Buzzfeed Presents: How do guys flirt?
- I have no idea what I'm doing.
- I think I'm pretty good at flirting.
- If you're a cute girl, we are just so
thankful a cute girl is spending time with us.
- Everybody flirts differently,
which is why it's hard to know when people are flirting.
- I need that moment where her friend says,
"Oh, she likes you."
A Stanford University study found that computers were
more successful at detecting flirting than humans.
- Eye contact is like the primal flirt.
That's like the...
You look down the barrel,
and someone's like, "I feel you".
- It's such a powerful, intimate thing
to make prolonged eye contact with someone.
- Make the eye contact, but then you're like,
"Oh, look at that chandelier.
"Hmm, what's going on over here?
"They look like they're having fun.
"Oh, hi you."
- I try to get a little hand contact of some kind.
You know, because then it's like you're
introducing yourself as sexual partner?
- It's hard as a guy.
You don't wanna come off as too pushy or touchy or feely.
- I feel like you're not allowed to touch somebody,
pretty much ever, because you don't know them yet.
- It's such a weird difference between how you talk to
someone you might be interested in
versus how you talk to your buddies.
- Kinda lower your voice a little bit,
so she could pay attention.
- When you talk to a girl you gotta kind of like
drop your voice so you sound tough.
When most people are like, "Hey!"
But with girls you gotta be like this.
A study by JDate and Christian Mingle found that
men more than women believe cell phones
make it easier to flirt.
- If you just text from the heart,
you should be able to text straight to her heart.
- Not dick pics, I'm not going there.
You can leave your dick out of this, guys.
- You don't wanna make it so
unthought-out that you just say something like,
"You up?" or, "Sup, girl?"
- The three little cloud dots come up
and then they go away for a couple seconds,
and you're like, "Oh my God, what happened?"
And then they come back, and you're like "Ah!"
- My favorite flirty emoji...
- You can give like a nice,
"Yeah" but this is also a little bit suggestive.
- Sometimes the heart eyes guy is pretty nice.
- Guitar, saxophone, guy surfing.
To me, this is just like, "Hey, he's a fun guy."
- I'll do like a winking frowny face.
"Hey girl, what you doin' tonight?"
It will get a response of, "What does this mean?"
- If someone could explain to me
how you flirt on Tinder, I would love to know.
- I'm picky choosy when I'm sober,
but when it's Saturday night and I've had a couple shots
I'm just everyone, match, match, match, match.
- There's some element of speed, cause you're
flippin' though people like they're playing cards.
And then you're like, "This one!"
And then it matches and you're like, "Ahh!"
And you like word vomit out something quick.
Last thoughts
- Flirtation and attraction is more of an accumulation
of experiences and not like a video game
where you beat the level, then get to the next level.
- You just have to get out there,
and fail a couple times.
- Flirting is a fun thing you get to do.
And if you keep doing it with somebody,
then they might actually make out with you.
And that's the best.
Music: Voice of Spring. Warner / Chappell Production Music
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