this is Sami from Ministry section right
here in Amsterdam and today's topic is
about what you should do on a day - with
the girl now lately in the forum's I've
been seeing guys messaging me saying
listen I was thinking of taking her to
this um this amazing restaurant where
they where they serve caviar and oysters
and all these crazy expensive things and
I thought I would treat her to that
because if I take her on a good date
then she'll sleep with me
okay I mean they don't say that part but
it's kind of like what they're thinking
they're thinking if I impress her if I
sure that I have money if I take her to
a good value restaurant and you know
spend a lot of money on her she's gonna
have to sleep with me
that's not true okay a lot of girls that
I know who are really really really hot
girls like to take guys on dates but for
them it's just what they call free
dinners okay they go out there and it's
just like oh I have a six free dinners
lined up this week they're gonna call
them dates anymore they just call them
free dinners because they know that this
guy is gonna splurge money in them and
all they have to do is just sit across
the table and chew their food and make
simple small talk okay for the rest of
the night so all they have to do is make
some small talk and the guy's just gonna
be you know happy with that
and at the night if the guy goes in for
kiss after he's paid for the meal
but everything the girl can probably
like oh no you know you're a great guy
but I don't you're just you know for me
or I haven't I'm just getting out of a
bad relate or something you know they'll
just find an excuse okay for me in my
books dinner is a very very very big
no-no for first dates you can take it
after after you slept the girl you can
take away all the rules and you can do
whatever you want okay you can starts
going out for expensive dinners doing
what you feel like doing okay but at the
beginning when you first start getting
inspiration ship or if you're first met
a girl and you're just starting you're
trying to get hook up with her don't go
for a dinner date so if it's the first
date you're taking the scroll and you
guys haven't sealed the deal you haven't
hooked up yet you want to take her
somewhere which is first of all close to
your location to your home okay
why is that you want to take her to
somewhere which is very access
accessible for you so you can say you
know what my house is down the road
let's go watch a movie let's go do
something else but some I've put some
drinks upstairs let's just go let's just
carry on this party or whatever you want
to do
the reason why you want to do this is
because if you take a two-hour train
just to take her to this magical forest
where you can show her all the amazing
things if you get the sparks flying and
you're new at this it's gonna be very
difficult to convince yourself and sex
anywhere else other than your house and
if you take a two hour train ride back
to your house it's gonna completely kill
whatever mood you've set so from from
the basics you need to put the location
of whatever it is you're taking the
squad for right next to your house okay
it doesn't have to be right next to it
could be just down the road or just in
that area hello guys say oh you know
what I live in a very very bad
neighborhood or I live very very far
away in that case find out where she
lives and try to make your date location
next to her house so that eventually if
you do move to the sex location that
could be her house which is close by now
what is it you could do on an actual
date or a guy's ask this question
anything okay anything as long as my
rules for four dates are anything where
physical contact isn't awkward okay and
anything where you don't have to be at a
certain area for a certain amount of
time so don't put any limit on the hours
for example a dinner is wrong because if
you're gonna go dinner physical contact
is gonna be awkward if you're sitting
across from each other it's gonna be
like you can't really reach over and
touch her you know it's kind of like
this is my half of the table this is
your half of the table and if you're
sitting at a dinner there's a time frame
you have to order is to wait for food to
come you have to eat you have to wait
for the bill to come and then you have
to pay and it's just like a kind of like
an awkward process so avoid that if you
have to you can go for coffee coffees a
lot easier because at least when you're
going for coffee you guys can sit next
each other you can talk you can get to
know each other and there can be a lot
of physical contact where it's not so
awkward across the table so if you do
take someone out for some for something
like coffee never sit across from them
always sit next to them or at least that
90 degree angle so you can just like
haha go over and touch them or whatever
it is just you have a physical contact
just carrying on throughout the night I
don't particularly like doing daytime
dates why is that daytime dates are a
lot kind of specific on on the setting
where you can take out a girl for a date
you couldn't take her out from the park
and it'll be great but then it is harder
to
move it to a sex location where the
night it's more of the kind of setting
for it that's my personal preference - a
lot of people are different some people
like taking out girls into parks and
walking around and then going to their
house that's fine that still works I
just prefer the upbeats of a night life
kind of dates where you take her out to
a bar or you can take her out you know
you can even walk around with her and
explore the city something as simple as
exploring the city is always fun even if
the girls locally from that city it's
still nice to take around and you can be
like Oh show me around the city
I want our experience it let's walk
around I want to find out what else
there is about the city if you're just
doing the date to impress her then
you're making a big mistake because if
you're trying to take her out to this
whatever it is wondrous Oh diving for
some sea turtles so you can play with
some eggs or whatever it is you're
trying to do and you're doing it just to
impress her it's gonna be to try hard
okay so you don't have to go into that
extreme oh I need to show her the best
state in the world yeah you can show
something great you guys can even go to
like the arcades or like I said even
just walking around the park is fun and
even that's gonna be a good experience
because as long as your attention is
focused on her and you're like playing
around with her and you're like having
fun and teasing each other around that's
gonna be enough for her to want to sleep
with you you don't need to have this
amazing roller coaster of let's just go
on this magical journey and hope but
it's gonna get sex no the whole point of
a date is to do your unfinished business
which is to have sex with the girl a lot
of guys say oh I just want to I want to
scroll different I want to wait it out
Bowl girls our baseline the
same there's a few which are outliers
but end of the day the girl will still
want to have sex with you and don't make
it sound like you're taking something
from her okay the whole point of the
date is for you guys to both have fun so
you're both having a great time and
you're just in each other's energies and
you're feeling that vibe and then you
will think you know what I agree I want
to have sex now what happens if you cook
to a girl and you you haven't gotten a
very good strong number you just got
like a very fast number and you're
scared she's gonna flake on you now the
best thing if if you're worried about
girl flicking for you on you for the
dates what I like to do is so you don't
message her throughout
whenever you've planned for the date and
you say okay let's say Saturday 8:00
p.m. and we're meeting at this location
what I like to do is I don't want to
message her all day and say hey by the
way remember our date from our date
because you know a lot of girls were
busy
I like smash them either once at the
beginning of the day saying listen I'm
gonna have to make it at 8:30 instead
okay I just had to I'm gonna be a little
late
okay so either mentioned them at early
or in that day so you can warn them
about the date so you can kind of like
remind them about it or message them at
the end of the day so if it's at 8:00
message them an hour before so at 7:00
and say listen by the way I'm gonna be
half an hour late so I'll meet you at
8:30 instead now what this does one if
she's forgotten about the date it'll
remind her about it and two she'll say
okay this is cool he's gonna if you if I
was gonna flake about this I'd flake
about it right now I'm not gonna tell
him later at 8:00
so you'll find out at 7:00 if she's
gonna flake on your nuts because if you
go there at 8:00 and you're waiting
there and you're like hey by the way I'm
waiting at our date location and she
goes oh I forgot I've got this big thing
and I'm I'm really sorry about that you
don't wanna know that you know your
honor you don't get flaked on while
you're waiting in the middle of nowhere
for like an hour you want to get there
and knowing that okay cool she's on her
way and we're gonna meet at this exact
time so once in the morning for an hour
before your actual date
you