So I have to imagine you're all friends right. It's gonna be tough!
You know how some phrases stick in your mind
"Where attention goes, energy flows" perhaps or
"If you want the skill do the drill". Well
I was training with Don Conroy, grandmaster Don Conroy.
He's a fantastic trainer by the way
cause I make it a point to seek out the best, and
one of his phrases is, "the more important the event
the bigger the opportunity for healing". And I wanted to share that with you
because even though this looks like
some practice for some other time
that's just what it looks like.
It's not.
In 13.8 billion years of human history
this has never happened before.
So it's an opportunity that I really want to make the most of.
To talk to thirty-plus really influential speakers
with fantastic skill sets. Some of you're already talking to people
regularly, changing their lives
I'm a little nervous
not because I have to remember the steps
because the message is really important to me
really vital, cause it's a message I know
has changed at least one persons life.
And that's mine. And I really want to share that with you.
So that's the infomercial over!
(singing) dood do dood dood do dood. So welcome
finding deep peace,
the power of deep peace,
through the power of sound.
Snappy title,
came with myself. We're all in the right place for that, yeah?
Can I see a show of hands please. Thank you very much!
Because I know there is a Tango thing going on down the hall, and it's fantastic as well
and maybe when we're done here we can go and check that out, because you know the
expression "There's many ways to skin a cat"? And I don't really care about
the getting there, the method of getting there is not important, you find one
that suits you.
But I do care about the destination. I really care
that we find the power of piece.
Choose any method you wanna get there,
but get there, please!
So who here is interested in ideas, does that excite you?
You know, a different approach maybe, looking at
something from a different angle. Is that why you're here?
I'm not a mind reader by the way, I know that's why you're here, because that's what
you
that's why you chose to be here.
You're the sort of creative individual
that wants to find different ways of doing things. And when you find it
what do you do? You test it. Does this work?
No,
it's like, if you go out and shop for shoes you don't just
take the first pair and walk out of the shop. Try a few on.
You don't know whether you're gonna like it
until you've tried it.
So you owe it to yourself to give it a go, because it might be the perfect pair of shoes for
you.
So, what could the power peace do for your life? Anyone here ever felt any
frustration? Good.
So there are some people here that has never felt any frustration. Am I in the zen school here?
(laughter)
Oh you felt some? (laughter) Ok, good.
And, can anyone not
think of an error in their life
where having a bit more deep peace would work for them, you know?
You could not think of that?
Oh, we'll talk later (laughter)
So let me share
little bit about why this message means so much to me. Somewhere between
little childhood, which I just remember as being
pure-play, and adulthood, I think they call it adolescence...
... somewhere in that bit
I got really lost.
And I got frustrated and angry
at my parents, at my school,
at society, at life
really, well and
than most importantly I turned that all in on myself, and I got frustrated and angry
because I sucked at it. And by the time I reached my twenties,
well if it wasn't for friends
(light laughter and sympathy from the crowd)
and music
I would've been completely screwed. However they came with
something else, which in retrospect wasn't a great thing, and
by the time I reached my early twenties I was, I had a daily pot
habit. It was the first thing I did in
the morning, was light up. And it was the last thing I did when I went to bed.
And there are many ways to skin a cat,
but if you're looking for peace in that direction I wouldn't recommend it.
Give it a go, try it if you like, but despite the t-shirts,
that's not the way I
found peace. In fact quite the opposite. And things got
worse because the problem is when you ignore that sort of emotional pain when
you ignore those sort of messages from your unconscious mind,
when you don't deal with it. When you don't see the messages like find another
way of looking at the world
reframe this somehow, life ups the ante.
And ten years later I still had the pot habit,
but I was also drinking,
only six days a week because Sunday was a day rest,
and I needed that to recover from Friday and Saturday night
from the recreational class A drug-use. And when I got to -
well so it was about ten years ago
and a relationship had just fail, one that I felt I had put loads in,
and I was bitter and resentful, and
I got sent home once from work because I was still smelling of booze from the night
before
and I crawled into bed and I sobbed
silently. I mean the pain that I felt was
unimaginable. And, well there was something there
you know, sometimes you need to find out what it isn't to know what it is.
So we're gonna be doing a few little exercises
and in order to squeeze it in, because time is really tight
when I say go, GO! And when you're finished
stop, ok? (crowd laughing hard)
So one of the advantages of
living on the edge of a big city
is all I have to do is walk out
to my back garden, open the door, the little creaky gate,
and turn, and look down the valley.
