- When you detach your energy
and you don't care about the outcome
or you're not attached to the outcome
or what people think of you
and you don't need anything from them,
they will attach themselves to you.
And in this video, I'm gonna show you one
of the most powerful magnetic secrets I've learned,
how you can detach from outcome
to then have things attach and opportunities come to you.
And that's exactly what you're gonna learn,
how to do it and why it's an absolute game changer.
Now, the first thing to know about this process
is that attracting love, attracting new opportunities,
that is all about becoming and feeling
in a vibrational state to that which you want
or that which you desire.
Now, here's the thing about this.
Magnetic energy is energy that is non-needy.
Non-neediness is the key to magnetic energy.
Now, non-neediness, what that means
is that the person that is becoming magnetic
or that is being
the most unapologetic version of themselves,
they do not need someone else's validation.
They do not need someone else's approval.
They do not need someone else to be a certain way
for them to feel safe
and for them to give themselves permission
to be their most authentic selves.
Now, you could also say
that the degree to which someone is non-needy
is the degree to which someone has magnetic energy.
On the other side of that,
the degree to which someone has needy energy
is the degree to which someone will repel love
and repel people to them.
I've seen this work like clockwork in my life.
Literally, the more needy I am,
the more I want someone to like me,
and also, the more I change my own center of gravity,
that is something that also was not allowing
the person I was either in a relationship or dating
to feel safe.
I remember when I first started to become more
of the unapologetic version of me,
I started to express the real me.
I started to express what my true desires were.
And as I did that,
it had way more attraction than me being
like a people pleaser, nice guy version of myself.
I remember with an ex-girlfriend, for example,
I'd be like, we would,
she was vegan,
and I was like eating fish.
And I remember, this is like three or four years ago,
what happened was, I would always like be like,
"Okay, we're always going to the good vegan restaurants
no matter what," and I would always just cater
to whatever she wanted.
And I became aware that when I started becoming
my own masculine presence and I started to also become
like centered in my own body,
I started to ask myself,
"Okay, sometimes we can go to these good vegan places,
but sometimes I wanna go like where I wanna go."
And I would then be like excited to go somewhere
where maybe they also had vegan food,
but then what ended up happening
is I could tell that when I started leading
and I started saying, "I wanna go here.
I'm sure they have some great vegan food,
but I wanna go here because this is what I want,"
there was such a different level of attraction there
than before when I was like,
"Oh, are you sure you want this?
Or like how can I make you happy?
I just wanna do what you wanna do."
It was such a different energy.
But basically what I did is,
I detached from needing to please this person,
and I started to detach from that
and all the sudden, the energy completely shifted.
Now, one of the reasons being is because,
one of the most common forms of attachment that I see,
especially in the spiritual community,
people that are empathic,
that can feel other people's energy,
is a people pleasing mentality,
of wanting to please someone else.
Now, understand this about pleasing.
Pleasing is a manipulative energy.
It's manipulation.
It's saying, "I'm going to please you
so that I get from you validation.
I get from you the approval.
I get from you love."
It's an exchange.
And the thing is, is a lotta times what happens is,
the people pleasing is a echoed energy from childhood
of parent pleasing.
It's from having a sense of self-worth that says,
"I'm not good enough the way that I am,
so if I can please someone else,
then maybe I'll be enough.
Maybe I'll get their validation, their love,
or their support."
So, detaching from needing to please
is one of the most magnetic things you can do.
And one of the most attractive, it's so counterintuitive,
because the more you let go
is the more that you will find
that that attractive energy is there.
Now, why is that?
Because when you let go of caring what other people think,
when you let go of trying to get your own needs met
through someone else,
that is energetically very energy giving.
When you don't need someone else's approval,
validation, or them to meet your needs,
it's coming from a full cup.
It's coming from an energy that says,
"I'm good the way that I am."
And what ends up happening is that energy's emitted out
and other people can feel it.
Remember, people in your life are reflecting the energy
back to you that you are emanating out.
And if you're emanating out a belief that says,
"I need something from you,"
they feel that and they will literally be repelled by it.
When I used to sell women's shoes,
I could clearly see that if I went into work
and my goal is to sell shoes,
and I need customers in order to make money
'cause I wanna make my day,
they would feel that.
