Last week I put out a video that was all about some of the things that I wish I knew when
I first started meeting women.
I've been getting some questions lately because at the point of making this video, I'm 35
years old so I've had some reflection back into my 20's.
I've gotten questions about what are some other things that I wish I knew back in my
20's.
If I could take a time machine and go all the way back to 22 years old.
At this point, I'm out of college, I'm in the real world, what would I have done differently?
What do I wish some of my mindsets were?
What are some of the things I wish I just had the knowledge so that I can get to the
point where I had an amazing 20's.
I do think personally in my 20's I did do a lot of things that were great that got me
to where I am now.
But I'm trying to be a perfectionist here.
What are some things that I wish I would have done?
And I can't go back and change things, but at the very least, what I can do is I can
tell you.
If you're watching this and you're in your 20's or even if you're watching this and you're
older than that or younger than that, this is still good stuff to learn because this
is stuff that you can still start today.
It's not stuff that's just for people in their 20's.
It's just stuff that I wish I knew and I'll be explaining why that is.
Some of the things that I'll be talking about do pertain to women, all of them in a sense
do pertain to women, but they're also really good for your whole life.
The first one that I want to talk about does pertain to women.
I remember when I was in my early 20's and this might relate to you right now.
I was searching for the best pickup line or the best opening line.
What's the best thing that I could say to a girl to open up conversation?
And it's funny because I'm just like you.
I'm just like the clients that I work with.
We're all focusing on that best first line.
Something that I learned was the opening line does not matter.
When you're talking to a woman, she rarely, if ever remembers how you started the conversation.
It's not how you start the conversation that's important.
It's rather how you hold the conversation, how you continue the conversation, what's
going on when you're finally there.
The most important part of any opening line is just that you do it.
And don't worry, I will give you what I consider the best opening line that you can use pretty
much 99.9% of the time.
But what I found is a lot of guys are searching for that opening line and want the best thing
mainly because they're afraid of rejection.
They think that if they don't have the perfect opening line, they're going to get rejected.
A lot of guys are trying to think of what's the best thing to say?
Another problem is that guys feel (and this was me too) that you have to say something
that has to do with the situation.
Because we're not used to just going up to a woman, introducing ourselves and saying
hello.
Instead we think intuitively what can I do to get the conversation going related to what's
happening right now?
A lot of guys will go up to a girl and say do you come here often?
A lot of guys will go up to women and mention something that's going on in a grocery store
or maybe they're meeting someone on the street and they're mentioning something that's going
on there.
Or they're mentioning a situation that's happening in a bar or club.
They're trying to find the perfect situational opener to say.
Listen, there's nothing wrong with any of those.
If you're going out and you're meeting women and there is a situational opener to use and
it comes to you within two seconds, by all means go and use it.
But I've learned (and again from experience) that doesn't always happen.
Sometimes you see a girl wherever and you can't think of something situation to say
because there's not always something fun and interesting happening in that moment.
So what do you do?
It took me a long time to refine and finally discover what I believe is the perfect opener
that you can use all the time no matter what.
It's simple as this.
You go up to a woman and say hi, introduce yourself.
So you'll say for example hi, I'm Tripp I wanted to come meet you That's it.
A smile on your face hi, I'm Tripp I wanted to come meet you.
Of course whatever your name is, you'll replace it with Tripp.
Hi I'm Tripp, I wanted to come meet you.
And then continue conversation from there.
A good conversation continuer is saying something along the lines of hey I'm Tripp, I wanted
to come meet you are you from... and then fill in the blank in terms of wherever you
are and just get conversation going.
That's like your default line.
I remember in my 20's I was just searching for the perfect line and I wasted a ton of
time trying to figure out what that was when eventually I just came to this.
Learn from this, whether you're 18 years old or 60 years old or anywhere in between, you
don't need a better pickup line or opening line than that.
Just going up, introducing yourself is good enough because like I said, most of the time,
they're not going to remember anything that you said in terms of the start of the conversation.
They're just going to remember that you came up, started conversation and interacted with
them.
Next something that I pretty much did not do in my 20's at all and I really wish that
I would have done this.
I wish I would have had a better skincare routine.
This is something that you want to start as early as possible.
Of course, if you're my age 35 or your older, still good to start.
There's never a bad time to start a skincare routine.
But of course, I wish I did that in my 20's.
I didn't think about that.
I didn't really know about it.
Until then, of course I get into my 30's and I'm starting to see a little bit of wrinkles.
