay. So we're gonna make a left down happiness
lane um it's actually... You're gonna have to oh you had to make it left. Going to
Sadness Street. Oh okay, I think happiness was actually back that way.
Turning onto Self Loathing lane I don't think this is where I wanna go okay. Okay, coming into
Jealousy Avenue. Could you make a u-turn here, right here, if you want to make a
right. Did you say Depression Street? No no no, Happiness Lane. Oh yeah, you make a
left right here, and then no no no, you are supposed to make a left.
Yeah that's not gonna happen. Okay here we are
Disappointment Parkway just like you asked. Um no that's actually. You can get out there you go, let me get that for you.
Thanks see you next time.
So here is your WTSD for today:
True confidence comes from the ability to trust that who you are matters. What
you say, what you do, and what you give is completely unique and necessary. Isn't
that beautiful? Yes it is, but that's not even the most powerful part. The most
powerful part comes with the ability to not dwell on past mistakes. Yes
a confident woman is not afraid to make mistakes because she knows that mistakes
are an important part of the journey. So often I see some of my ladies scared
shitless of making mistakes, that they question everything. Trust me, I've
been there especially starting The Ladies Coach. I
would question every bit of what I did, because I would often compare myself to
others and how they did their business their life relationships and so on. But
what I realized was the more I compared myself, the more I was afraid to fail, and
the more I feared failure the more uncertain I would become about who I was
and what I was meant to do. Susan Sarandon said a beautiful quote
that I will always remember. She said "In a way I'm here because all my plans
failed." Spoken by a true confident woman right? Mistakes and failures build who
you are, and as long as you don't dwell on them, they allow your spirit to grow
and adapt making you smarter and wiser in the process. And the only way we can
become smarter and wiser, is being able to trust that we have all we need within
us to do the best we can. Now if you know me well, you know I'm a little obsessed
with Beyonce. I think we can unanimously agree that she is a confident woman,
especially when she's on stage.
Well why is that that? That is because she trusts in herself enough to
know that how she sings it, how she dances, and how she portrays her art and
message is exactly the way it needs to come out. And if she didn't trust in
herself enough, I don't think she'd be the queen bee we all know and love. Did
you hear me? I said Queen. Every single one of you
ladies has a queen in you, but a lot of times you choose not to listen to her.
So I ask you starting today, listen to the Queen inside of you. I promise you
that you can trust she will make the best decisions for your life, because a
queen is competent and full of love. Your queen knows your value and worth in the
world, and will never let you settle, just trust in her after all
confidence is all about trust and a queen is all about confidence. Okay my
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