- Five unique habits that make successful women
irresistible to men.
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Hello, my name is Greta Bereisaite.
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So my ladies, without further ado
before I start both five unique habits,
let me be a bit cheeky and replace the title that,
don't do these five things as a successful woman.
And that is how you will become irresistible to men.
So the first thing that as a successful woman
you should not do is, don't take the lead.
And this is where a lot of successful women struggle.
Successful women that go up their career ladder
or we perhaps create their own business.
We struggle with not taking the lead
because in order to be successful,
you need to take the lead.
You need to make those first steps.
You need to chase, pursue your goals, et cetera.
You need to get into your masculine framework
in order to be successful.
So the problem happens when we carry this masculinity
as leaders into our relationships, into our dating.
What we do wrong there?
We take the lead.
So perhaps you want things to happen fast.
You want to go further in that relationship.
And you automatically think, oh, it's 21st century.
You know, feminism, et cetera, et cetera.
And you, as a successful woman, you start to seduce.
You start to ask guys out.
You start to follow up with them, confirm the dates,
perhaps even offer yourself too quickly,
thinking that by doing these things
you're gonna get pointers with a man.
Ladies, these are the first steps
to failure in a relationship rather than success.
And it comes to a relationship with a man
never apply the same strategies
as you are applying in your career in the business,
because in order to be successful in business,
we, as a woman,
we are bringing out our masculine side.
And every woman has a masculine side, of course,
but we are emphasizing on it.
You don't emphasize on masculinity with a man.
You emphasize on femininity.
Because you want to be a woman in a relationship.
You want to be treated as a lady.
Therefore, if you want to experience a relationship
where you are valued, appreciated, cherished,
and loved as a woman, you cannot bring masculinity in it.
You must bring in femininity in it.
Number two where I find successful women struggle
is we take matters into their own hands.
When things don't go to a plan
or we don't go as fast as we would like things to develop,
we start to take matters into their own hands.
Again, we start to take the lead.
So for example
perhaps you went on that first date or a second date
and now he has not called you, or he has called you
and he has texted you for a week or two
but he has not asked you out.
And you are getting impatient.
You are thinking, where is this going?
I need to clear the air.
I need to find out what is going on.
I cannot be in this uncertainty.
I don't feel good.
And you start to take matters into your own hands
and you start to call him to find out
where he's at in this relationship or what is going on.
What are his feelings for you?
Or perhaps you even call him or text him first
to ask him out, to see is he available for that date?
And by doing bad, you automatically dig yourself a hole
because again, you're not behaving feminine.
You're actually behaving masculine in this dating,
in this relationship.
The guy is getting too much safety.
He's getting too much security,
starts to feel like you have a pursuer,
like you are the one chasing him,
which actually does stroke his ego.
It makes him feel good.
He might start to walk around a bit like a peacock,
oh, look at me, all these beautiful successful women want me
and be asking me out.
But it's not gonna make him develop feelings for you.
Instead you'll just stay there for him as an ego stroke
rather than anything else.
Why?
Because you are not behaving feminine,
you're behaving masculine.
Not only that you're turning him off
you're actually bringing out the feminine in him,
which should be a turnoff for you too.
Number three, this I noticed as well
and it's the boundary setting.
So successful women have to set in boundaries in business.
Otherwise nothing will ever happen
and we will get walked all over, right?
So when we are dating a guy
and we feel like things are not going as fast
as we would like things to develop,
or we see a bit of flakiness
or we see that the guy's being a bit too cheeky
or maybe perhaps he made some kind of disrespectful comment
or let you down,
or maybe perhaps you're even assuming some bad things
in your own head based on your own insecurities
and you feel like you need to set in strong boundaries
that he would not be taking you for granted.
And what I find the way successful woman set in boundaries,
we go very aggressive.
Some of them give warnings.
Other ones use very strong, aggressive language
such as, the bottom line is.
Their voice tone gets higher, it gets deeper.
It gets more powerful.
It gets more direct.
It gets more strong.
Some women even start to scream and shout, et cetera.