I'm starting to see things change.
And now knowing what I know, it could have been fixed and a little bit better just had
better skin up until this point.
And having a better skincare routine is really good for you.
Because not just prevent it for the future, but in the moment making your skin look really
clean, really clear.
Some of the stuff that I use now a lot of guys ask me what do you use?
I use Tiege Hanley.
You probably heard about this.
A lot of people are using it.
It's new to the scene.
It's been around for maybe a year or two.
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And I even know the guys who have created Tiege Hanley.
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Because I use it so much, because I love it, I totally endorse it.
I've even endorsed it in other videos.
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One of the reasons why I love this and I'm upset that this stuff did not exist in my
20's.
If I knew about it, I would have used it.
Because back in the day, I had no idea that there were actual routines that you could
do.
There's nothing I could find that gave me a good skincare routine.
Yeah, you can go to Walgreens or CVS and get something.
But Tiege Hanley has a whole system.
I think that's so cool because there's a serum in there, there's stuff for your eyes in there,
there's face moisturizer for nighttime, for daytime.
It gives you the whole package.
It's not just putting on some really cheap bad moisturizer, but putting on all these
different things onto your skin to make it look awesome.
I really encourage you because this is your face.
This is what you look like, this is how you're presenting yourself and it's really good for
you.
I really encourage you to use some kind of skincare routine and Tiege Hanley is what
I recommend to you.
But doing that as fast as possible so you can start preventing any kind of wrinkles
or at the very least I like to use it (well I use it every day) but I like to use it especially
before I'm going out and meeting people because I get this really nice glow from using the
serum and the moisturizer and all that stuff.
It's really cool.
It's easy to use.
Like I said, I talked to the guys and they are giving you a discount to join the membership.
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I wish I would have done this earlier.
I remember in my 20's, I did it for a little bit.
I didn't have a routine, I used some sort of moisturizer and then I fell off because
it just didn't feel like it was doing much.
I didn't feel like I was getting any results.
And honestly, it was extremely expensive to get this one moisturizer.
And like I said, I didn't have a routine behind it.
I didn't know that there's all this other stuff that makes your skin look great.
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Let's go to the next one.
Another thing I wish I knew, this is more specific in my early 20's because once I got
into my mid 20's and late 20's, I started to learn about how to meet women, I started
to get more confident with women.
I started to learn this more into the mid late 20's.
But I wish I knew this right away.
Hopefully now you're going to learn this.
Again whether you're in your 20s or older or younger, good to know either way.
One of my mindsets when I was younger was that there were women out of my league.
Did you ever feel that way?
Do ever go and see a woman who's at a bar or on a dating app or something like that
and you're like whoa, they're so pretty.
And you start to say things like they're out of my league or you feel like you're not good
enough for them.
This creates a domino effect disaster.
What happens is you end up assigning a value to a woman thinking that she's better than
you because she has pretty looks.
Then you start to treat that woman different and then it becomes a disaster because you
don't end up attracting that woman in the first place.
Not because she's prettier than you or better than you, but you're treating her in a way
where you're putting her on the pedestal so you're chasing her a little bit more.
You're saying different things to her more.
You're complimenting her a lot.
You're doing this try hard stuff, you're being really needy.
So it doesn't end up happening all because you ended up putting her in this weird category
of she's out of your league.
They even have a whole movie about this, by the way called "She's Out Of My League".
And it's terrible because I feel like it's reinforcing this idea even more into into
pop culture, that there are women that can be out of your league.
Just remember this.
No matter what a woman looks like, she's still the same inside.
It does not make her better just because she's prettier.
Yes, I gotta agree.
I know that she's higher in demand.
Obviously women who are more attractive or higher in demand, they are valued more, but
that doesn't make her different.
It doesn't mean you have to treat her different.
It doesn't mean she's a woman that you can't approach or talk to or swipe right on or have
a great date with.
I was even talking to a client earlier on and he goes I got a date soon.
I'm really excited about but I'm a little nervous.
I said why are you nervous?
He goes she's really out of my league.
He literally said this.
This is something he said and he's in his early 20's.
And I was like no, no, we had to do this whole reframe like I just gave you in terms of fixing
that mindset and not using that language anymore.
I really wish that this was not part of what I was thinking when I was in my early 20's.
Next, and again, I have to repeat myself.
I know this is life lessons.
This is stuff that's not necessarily for your 20's.
This is stuff that you can start today.
