Hi, welcome to personality hacker. My name is Joel Mark Witt.
And I'm Antonia Dodge. Today we are going to talk about the personality
type ENFJ in the Meyer's Brigg System or harmony perspectives in the genius system.
Yeah, so this type is actually not as well represented as you would think in the population.
Statistically, they're less than 4 percent of the population and that's sad because there's
some really great things about ENFJ's, or harmony perspectives users. We see them in
some really interesting positions of leadership. In fact, whenever I think of this type, the
ENFJ type, I always think of the consummate cult leader.
Yeah. I mean that in the best way possible. The
cult leader- You know who I always think of, right?
Who? Oprah Winfrey.
Oh, always, right. That's like boom, instantly.
Yeah. She's what you're talking about. She's that
cult leader personality. Yeah, so the phrase cult leader probably sounds
like it has negative connotations, but like Oprah has a cult. She has just legions of
soccer moms that when she says jump, they say how high while they're already in the
air. Yeah.
That's the power and the magnetism of this type when it's developed, when it's done well.
There's this charismatic persuasiveness to the type that I think is really great. I think
it's because they marry a feeling process, harmony we call it in the genius system. They
marry this ability to understand what's going on for other people, what's important socially,
how to connect, not just connect two people together, but connect an entire social group
together. They're really amazing at understanding dynamics between people and how we're all
impacting each other and they marry that with the ability to get out of their own perspective
and get into the perspective of other people. That means that- I've seen them in such incredible
roles as like counselors and therapists of relationships because they don't just see
the one person and then the other person and then how they're relating. They see the relationship
as almost yet another perspective because they're really in tune and in touch with dynamics.
Because of that, they make the most exceptional relationship therapists and coaches and counselors
of anybody. That extends out beyond the two people in
a relationship. Yes.
It extends out into how families work, in general, how cultures work, en mass. If you
start zooming out, the ENFJ really understands how all of us interplay together on a really
sophisticated level and I think that's why they make such good cult leaders because they
know what is going to have an impact and it be meaningful to an entire group of people.
They're very inspiring. If you've ever seen ENFJ on a stage presenting or inspiring a
group of people, they can really get people motivated to do something for good or for
whatever they actually want to do, whether it's good or evil, but often times these are
good people that show up and they want to inspire people to do better things with their
lives or be better versions of themselves or whatever and it's inspiring to watch an
ENFJ that is this kind of cult leader personality. Oh yeah.
Not everyone's going to be like that, ENFJ. No.
You're not maybe that cult leader, maybe you're not going to be on stage leading, but there's
other ways you're leading. Maybe your family or your social group or your church or whatever
you're involved in in your community or family, so-
Yeah. The leverage point for this type is to make that they're getting their own individual
needs met. Yeah.
People who use harmony, but especially those who have it as what we call the driver position
or they lead with this process, they have a tendency to get everybody else's needs met
and forget to get their own needs met. If you have ambitions to be something bigger,
to really play a big game or bring your best self forward in any context that you want
to, the key to the whole operation is making sure that you get your needs met as well because
otherwise you tap out and you're not able to give to a bigger context, right, to a bigger
group of people. It's really important for ENFJ's to have their finger on the pulse of
their own personal needs and of course the highest leverage thing to do for any type,
but we're talking about ENFJ's right now. The highest leverage thing to do is to develop
your perspectives process which is your co-pilot in the genius system. That's your intuitive
process. That's the part of you that goes inside and really understands how your mind
is working and how other peoples' mind is working. That's what helps get some space
from other people's emotional energy. If you go into that space, even in like a meditative
state, right, you get some alone time, you get to wander the garden of your mind, you're
going to come up with your best ideas, you're going to see the biggest perspective, you're
going to really see how to make an impact on the largest group of people.
One of the things that could trip you up as an ENFJ, if this is your personality type,
is not going to that co-pilot to grow and instead going to the process that sits right
behind that which is sensation. It's a great place to be if you're building intimacy or
you're in a playful state, but if you go there in a defensive state, it can be really bad
because it could trip you up as an ENFJ. It's really important to think about how you're
interacting with that, what we call tertiary process, if you're looking at the car model.
Really work on going to your co-pilot to grow that perspectives process.
Yeah. If you want more information on what that looks like on a granular level, we have
the genius assessment on the personality hacker website. You go to a button that says, "Take
this test". If you test out as an ENFJ, if you have taken the assessment and you've tested
out as an ENFJ and you really want to understand how that 10 year old sensation process can
trip you up and maybe some tools and tips and tricks to get into your perspectives process
to become the best version of yourself, we have a premium assessment that we highly recommend
that you go for and maybe get a bigger, more zoomed out and also more zoomed in perspective
of how your type works and how to bring your best self forward.
We'd love to have you do that, so you can find that at personality hacker dot com.
What is the secret about ENFJ's, Something maybe other people don't know about them that
is really high leverage for an ENFJ to know about themselves? They probably know this
about themselves, but what do other people not know?
I would say that they are so socially focused and their very in tune with everyone's feelings,
so I think they sometimes don't present themselves in a way that, how do I say this? I want to
make sure I'm very clear on how I say this. They present themselves in a way they don't
give themselves enough credit for how much they show up and the intelligence they can
bring to the table. Yeah.
Because their sometimes looking at getting everybody's needs met and focused on the feelings
in the room- Yeah.
Often they neglect their own intelligence that they could bring to the discussion, to
the table. Yeah, I think they defer a lot. I think they
want to keep that rapport and that connection with another person, so sometimes they'll
throw themselves under a bus and not really show up as powerfully as they could. In fact,
I remember somebody asking, taking for example Oprah, I remember somebody asking her, "What's
something about Oprah Winfrey that most people wouldn't know?" She said, "Underneath all
of it, I'm a teacher at heart." I think a lot of ENFJ's forget to bring that aspect
of themselves forward. They neglect how much they have to give, not just in getting your
needs met way, but also in bringing really interesting perspectives to the world, like
really helping people understand something and really being teachers, not just maybe
the silent counselor. I think you're right. I think that's something that a lot of ENFJ's
could really step into is that teaching role and bring more of that component of who they
are to the forefront. Thank you very much for joining us on a riff of the ENFJ personality
type.