It is where are a lot of ways
how you can set in boundaries with a man
without coming off aggressive, without coming of masculine.
There is tons of ways on how to set in boundaries
in a gentle, feminine way where he will not only
stop taking you for granted, but he will actually cherish,
adore you, and respect you more in return.
He'll actually be like, wow, this girl is so sweet.
She's so kind.
And she respects herself and she has so much value.
And a lot of times when you set in boundaries
in a feminine way, men just do it.
They actually don't even notice it
that you set in a boundary,
because the boundary is set in such a wise way.
And here as before, I would like to refer
to the quote from a Bible.
"Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove."
For majority of you, I would just say
just keep this in your mind at all times
whenever you want to hit him with that pan,
be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove.
And I promise you ladies, if you'll follow it this way
you will not only go further with him,
you will also increase his love for you.
And how to set in boundaries in a feminine way,
check out my video right here.
Number four way where successful women go wrong is
they split the bill on the date, they offer to split it.
I know you got money, I know you pay your bills,
and I know you take care of yourself.
But when you are going on a date with a guy
that's probably also quite successful,
let him take the bill, let him invest into you.
Let him be the gent so you can feel like lady.
Because ladies, if you set your standard of 50-50
from the first date, it will continue.
He'll be like great, this woman is beautiful,
she's successful, she splits the bill.
I don't need to do anything.
Therefore over time
you will probably end up continuing that pattern of 50-50
where you will not feel cherished,
you will not feel appreciated,
you will not feel adored and feminine.
You'll start to feel more
like his mate, like his buddy.
Like you guys are friends.
Which is fine enough if this is what you're looking for.
But if you are actually looking
for a relationship where a man loves a woman
and he treats her like one, then when the bill comes
I would highly recommend not to offer to split it.
And if he suggest to split it, well, you split it and pay.
But then there is no second date.
Number five where successful women go wrong
and turn guys off is when you are in a higher position
where you have contacts and you know people,
or perhaps you are smart, you are wise
and maybe you know some things that he doesn't.
Then you are on a date and you feel that you could
help him out in many ways or in couple ways
because of your contacts or because of your knowledge,
hold on.
Don't offer him those things straight away.
Unless he's your friend.
If, for example, he's your friend
and you genuinely want to help him out
that's another story.
Give and help.
And as GaryVee says, giving with expectation,
it's not giving, it's a manipulation, right?
So give and help, et cetera, if he is your friend
and if you just want to help him
and you're not expecting anything in return,
you just wanna help a guy out, right?
However, if you are actually on a date
and you guys are dating, I would hold on to all the offers
that I could potentially give to him.
Why is that?
Because ladies, we are in a place right now
where we as women, we work so hard.
And we really are trying to bring out the best in ourselves.
And we live in these kind of masculine positions.
And when we on a date
you don't want to make a guy feel feminine.
Like ladies, think about the past, right?
A man would go on a date, right?
He's powerful businessman.
Let's say you are a lady that's in college
or you are working somewhere and you go on a date.
And because he's a man,
he's a powerful businessman, et cetera,
he's got, let's say more money than you do.
So he starts to impress you.
He starts to help you out.
He goes out of his way to do things for her
to make her feel secure and show off
what an amazing provider partner, man, husband he is
or he could be, right?
So if you, as a powerful woman, take this role
you are behaving very masculine.
And you are automatically demasculating that guy.
Therefore, if you're in a powerful role
and you have suggestions for him, hold them back for a bit.
Let's see what he's got first.
Let's bring out the best in him first.
Let's see what he's got first.
Let him charm you, let him invest in, let him give.
Once he starts to give, once he starts to impress,
once he starts to pursue and you start to trust him
then you can help him here.
Then you can help him there.
Therefore, don't jump on a guy trying to impress him
with your achievements
and suggestions what he could do better.
Because as I said, you will demasculate him
and you will turn him off.
And then this doesn't work out.
He is gonna find a girl that's simple,
that admires him, et cetera, et cetera
so he can feel the masculine in the relationship.
Okay, so ladies
these are the five things that you should not do
as a successful woman.
And you will be very attractive to a man.
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