And it's almost instantaneous
So I start walking along and there's a little path with some long grass,
the grass kind of brushes against, and that sound kind of
begins to make me feel really peaceful, and I watch the birds
jump from cherry tree to fence
and a little, a little way down there there's some horses, there like a little
tribe of rescued horses.
And there they are grazing away, and I love the sound of the way they
rip the grass up. And then sometimes they get caught up in some sort of, kind of
abandon and they run around the field, because we all like to play don't we,
you know horses like to play, we love to play.
And a while ago, only a few years ago I had this fantastic house share,
and it was a woman and her two children
and the little one was about two and a half, and every now and again I
would take her to the park.
There's was a close by park, but there was a better one just a bit further
along, and it was worth making that extra effort to go to that one because it was
a
you know, it had more to offer. And when we got down there
there's this slide - now a complete age
inappropriate slide for a two and a half year old I realize now, because it was about
40 feet -
and (crowd laughs) the moment
I released her from the chains of the
pushchair she was off up these steps, you know,
climbing, she didn't care about the effort it took to get there, cause the important thing was
getting to the top
where she something really exciting was gonna happen. And she gets to the top
and she throws her little legs over, and she's looking down this long flight, and she's
looking for me,
because it's important to have an audience, you know, when your gonna do something,
when your gonna throw yourself off the top of somewhere
into somewhere you don't know where to go, it's great that you've got an audience
supporting your back, you know,
so she wants that. So she's stood at the top of the slide
and off she goes and, I don't know what they've done, waxed it or
something, this is
not good. She's going at it, she flies back
and her little feet go up in the air. Well, it's going okay so far, but
as she gets about three-quarters of the way down, her feet drop and the
trainers, the rubber trainers hit the slide. She goes
and, it's one of those moments you know, catapulted out
head first, she's like....
I'm like... the whole playground is,
you know, moms with the snotty,
make.......... and it's one of those moments, and then
ooosh, she lands on her face, she lands on the rubber
of the face, uh you know the....... and err (crowd laughing)
... not good (crowd laughing).
I'm not very zen, at this moment I'm not zen at all, I'm like
running over to the lady and I get down to see whether she's alright
I broke my friend's child, this is not good. And at that moment a butterfly lands on my
shoulder.
She's screaming and then goes, "butterfly!",
tries to catch it. It flies off.
And she's, before I know, I'm still going, and she's off the steps again, going up there
for another go.
You know. That's the thing about moments of joy,
trauma can't exist in moments of joy. (crowd applauds)
So what I want you to do now stand-up,
you've got 20 seconds. Get two people, what I want is,
there name, you'll ask them their name, and get them to tell you,
and you tell them something they love to do. So it'll be something like,
"My name's Tim I love to
wear make-up at the weekends." (crowd laughing)
GO! (crowd talking to each other....)
Okay!
Okay, so, give me one of them
.... someone..... (Audience member speaks, "I like
to chose guys that wear make-up on the weekend.") (laughter)
Now the problem with this is, even though it's great like my field's out the back, I can't take my
fields to work. You can't chase guys,
well maybe sometimes (laughter), but if you're a tube player, your boss is giving you stress,
it's not a good move to kinda go,
it's not gonna work, so what we need is a strategy
where we can find peace instantly in the moment without having to take
a cove to work,
a salsa band to work. So this is how it works, what we gonna do is, it's gonna
be a little bit of acting involved here,
is your gonna pretend you're in trauma, cause what happens is,
when we're in trauma, when we kind of like upset, our breath goes really shallow
and really fast. And then when we get, but when we're in peace
it's really slow. And this is what happens naturally in those states,
but the thing is you can reverse the effect, so if
you consciously alter your breathing from being really shallow when your
upset
you will relax. So this is the exercise...
(reenacting of a panic, stuttered state followed by an exhaaaale...). And I will give you a signal when that happens,
and the signal will be, "Here comes the butterfly." GO! (crowd starts talking to each other......)
"And here comes the butterfly", (crowd exhales) and feel that sense of
peace. And I don't care which route you take to peace
be it salsa, be it the hypno
bus, be it the gong wagon,
But just find some ways to get there. Thank you.
(crowd applauds and gives Tim a standing ovation)