just keep doing the right thing and the
good thing it'll happen the reason
people change is because of pain my
relationship with pain runs deep and
it's complicated on the one hand I love
pain and I love trying to push the outer
edges of envelope of what the pain
experience is in a physical sense and
it's also been my greatest teacher in
terms of things that I've accomplished
but also my errant ways as well
pain is truly the only thing that's ever
gotten me to change so it's been my
growth accelerator as well as my
reminder of when I've gone astray okay
so there's a difference between pain and
suffering there's a difference between
there we're we're all suffering we all
have suffering we all have an emptiness
or a dark place or corners inside of our
spirit in our mind that are not
fulfilled and watered and full like we
we all can relate to that and when I'm
talking about pain I'm not necessarily
talking about suffering but
acknowledging our suffering being in
touch with the pain that's enough to say
when you're really honest that's enough
to say I can't do this I don't want to
do the same
like this is not the person I want to
become and be on a regular basis if
that's the case if that assumption is
right then as a loved one my job is to
help you get real and experience those
places as often as you can so that you
make the declaration to say no that's
not okay for me to feel and be this way
on a regular basis you know we're so
conditioned to avoid pain every message
that we see every billboard we see every
advertisement that we're exposed to is
telling us that happiness can be can be
purchased through comfort luxury through
ease and that's sort of implicit in that
is that that's how we find happiness and
I can tell you that I'm happiest and
most alive when I'm butting up against
the outer edges of my pain threshold and
I'm not afraid of it and so when I start
to feel that sensation rather than shirk
away from it I realize that's an
opportunity to experience a heightened
sense of myself in my environment to
really be in a position where everything
else falls away and it's just you and
your ability to take one step forward
there's a purity to that
that again is another great teacher and
so in terms of techniques I've just
learned through experience that just
like David Goggin says when the signals
that you're receiving are telling you to
stop that you don't necessarily have to
pay attention to that that that you are
capable of so much more if you can
develop the acuity the presence of mind
and the wherewithal to then take that
next step and when you're on the other
side of it to realize you're still okay
and you can take another step and a
whole your horizon extends you realize
that there's a whole world of potential
and possibility available to you that
you weren't previously aware of
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never should never exist in your world
if you want to improve if you can see
yourself being better never should even
be in the picture you have the power to
do anything possible the power to
transform into somebody capable of
anything you can imagine this this is
the power you deserve let your success
let your mindset be the beginning the
journey doesn't in here this journey
doesn't end when the Sun goes up when
the sun goes down it doesn't end when
you close your eyes doesn't end for one
second because hard work waits for
nobody let yourself be heard let your
power speak for itself
let your beginning be the potential to
take you further and further along your
path to success you are the only
inspiration you need you are the only
force it takes to be someone more to
have so much more remember your worth as
a person
remember the possibilities of your power
the fruitful future that lingers over
your shoulders this is where you never
say never never say never to any
possibility to any opportunity to any
mistakes to any fear you say yes this
this is the only way to grow
I think that that most people set the
wrong goals for themselves and it's
because they're disconnected from who
they are they are living someone else's
life or they're living a life that's so
disconnected from who they are it
becomes very difficult to set the right
goal so I think in order to reconcile
that you have to look inward you know
and that can be different for everybody
that can mean a consistent meditation
practice that can mean therapy that can
mean you know starting to do yoga it can
meet many many things but I think
there's no and run around the very
difficult long process of really trying
to be honest with yourself about who you
are what's important to you what you
care about and then beginning to breathe
life into those things as frivolous as
they may seem to bring expression to the
things that that you do care about that
that that get you excited in the morning
and that doesn't mean you quit your job
tomorrow
but the more you can foster something
that has personal importance to you I
think that's the first step in trying to
move past whatever it is that's holding
you back
whether it's professionally or
personally to being a more integrated
authentic version of yourself
let this be the moment you remember
show yourself as the rocket in your own
life this is the journey you're on you
control the progress you make you
strengthen the path that transforms you
into the person you've been waiting to
become the person that allows you to
become someone new you have the skills
to behold the strengths to grow faster
the power to be stronger the journey
you've waited for is here here for you
to be something better this is the
opportunity in front of you this is your
future staring at you face to face
waiting for the power to be granted to
you your power is welcome welcomed by
your progress your progress that guide
you towards your future be someone you
can take pride in become someone you
know that you can become this is the
journey you have the journey you're on
take the first step towards success
take the first leap of faith into the
risks of your life push past the limits
move toward a future you can imagine a
future you've designed this is your
power self-reliance is everything
don't don't expect anybody to do
anything for you I'm the only one who
can get it done and if you just buckle
down and go the extra mile you will
solve the problem and you will make your
way in the world you know we all have a
unique song and I think most people to
echo the words of Henry David Thoreau
are leading lives of quiet desperation
and go to the grave with the song still
in them and I find that tragic and so if
there's anything that that that my work
is about it's about helping people
become cognizant of that and to take
action so that they don't become that
person leading a life of quiet
desperation which I think I don't know I
wouldn't want to say most people but a
lot of people are
and I found out heartbreaking
you know what's your major malfunction
right now what's the thing that keeps
you up at night do you resent the most
what are you afraid of what do you want
to achieve what's in what's in what do
you think is a new way you know I think
just by asking people questions and and
and and then holding a vision for that
better life for them to say I believe in
you I'm not here to tell you what to do
or how to live your life but I believe
in your greatest expression and I'm
going to hold space for you to give
people permission to be honest to be
vulnerable they're so afraid of being
vulnerable
we're terrified of being honest we're so
used to being judged and being held to a
standard that society sets for us that
we don't give ourselves permission to
even ask these questions let alone
answer them
what have you done today to be different
what have you done to step outside the
conventions that you set for yourself
the conventions and the rules set by
your past today you have the power to
move on today you have the power to move
away from your past and move towards a
successful future
this is your decision your call to make
in your future
this is how your life can gain its own
direction and this is where your life
can be so much more so much better you
can make it better you have always had
the potential to take one more step the
potential to take the risks others are
too scared to take because you are more
and you are stronger and you have the
determination and the courage to be so
much more