Now, things have changed a lot in the last 20 years.
There was once a day when a woman would
come of the age to find a suitable partner
and a man would then graciously court her,
and then before we know it, they're getting married,
they're having children, and they buy that beautiful
white picket fence.
Then, we went from the 20th century to the 21st century,
and things started to change.
The internet happened, men started to flake,
they started to download Tinder.
Women started to wait to get married
before they started to settle down.
The very fabric of how we interact
with one another completely changed,
and now you're probably sitting there at home wondering,
"How did this happen, and why don't men commit anymore?"
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name is Adam Little,
the founder of sexyconfidence.com where I help
the 21st century woman create a love life
that she absolutely freaking loves.
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So you're wondering why it is
that commitment feels like it's dying.
Well, ultimately, I've found based on my experience
and being a coach for you women
and having previously been a coach for men
on how to go out and meet you, you sexy single lady,
I've come up with three core reasons why I believe
the dating landscape has completely changed.
Number one is that there are so many perceived options
which is creating what is know as the paradox of choice.
The paradox of choice is a psychological theory
that basically means that when there are
too many options available, humans are terrible
at finally making a decision.
For example, let's say you wanted to start a business,
and you were gonna start selling jelly.
The worst thing that you could do
is come up with 12 different flavors of jelly,
because if someone comes to your jelly stand
and they see all 12 different flavors,
it's likely that they're not even going
to buy even if they love jelly,
and who the (bleep) doesn't love jelly?
It's because they wouldn't be able to make a choice,
and many times, the more options you have available to you,
the harder it is to finally decide.
So really, if you're starting a jelly business,
you'd really only want to have two
or three different options,
it makes it a lot easier to choose.
Now relate this to dating scene nowadays.
Everyone feels like they have so many different options.
They go on a date one night, then they go online,
they go to their apps, and they look
at all these other options.
At the end of the day, they may not even have
this many options, it's a perception that they have
all these other options available to them.
So, people are not committing like they used to be,
and the worst part is he probably doesn't have
that many options, he just thinks he has other options.
Just because a guy can swipe right on a girl
definitely doesn't mean she's gonna sleep with him,
but you already know that.
Number two, there's less societal pressure
to get married at a young age.
People just aren't getting married anymore at 22.
The median age 1950s was 22 years old to get married.
Now the median age for men is 28,
and I've even seen it in my own social group.
Look, I'm 32 and I'm not married yet,
and some of my friends, yeah some of them are married,
but some of them are not married.
But at the end of the day,
there's very little judgment either way.
If this were 50 years ago and Jessica and I
were dating for three years and I didn't
put a ring on that finger, I'd be in trouble.
(crying) Shame, shame.
Number three is that women are also less likely
to want commitment as well.
Now, you're here because you probably
want a committed relationship
because why would you be watching a video like this?
Or, at least, you're open to the idea of a relationship.
But times have changed, and men are finding
that women are also less interested in commitment.
It's pretty common now for a guy to go on a date
with a woman that they either met online
or at a bar or at a party, and the woman is like,
"Look, I'm not interested in anything serious right now,"
and we all assume that it's always the women
that want commitment and the guys that don't,
but really, times are changing and women
are also sending these vibes like,
"Look dude, slow it down."
And men are also getting frustrated,
especially the guys who do want a relationship,
because they're noticing that women are not necessarily
looking to just settle down.
So times are really changing in the 21st century
and if you're single or you're stuck in a casual fling
and you really want to learn how to be able
to get a man to miss you, want you, and commit to you,
then again, click on that link right there below.
We'll also put a link over here
so that you can join that free training,
it's a free training, and be able to learn the five steps
to getting commitment in this 21st century.
And on top of that, I'd love to hear from you
in the comments right there below.
What are some challenges that you've come across
in the 21st century dating scene?
Leave that comment right there below,
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