I just wish I knew this a lot earlier.
That's my whole point here.
The next one is I wish I would have put more priority earlier on in terms of investing
in my health.
What do I mean by that?
Health, meaning my mental health, my physical health.
I wish I would have put a lot of energy and more money into that.
That means eating healthier foods, eating foods that are going to be good for my brain.
Going to the gym more and exercising more regular than I do now.
Even getting into therapy, getting a psychologist to work some of the issues out that you might
have going on in your head.
And I want to say this for a second.
There's a lot of talk media, online everywhere when we're talking about health in terms of
the physical aspect.
It's never weird to tell someone I go to the gym three times a week.
I'm eating really healthy.
I'm going to diet.
Everyone's super supportive of that.
But somehow when we start talking about mental health, it gets a little like whoa, this person's
seeing a psychologist, they must be crazy.
This must be strange.
But that's not the case at all.
Think about going to a therapist is like going to the gym for your brain.
We all have emotions, we all have stress.
We all have issues, some more than others.
We all have that because we're all human on some level.
It's really good to have an unbiased figure in your life to talk to about this stuff.
It's nice if you have friends.
It's nice if you have parents and people to talk to or mentors.
But there's nothing like going to an actual psychologist, someone who studied this stuff,
someone who is looking out for you and is going to give you the right advice and real
answers because you're their patient and they care about you, but in a different way.
They're going to give you that unbiased look.
Plus in a sense they call it therapy because it's very therapeutic to talk about this stuff.
Even if you're thinking, I don't have issues, I don't have issues with my parents.
I'm not even that stressed out, sometimes I am.
It's still good to let this stuff go because it can build up.
Any stress in your life.
It can be anything even pertaining to women.
I highly recommend that you look into going to therapy even if it's nothing so serious.
And if it is, then absolutely go into therapy.
So investing in that and of course investing in the things like I said, like your physical
health, eating the right foods, understanding how food works, buying books, doing some fitness
coaching, doing some nutrition coaching.
I've done that over the course of my life.
I wish I would have done that stuff a lot earlier.
That's something that's should be a priority because think about it.
You don't have your health, you don't have anything.
Here's another thing and this is more specific two guys in their 20's.
I'm not going to say this is necessarily for everyone on this last bit, but still helpful.
In your 20's, this is the time to make mistakes.
This is the time to take your biggest risks because you have more time to recover.
It's okay to take some more financial risks.
It's okay to take a lot of risks with women.
(I feel like no matter what age you should be doing that) This is the time when you're
doing a lot of learning.
If you're in your 20's right now, especially early 20's and you're watching this, take
this time to learn to invest.
You're going to invest in yourself.
You're going to invest maybe in finances too.
Just lots of putting energy towards investing into things, making mistakes.
And then eventually, when you're in your 30's, you can be more fruitful.
Meaning you're going to end up getting the fruits from your labor and from the mistakes
that you've made and the energy you put into your 20's.
Plus in your 20's you naturally have because you're younger a lot of energy.
It's good to put in a lot of effort and work into your career, into health, into meeting
and attracting women.
Use this time, use this energy to really kill it.
I remember in my late 20's, I did do this.
I took a big risk and just quitting my job and starting Tripp Advice.
That's something I'm so glad I did.
This is not something I started later on where it can get a little bit more risky.
Or you sometimes need more money when you're older if you end up getting into a relationship,
something like that.
I took a big financial risk and went completely broke in terms of building Tripp Advice to
get it to the point of where it's at.
And I was able to do that because I started it when I was 25, 26 years old.
So I'm glad I did that.
That lesson made me learn wow, I gotta tell other guys, if you're in your 20's, you really
got to focus on taking those bigger risks because it's easier to do when you're at that
age.
Lots of lessons here.
I want you to think about this in terms of how your whole life looks.
Can you implement some things today to start working on this?
I know there's one thing you can implement today.
Going down in the description below and clicking that link to get your new skincare stuff.
Tiege Hanley is the best.
At the very worst, you can start there and then take some of these other lessons and
start implementing them.
Whether you're 18, 25, 30, 60 whatever.
Get this stuff started today.
There's a saying that I've heard from a friend of mine and I loved it.
It goes like this.
When's the best time to plant a tree?
The answer 20 years ago.
When is the second best time to plant a tree?
That is right now.
No regrets.
Maybe things didn't work out in the past and the best time to do anything is right now.
Good luck.
Hope that helps.
I'll see you in the comments.