- Millennials, let me tell you this, okay?
The Miranda's is about to give you the sauce on love.
Okay?
♪ Cause I only want you ♪
♪ Yeah ♪
♪ Cause I only want you ♪
My name is Jia.
- My name's Elijah.
- And we are-
- The Miranda's. - The Miranda's!
Definitely- - We met on Myspace
in the seventh grade.
So whatever age that is.
- I was 11.
- 11, 12 yeah around that time.
- Honestly being the awkward black girl,
to be honest with you, I was very nervous.
I saw this one, Myspace name called MrTheKidGMan494.
Yes, I just put it out there.
Sorry about that.
(Elijah sighs)
I just put that out there.
- [Elijah] It was Myspace y'all.
- Yep and I just was, "You know what I want him."
And I said, hi to him. (Elijah laughs)
- No you said, "Hey." - With extra Y's.
- With extra Y, it was five Y's in there.
- And he wrote back to me.
The first human being in the world
wrote back to me. - Well, man.
- Man, yeah.
And I felt really good.
- She did.
- I mean, he did friend zone me for the next four years,
but we ain't gonna go there.
- That's later on down the line.
But yeah that's how we met.
- So when we got in the ninth grade
that's when Elijah reluctantly finally said to me,
"All right, let's meet up."
When we finally met up
I was walking on Graham Avenue in Brooklyn.
And when I was walking, I was looking for him.
I was like, where is he?
And he screamed, "Jia!"
And I turned around and I'm not gonna lie,
I'm me as a tall girl.
I'm about to be six feet on a good day.
Six feet on a good day.
And he didn't really know how tall I was
but I didn't know how short he was.
I mean, Elijah wasn't,
Elijah's not short but for me everybody,
every man is short if they're under me.
So when I seen him
the first thing that Elijah said to me was
you're not that tall.
- She's still not that tall.
I don't feel like Jia's that tall at all.
- He's so blind.
- How tall are you Elijah?
- So I'm actually 5"7' and a half.
But I'm 5"8' on a good day, yeah.
- Me being the awkward black girl,
I'm was very much so tall.
My body and my curves is not insinuated to a young boy as,
"Oh my gosh, this is just, wow."
So I was very awkward.
I was not the, I wasn't a societal norm of beauty.
I wasn't considered beauty in society back in the day.
Especially around that time and Elijah,
he only seen me as a friend.
No matter how much I started,
I started falling for him I'm not gonna lie.
But he only seen me as a friend.
I seen more but he only seen a friend back then.
I think what really tied and changed everything
was when we got older
and he seen me fall for someone else.
- And I didn't like that.
We were so young
and I'm just loving the friendship that we had going on.
You know what I mean?
So we would be on the phone every day.
I'm talking about from wake up
to go walking to school to being in school on the phone.
We had earphones in and the phone provider that we had
would cut off every four hours.
- T-Mobile.
- Yeah so they would cut it off every four hours.
And right after that, we would go right back like,
"Alright, alright phone cut off you good?"
All right cool.
- Transparent moment here,
a lot of the times Elijah would
be on the phone with me every day
is because that I was at home
going through trauma at home
and he was in inadvertently just being my protector.
He didn't want to get away from the phone from me at night.
And he was there for me through it all so-
- Yeah, yeah.
- We went through a lot.
I went through a lot as a child and I'm not gonna lie
when it comes to anybody in this world.
Elijah was there for me since day one.
- On the phone. - Since day one.
So I'm getting kinda emotional about this
because this is a touchy subject,
but he was there for me through everything so-
- Hey, hey it's gonna be okay- - I know, I know, I know.
- It's gonna be okay. (both laughing)
- When I was younger, I was bullied a lot.
I was definitely bullied.
I did go through a lot of trauma.
I was molested as well
and the first person that I actually expressed that to was-
- Me. - Elijah.
- Like I said, as a black girl,
we go through a lot of things
and to have that companionship without sex
without any of that,
especially because I'm 13 at the time going through so much.
I didn't even have a kiss yet,
14 didn't have a kiss yet,
15 didn't have a kiss yet.
And I'm having a companion that's the opposite sex of me
just being there raw with me through it all.
And me being raw with him
through all the things he's been through.
I think that's what kept us going.
- [Elijah] Yeah.
- That is one thing I will say as a transparent moment
in our love but most importantly our friendship.
We have a friendship before love.
- Oh yeah, I feel like that needs to be with everything.
Your friendship, when it comes to relationships
your friendship comes first, the love comes second.