And it would repel them.
But when I went in and I was more so in the moment,
think about this too,
the magnetic energy of non-neediness
and being detached means this core thing right here
that I think'll change your life if you absorb this.
When you are manipulative or trying to get other people
to please them, to get something from them,
you are doing things that are a means to an end.
I'm going to do this to get this.
I'm going to please you to get your love,
validation, and support
and attract love or whatever.
I'm gonna do this for that.
On the other side of that,
it is this to get that.
If I was making this video
because it has to get a lot of views
and I need everyone to like this video right now,
and you felt that,
you'd be like, "Ooh, that's needy energy."
And those videos also generally just tend not to do well.
But when I'm making a video where I'm really in present
to the moment and I'm passionate
about what I'm talking about, people feel that,
because I'm in the moment.
So when you detach from outcome,
it means you're detaching from needing them
to respond to you in a certain way.
You're detaching from a means to an end,
and you're more so focusing on the end of itself.
Now, what this means is,
if you go out on a date with someone
and you find yourself attached to outcome,
it's because you want something from them.
It's because you are trying to get their validation,
approval, love, your needs met, whatever.
And they feel that.
The key is actually to show up with present energy.
One of the most magnetic things
and the magnetic energies you can have
is present-moment energy,
is being present to the moment with no attachment
to the outcome.
And to be present to the moment means
you're doing and you are a certain way
because it's who you choose to be in this moment.
If I made a video to get views, it doesn't normally do well.
If I make a video because I'm passionate
about making videos and I wanna talk
about a certain concept, those are the videos that do well.
If I was going on a date because it's like,
I have a girlfriend, but if I was to go on date
and be like, "Okay, I'm gonna go on this date
and I'm gonna get from them like their number,
approval, they're gonna wanna hang out with me again,"
that's manipulative energy.
That's attachment to the outcome.
Then, they feel that.
"Like what does this person want from me?
Why are they being a certain way?"
And a lotta times,
people will then move their center of gravity.
And instead, if you go on the date
'cause you wanna have fun,
if you wanna go on the date because you wanna connect,
that's a present-moment thing.
If you wanna go on the date to get to know someone,
that's a present-moment thing.
That's in the present moment.
That's not to get somewhere else.
It's a very different energy.
I know this as well whenever I make like a,
like I have like these 21-day challenges I do,
I have this membership that I'm creating right now
that'll be out soon, if not it might already be out
by the time this video goes out.
But I have to make a sales video for it.
And the sales videos just means like,
"Hey, this is what the membership's all about.
And like we're gonna be doing weekly accountability calls,
weekly coaching calls, we're doing all this cool stuff.
There's a tribe of people that are like-minded."
Now, if when I made this video,
I was really attached to the outcome
and I was trying to get something out of you,
I want you to buy this freakin' course,
I want you to buy this thing,
you're gonna feel that.
You're gonna feel an attachment to that.
But instead, if I'm expressing the value I think it has,
but also inviting you in on to join,
that's a very different energy.
You'll be like, "Oh, there's no needy energy here.
Like I wanna be a part of this thing."
And that's how energy works.
Energy follows value.
And you being the most authentic version of you
is the most, is you adding value.
It's you adding value and it's a present-moment thing.
It's not adding value because then I'm gonna get this thing.
It's adding value because it's who you are.
You being the most unapologetic version of you
is the most valuable thing.
Now, the other aspect that I wanna talk about today
is understanding being in your own frame,
being present inside of your body,
which as we are talking about,
is the most magnetic energy you can embody.
But being in your own frame means you are leading
in your life.
Leading in your life in the sense that you have a vision,
and if you don't know what that vision is, that's okay,
but you're moving towards like,
you are being the most authentic
magnetic version of yourself.
And what this means is,
like in my own life, what I would do is I had a tendency
as the people pleaser nice guy that I had to shed
like two years ago, three years ago,
is I had to start tuning instead to the other person,
I had to tune and realize,
how am I showing up in my life?
Am I passionate about what I'm doing?
Am I, do I have my own vision for life,
and am I being this authentic version of me
and then letting other people join that,
but me not tuning to them?
