hey guys it's Hillary you're certified Enneagram coach welcome back to my channel
in here enneagram and coaching and today I have a special trick for you because we are gonna go
over the pet peeves of each Enneagram type have you ever wondered why certain people get annoyed
or triggered or angry about certain things but they don't even bother you at all well I have
a feeling it's because each type have different pet peeves that affect them and if you're like
me a couple of your own pet peeves just came right to your mind you're like yeah I can think of some
pet peeves that I might have so we all have unique fears and desires and struggles but what makes us
each like just fume like get under our skin well that's what I'm gonna cover today a brief teaching
on the pet peeves of each type now I do want to say you might feel like you relate to more than
just one type and I don't want this to confuse you and you think wait am i a type 1 because I
related more to the tech 5 that's not what this is for this is just for you to help understand
yourself a little better and then also understand the people in your life this by no means will type
you because typing depends on your core fears and core desires and that's not what pet peeves
are so now that I got that covered let's dive in ok so here are some of the puppies of each type
type 1 the perfectionist laziness people not doing their own part people not saying please
or thank you rule breakers people chewing with their mouths open stuff like that is that kind
of stuff just kind of gets right on their nerves and I know I have a few type ones in my life and
when I asked him this question they completely agree and we're like yes those things trigger me
so what do you think if you're a type 1 did this trigger you let me know in the comments below and
actually as I go through all of the types just let me know in the comment and most out to you
ok so moving on to the type 2 the helper when I asked my friends one of the biggest words that
came up was selfishness they cannot stand others being selfish other things that came up were when
people put their own self-interest above others being taken advantage of not only that just being
taken but their generosity being taken advantage of because you know they do have that helper title
and they love to help but they do not want to be taken advantage of and so those were some
of the things that came up as I was asking around about the pet peeves of ado alright so moving on
to the type three big word for them was passive aggressiveness they do not like people that are
passive aggressive they really need people to be more direct with them and just tell them how it
is and so that was a big one for them also they cannot stand when they are going after a goal and
it gets blocked I mean they are just like in the zone going getting things done I mean they're the
achiever right and so when their goals get blocked it literally drives them crazy and
then another one that came up was they do not like their time wasted and so they don't mind giving it
away but they do not want it wasted they are super efficient when healthy and so those are the things
that were like the biggest pet peeves that came up ok so moving on to the type for the romantic
individualist a big word that came up as I was doing my research was the word shallowness they do
not that that is just such a pet peeve with them there they want genuineness they want authentic
Ness they do not want fake or shallowness from other people and it just really bothers them
and another thing is when they're talking they do not want to talk about the weather they want to go
deep they want to talk about meaningful things and so the shell of this there drives them crazy it is
a huge pet peeve and the last thing they said was they don't like being labeled dramatic so which I
could totally understand why that could bother a type 4 because they're not dramatic literally
they just have the deepest feelings and and and so those can get mislabeled sometimes ok so moving on
to the type 5 the investigator one big one now this one was super easy for me to do research
on because my son is a type 5 and his biggest pet peeve is when I tell him hey tonight we have to go
to so-and-so's house and do this or or tonight we're doing this or tomorrow we're going to do
this thing so what bothers him is these social engagements that he has to do but he wasn't made
aware of until the last minute I have learned not to just spring things on him it drives him crazy
it's a huge pet peeve and it makes me angry and another thing that came up was being pressured
to make decisions fast remember guys there are investigators they need a lot of time to
investigate all the possibilities and so when we go up you know when we're talking to a5 or like
hey what do you want this this or this and and we're like and I need to know and like you know I
need to know yesterday super pet peeve like drives them crazy even of going back to story about my
son he just bought it we just got him a car and I will say he probably researched it for over a
year before he made his decision and so he knew you know the guidelines that we set and that he
had to be in but it took him a long time to make that decision because again there investigators
they want to research research everything and so that would have been super hard if I was like hey
you know we're gonna buy you a car today what car do you want I can't even imagine what he
probably just would have shut down so know that can that would not have went well ok so the type
6 the Loyalists a big one for them was wishy-washy people even flaky people those are hard for them
um they need to be able to trust others and they also cannot stand it when speed is prioritized
over careful planning super big pet peeve they don't want to have to move fast they want to
be able to look at all the plan a plan B Plan C and make an educated decision and they want to
be valued for who they are and for what they say in their words and so that when they're not valued
they can pick up on that right away and it's a big big trigger for them alright so moving on to the
type 7 that enthusiasts now I have seen this time and time again when I go and teach the Enneagram
I pretty much can pick up pick up the sevens of the room sometimes because they cannot stand it
when meetings drag on and on like that is such a huge trigger for them and because why because
boredom that is another trigger they don't want to be bored they don't like rub and another one
for them is when you know maybe they're working or doing a project but people don't understand like
they're hard workers but they also have a need for fun and they you know it's a pet peeve if you
can't have fun while working all right so moving on type 8 the Challenger some of their pet peeves
slow drivers um bad drivers I know my husband's a type eight and when he's in the car he is super
aware of anybody making any mistakes at any time he's like oh and it drives him crazy it triggers
them but I don't know about you if you're type eight let me know in the comments below he will
not use his horn I am a type nine and I use my horn which is weird that I do but he won't he'll
yell he'll get angry and yell and I'm like wait that's not doing anything they can't hear you so
now you know how fights start with us but anyways the bad driving that really triggers them being
micromanaged that's super hard for an eight and then also being thought of as controlling because
a lot of times they're like no we just know maybe the best plan ahead and they want that
to be respected and not be thought of as trying to control everything because that's not their intent
they're not trying to control but a lot of times you know they just maybe think that oh wait but
I do know the best way to do it so they just you know don't like the word controlling all the time
they already have to deal with the word you know Challenger and so I can see why they're like come
on pick a different word but okay so we are at the last one the type Dyne the peacemaker mine so
if I just asked myself what are my pet peeves but then I did do research too and a big one for me is
being talked over if I'm in a conversation I'm not gonna talk a lot anyways and when I do if somebody
talks over me I immediately shut down and I don't say anything else and then it it really makes me
angry if they don't even notice if they're okay with me not saying anything else and I realized
you never valued my opinion and that is a huge trigger for me another one is when I'm talking
to somebody another I'm talking to somebody but when I could tell they're listening to answer
and they're not actually listening to me so we we just we want to be sent two it's a pet peeve
of ours you know if we're gonna make the effort to talk and to be a part of the conversation and
which is always already daunting for us sometimes if the person is just listening so that they can
share their own story it's a big pet peeve huge sugar for me and the last thing I would say is
being taken for granted you know I am a peacemaker you know I can come across super easygoing and I
am super easygoing but don't take advantage of that that hurts it hurts my feelings and I hurt
I can imagine if you're type 9 out there what do you think doesn't it hurts our feelings to
be taken advantage of because we want to be able to be kind and loving and peaceful and easygoing
but not be taken advantage of ok guys so that's all I have those are the pet peeves it was just a
super easy um you know a few few things for each type because you know I don't want this to be
an hour-long video let me know what are your pet peeves did these um did you resonate with these or
you know whatever if it made you laugh or whatever leave it in the comments below I'd love to see
what you thought and if you relate it at all and if you have others that you thought of put them
in the comments below so we can help each other I think that would be great ok guys don't forget
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that I laugh so weird I hate all the editing I have to do because of my inefficient Ness
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