- [Jia] Yeah.
- It's that's the point blank, period.
You always gotta treat,
I always treat Jia like my friend first.
You know what I mean?
Cause she is, that's my best friend.
- That's my best friend.
- So. - So yeah.
- Being real here.
So I had left Jia's life for four years.
And after that four years we finally met on her birthday.
- 20th birthday.
- Her 20th birthday.
And I see and she was with this guy, whatever.
I seen this tall dude had to been like 6"8', big dude.
Real tall, I'm real short so I'm just like,
"Cool, you must do a sport or something."
But me seeing that for that first time after the four years,
like I didn't see nobody.
I didn't see nobody else but Jia.
It was a two, it was him and his boy and Jia and me.
And honestly, I just saw me and Jia
and we were just being doofy all over again
like we never left to be honest
- My boyfriend at the time,
I remember we was walking across the street
my boyfriend was walking ahead of us.
Usually, you across the street with your lady.
You court them across street.
He was too busy paying attention to-
- His friend. - His friend
or whatever they were talking about.
- So Elijah would hold my hand across the street
while my boyfriend's walking ahead.
Or me and Elijah,
I'll trip off of something and he'll grab me.
It was things like that I was ignoring on purpose
because Elijah's the first guy
when I was younger that I fell in love with.
And I said, not going back to that again
cause he did not see me that way.
So as an adult I'm like, "No, move forward this is nothing."
But all I'm saying that he's like, "No, this is something."
- Afterwards, I started getting,
I'm not gonna lie that's wrong to do it
but I started getting jealous.
Like, "Whose this guy?"
Like, "Whose this dude?"
- He didn't like me with somebody else.
- I didn't and honestly that night
after everyone went home and I went home,
and as soon as I got home, I went in my bed,
I texted Jia and I said, "I don't like you with him.
"I wish you were with me."
(Elijah laughs)
- This guy takes my virginity and he breaks my heart.
And then he comes back in my life three months later,
I let him in and after I let him in a year and a half later,
he comes back.
He comes back in my life.
We're friends again.
And me and Elijah start hanging out more.
I started seeing him a little bit more romantically
even though he's my friend
and I'm a grown woman now, I'm in my twenties.
So after that I started catching feelings a little bit.
And I told my then boyfriend, I said, "Look."
(Elijah laughs)
- [Elijah] Go ahead.
- I said, "Look, you had your fun.
"I haven't had my fun.
"You have had sex with many women.
"I have had sex with only you.
"My inner goddess is screaming.
"I want to find her, give me three hall passes to find her
"because you wanna marry me now.
"And you already left me for one girl,
"had sex with many others and came back to me.
"And now you wanna lock me in.
"I really suggest that I have three hall passes
"so that I can let and explore myself
"so that I won't hold resentment to you later on."
I told Elijah about the three hall passes
and he at first was not interested.
I think the reason why is because he didn't want just sex,
he wanted more
- Sure did.
- So he definitely manipulated me in a way.
And instead of having any type of intercourse
he made me wait three months
and he was taking me out on dinners,
romanticizing me for three months
to the point that I didn't even...
I didn't even...
I forgot what my ex's name was.
I forgot what my boyfriend then name was.
- But it's a side piece.
(both laughing)
- Millennials, let me tell you this, okay?
The Miranda's is about to give you the sauce on love.
Our society pressures you to be with the right person
that looks good, right?
But when you with the right person,
the right person is not about how they look to society
it's how they look and feel to you.
Right?
Me, I am 5"11', 6 feet tall
black woman loving my husband-
- 5"7'.
- And he loves me.
And he is?
- 5"7', 5"8' on a good day.
- Yes so as much as society says
that I should be with a tall man.
- Or I should be with a short woman.
- [Jia] I'm in love with him.
- [Elijah] And I'm in love with her.
- And I just wanna say for anyone that has
dealt with anybody or went through any type of trauma
or anything like that,
I just wanna say that you are going to be amazing.
Especially when you live through healing.
When you heal yourself
and when you take the time to fix that crown of yours,
male or female.
And you really just practice self-love.
In hindsight, I wish I could have told that little girl
the beautiful girl,
that the woman that she's gonna become right now
and also during those tough times
that I've been through all of that.
I just wanna say, Elijah, thank you
for being there with me through all of that.
- I gotchu, you know I'm here for you.
- I love you, no seriously.
- I love you.
You don't even have to say thank you.
I wanted to be there too.
(uplifting trap music)