So being in your own frame means,
what is your frame of reality?
What is your frame of presence?
What is important to you?
Frame is also included into what is important to you.
Because whoever you wanna attract into your life,
if you're tuning to them,
you're losing and abandoning yourself.
And this is really what this is about.
Because what we do is we attach ourselves to other people
because we're trying to get our needs met,
and we're hoping they can meet our needs
because we most likely felt a detachment from childhood.
We call that abandonment.
And when our parents detached from us,
they were either emotionally or physically unavailable,
guess what happened?
We decided there's something wrong with me.
I must be different in order to get my needs met.
Maybe if I could make everyone happy,
then I would be good enough.
And the thing with this
is that we then lose our center of gravity,
we're not in our own frame, we don't know who we are,
we're tuning to everybody else, and we're like,
"Who the hell am I?"
It's hard to set boundaries.
Why?
Because we've already abandoned ourselves.
So the key to not abandoning ourselves any longer
is to actually make the choice to be in our body,
to be leading in our life,
to be in our own frame,
to ask ourselves different questions.
If you will go on a date with someone and you're thinking,
"Do they like me?
I hope they like me.
Do they or are they interested in me?
How can I be a little bit more like attractive to them?"
You are tuning to them, tuning to them, tuning to them,
and changing your own sense of authenticity
to try to make someone, to please someone.
If you go on a date and you ask yourself the question,
"Do I have anything in common with this person?"
If you're curious about their energy,
"I wonder if we resonate with each other.
I wonder if we have similar values.
I wonder if I'm going to like this person.
I wonder if I'm going to vibe with this person.
I wonder if I'm actually attracted to this person."
That is different energy.
That is coming from a place of non-attachment.
So, the questions you ask yourself continuously affect
how you're showing up.
And I will tell you from experience
and from seeing it in hundreds of other people
that I've coached in my programs,
detachment, when people detach from an ex,
when people detach from an outcome,
when people detach from the job interview they have,
magic happens, and the way that you detach
is by not abandoning the self
and being present in your own body
and not doing things that are a means to an end,
making things an end of itself,
deciding who you are, deciding who that is.
Every moment you're a new version of you.
Literally, what quantum physics shows us
is that every moment, our cells are dying and being reborn.
The only thing that keeps us stuck in the past
and attached to the past is the story that we tell ourselves
about who we are.
And what we can begin to do is,
since I'm new every moment, I choose to be the new version,
this version of me that is living in according to my values,
to what's important to me,
to recognize my own sense of self-worth,
to stop abandoning myself, stop tuning to other people,
start tuning to what I want.
And I promise you, the more you tune to what you want,
the more you tune to enjoying the dates you go on,
to enjoying the process of dating,
enjoy the process if you're in a relationship,
whatever it is, the more you you will find
that you are more magnetic
than you can possibly ever imagine.
Now, the thing I was mentioning earlier,
it's a community of people called Magnetic Mastery.
It is a community of people.
It's called the Magnetic Mastery Membership.
Every single week, what we do is we do a live call.
This is interactive.
There's group work that's done.
Two of the calls, I'm doing live coaching.
Two of the calls, we're doing accountability,
where we get into groups and we hold each other accountable.
Because I find to create permanent shift
and to create that kind of identify shift
from the inside, out, it takes consistency.
And that's why what we normally did
in our 21-day challenges,
which I've had over 15,000 people go through,
we are now doing this in a monthly membership.
And you can join that by going to magneticmastery.com
or clicking the link below.
Check that out.
I'll have this video go out when you can join that.
The only people that will be coming in
is people that watch this video, plus some people
from my other challenges.
So if you wanna be a founding member, click the link,
join at the lowest price you will ever see to join
that of the community, the membership.
And you'll also be connected to the high-vibe people
that are sharing this vision, sharing that values,
and we're focused on becoming in our own frame,
more magnetic than ever.
Now, also, there's a video
about how you can let them miss you
and how this completely changes the energy dynamic.
Watch this video right here and wire it in.
When we're attached,
what we do is we create resistance.
And this resistance is dependent on how someone else
is responding or not responding to our own energy.
Now, one of the most attractive things you can do
is to actually bring your...