I admit it. I used to be a total guy's girl.
I was just someone who thought i just get along better with boys.
But in reality, i was just terribly intimidated by,
and afraid of,
WOMEN.
I fell into the whole stereotypical thinking that
Women are drama. Or too emotional.
Or cat-ty. Blurgh. Social conditioning.
But as i've stumbled through my twenties, matured, and learned, and grown,
and i'm now rapidly approaching 30
I've been looking back and thinking about what's been the most impactful
in my life in the last decade.
If i could go back in time and tell myself anything at 20,
What would it be? And without a doubt, I would say
Yo, females friendships though
You're sleeping on them
And as I take stock of the kinds of women in my life
I have noticed a pattern emerge
The sort of standing pillars of friendship that each one of my friends
sort of fall into
NUMBER ONE
The caretaker : She's protective
nurturing and encouraging. She's got a multitude of snacks
in her purse whenever you're hungry will send you out the door
with an umbrella or jacket if you forgot one
and leave you feeling loved and taken care of
She's sort of like your mom and your big sister and mother nature
rolled into
one beautiful package, she's the kind of women who bakes a
delicious gluten free muffin in the same day that she reptiles her bathroom
NUMBER TWO : The Fun Time Friend
She's a wild card but isn't that the
best card in an uno ! She can outdrink you, make you laugh until you pee a little
And has a million events
that you can beat her plus one too. She's especially
immediately post breakup
and will make sure that you have ample
to make your ex regret their decision. she makes you feel like it's both of you
versus the world
And you pity the world
Because they're hell out numbered
THREE: THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN
WOMAN. She's driven
inspiring
and has her
life together but makes your
mess of a life
feel like it's a glorious work in progress.
She's the one you call when you have no idea how to find out where your towed car
is or when you need advice on how to find a good tax person
She's probably not that much older than you maybe she's even younger than you
But her emotional maturity is through the roof and
you definitely view her as your mentor sometimes
She's confident, has a solid sense of self worth
and every thing about her is what you wanna be when you grow up
FOUR : THE ONE-ON-ONE FRIEND. She may be more introverted so
you mostly hang out one-on-one
bonding over tea and good
conversation, you may discuss anything from books you've been reading
to the deep seeded traumas you're encovering in therapy
but either way you usually hang out for hours on end
and leave your time with her feeling connected, sean and
excited to talk again. She's normally incredibly
compassionate, deep-feeling and thoughtful and you value
her objective perspective on so many different issues
And finally
FIVE : THE TOXIC FRIEND. Not all female friends are great
In fact you may have a few toxic friends in your circle
from frenemies to negative nancies, we all have that friend
that we're not entirely sure that we should be friends with
I mean maybe every time you see each other she talks for two hours before asking
you a question about yourself, maybe she's emotionally draining
Puts you down as a joke or reaches
out only when she wants something from you. Either way you usually have something to learn from this kind of friend
Whether it's how to set strong boundaries, speaking up for yourself
or just learning what type of peaople you don't want in your life
There you have it the five types of female friends
I've noticed circulate in and out of my life over the last ten years
and if I had to guess which one I was I would probably say
the one-on-one friend
Though I have definitely been the fun time friend when I was
a teenager and on occasion the toxic one
which sucks but sometimes you are
What about you ? Let me know in the comments below and do not forget to share this with
that special friend in your life or the toxic one
Uh yeah actually for friends randomly sent this to you you're probably
toxic, sorry ! I am Anna Akana and thank you to
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