how did you deal with losses in jiu-jitsu
jiu-jitsu day today um losses assuming in a tournament right i just
had my first tournament and got the floor wiped with me yeah
welcome to jiu jitsu and the uh the obvious thing is you got beat
good you learned i think we've i think we
think we've gone through that one and then really you know how did you get
beat what areas were you weak in then you analyze and improve in those
areas and that's jiu-jitsu right don't dwell
in in don't dwell in your loss
but learn from it and move forward and actually speaking of dave burke
i was talking to dave burke and he was explaining to me
his psychological current status in jiu jitsu so
he's however he's he's basically my age i'm 46 he might be 45 or something
like that but he's been
basically a master of kind of everything he's done you know
what i mean i mean he's like like factually yeah if you look at
his life he's been top gun top gun instructor he was
telling me that during operation southern watch
which was pre you know post first gulf war pre-911
he was the he was one of the very very very few guys that
actually dropped a live bomb yeah and you know back in the day
when no one had any experience he was a guy that had really
really done it and and then he was talking on top gun
instructor you're just and then f35 f22 just all that stuff
that he's done and he was he was telling me that like
if he thinks about it he gets a little bit bummed out because
he's just starting jiu-jitsu right now obviously it's in his head yeah and he's
thinking oh well i'm never gonna reach the highest level that i should or could
if i had started younger and so he if he it's almost like if he
thinks about that too much it's almost like well but i'm just not gonna do it
you know what i mean immediately was like of course i know that
i'm gonna do it and i'm gonna be as good as i can but
you know that that's that's also the way life is
right yeah just like when you how do you deal with losing in life
you learn from your mistakes you move on you don't dwell it's the same thing as
jiu-jitsu you study your weaknesses you figure out
what you can do you fix those problems you move forward
you don't dwell in the past that's it yeah those got beat
good yeah actually put it into perspective
even more well okay so this is just an assumption i know
i just had my first tournament i'm assuming white belt
maybe blue belt okay i'm assuming yep you know
it just doesn't seem like at brown belt or something yeah you're not asking for
this question or you're not in your first tournament
yeah typically but um you never know but you wouldn't have
this in your mind where like how do you deal with
loss you you won't have that in your mind it's a brown belt like you know you
know it's a little bit more clear anyway so unless you this has like scarred you
for life i lost and i'll never compete ever again kind of thing um
i think this is this is a good way to think of it where you know how
it's like i don't know your first girlfriend in like junior high or
something dumped you like at the time it seems like dang i got dumped or whatever
and then when you're an adult you're like oh my gosh same thing in jiu-jitsu
so like when you're a white belt and you lost your first you know as a white belt
and you're you know i don't know a blue belt purple belt brown belt black but
whatever and you're thinking about your first tournament
you're like oh my gosh who cares it doesn't matter at all
and really when you kind of put into perspective unless you want to dedicate
your life to competing the tournaments don't really mean
anything it's just fun and if you take the fun out of it by
putting everything on that one tournament that you're currently doing
probably you won't want to do it and you'll kind of
think that that's kind of what competing is about it's not so if you're
if you lose your first tournament my first match in my
first tournament i lost i didn't get the floor wiped with me
but that's a common thing yeah you think back on it and not only do you
well i think you'll always remember the first one but um
as far as like whether you want or lost it doesn't matter at all totally doesn't
matter at all and you'll find that the more you
compete the less it'll matter and then due to competition really
unless you're like really dedicating your
your life to being a you know a good competitor
um jiu-jitsu competitions you're going to win some and you're going to learn
you'll do some you're going to win them you're going to learn yeah and you learn
and you learn oh my gosh that doesn't work if i
don't time it correctly or dang that doesn't work because
that's not a real submission i only do it to smaller guys and they tap because
it's uncomfortable kind of thing but in zeronim it doesn't you learn these kind
of things you know but it's not even going to matter like
dealing with the loss it's not even going to be a factor because you're just
going to know that's just part of it and really who cares when you're kind of
just starting out you know like if you ask
like a top level black belt competitor you know did you win ask quailer okay
hoiler right he tells the story about
him and hoyce went into their first competition
their dad said if you win i'll give you 10 bucks
if you lose i'll give you 20. so it takes the pressure off like it's
not that big of a deal you know if you lose boom you know it's
all good that's what that was for and hoiler lost hoist one hoiler lost
he got the 20 bucks and he's like sure i would have you know had hoiler
one of the greatest legendary guys lost his first one yeah
puts it in perspective okay it doesn't matter at all you got 20 dollars
you're not always going to get the 20 bucks but just say
it yeah it doesn't matter it won't matter and you're gonna think same thing
like high school like the stuff that happens in high school when it happens
it seems like it's a big deal but then when you're an adult you're like uh
nothing happens as an adult cool it's a cool memory but
you know could have been better