- Hey, YouTube World! It's me, Evelyn.
The other day on Instagram I asked my internet
cousins for some video ideas, video suggestions,
topics, things you want to me discuss,
'cause I was feelin' a tinge, a bit dehydrated.
And y'all came through, I appreciate you.
This question stuck out to me.
And ladyfray11 asked, hey ladyfray11,
how I keep myself from caring what
other people think about me.
My immediate reaction upon seeing that question,
oh, I care.
You think I don't care?
I care a lot (cough), I care so much.
Whether we realize it or not,
we all have an image that we're
trying to push out into the world.
It can be what we say, how we speak,
how we act, how we walk, the things we wear,
and when people misinterpret that image
that we're putting out into the world,
it can be a little #frustrating.
Now I know this question probably meant
how do you stop caring what other people think
when it comes to like haters or people not supporting
you or seeing your vision, you feel me?
But what came to my mind was how I hate
when people misinterpret my personality.
I hate being called shy.
Now you might be like, Evelyn?
Shy?
Who, what, where, when, why, how?
(bloop) You know,
I consider myself to be observant.
I genuinely enjoy listening to other people speak.
Now whether I remember what people say is another
skill entirely that I don't possess, but...
I remember when I was in high school and I told my aunt
about how I plan on going to college for journalism.
She looked at me and she said,
wow, I never coulda pictured you doing that,
like going out and interviewing
people because you're so shy.
And it really peeved me. (explosion)
Because I'm not shy.
I'm just quiet sometimes.
Or maybe you're just very loud, obnoxious.
Or maybe you're very boring, vapid,
(bloop) dry,
uninspiring, giving me nothing, ashy.
Shy is being afraid.
It's being anxious. (bloop)
It's that Piglet from Winnie the Pooh energy.
It's that Shy Ronnie from SNL energy.
Quiet is choosing (bloop)
your words wisely.
Waiting for the optimum moment in which to share yourself.
Quiet is diggin' in the scene with a gangsta lean, okay?
(bloop)
I will admit, I'm quiet.
Okay?
You all not gonna shame me for my silence, though.
Your conversation is likely not awakening anything
within my spirit and I have nothing to add.
Mm hmm.
Oh yeah.
Ha ha ha.
(laughs)
My voice is a gift.
(bloop)
And you probably haven't earned it, hmm?
And also, I will not talk over anyone.
(bloop) I do not fight for spotlight.
I make videos on the internets, okay?
Ooo, did I do that right?
(bloop)
I sit alone. - [Man] Alone, alone.
- By myself, in a room alone,
- [Woman] Alone.
- [Man] Alone, alone. - talking to a camera alone.
And what I'm serving people is me.
This is a retelling of myself.
I am performing myself.
You know how like in movies there are celebrity
cameos and it's like Michael Jackson plays himself.
I'm not saying I'm the King of Pop,
I'm just saying that this is
how I talk to myself in my head.
If you're my friend in real life,
this is how I tell stories.
This is how I get when I'm hype about stuff.
That doesn't mean you'll find me walking
down the street or at a party where I know nobody
or in the line of the post office just gesturing
wildly and doin' a impromptu smack your lip.
If I just met you and you happen to know more about me
than I know about you, just remember that this energy,
it's not there yet, okay?
Give the kid some time.
Introduce yourself.
What's your name?
Pleased to make your acquaintance.
(Ding)
Shy is not the same as quiet.
And shy is also not the same as introverted.
You all not gonna give me social anxiety, okay?
I do not claim that.
Amen.
That is a real affliction I rebuke.
Being shy and anxious is not the same as being introverted.
I just get my energy from being alone.
Sure, I get my energy from being alone,
but I also love making a group of people laugh.
Yes, I am generally a very private person,
yet I extrapolate certain things from my life
and share them via video on the internets.
I have lots of talents that I do not share on cue
because I also hate being told what to do,
even if I want to do it.
Y'all not gonna get me to dance, okay?
Y'all not gonna, y'all not, that's not what I do.
It is good to hear other people's experience of you.
So that you know what you're giving people
and if you agree with it or not.
You know, I do care what people think.
I don't want people to think that
I'm scared or nervous when I'm not.
I do care that someone's notions,
whether they're preconceived or from talking to me,
I do care that those notions don't match my reality.
Anyway, I went to college and lived
my best totally not shy life, okay?
This is a photo of me at a party.
I was probably 18, 19 maybe in this photo.
I am standing on somebody's couch hittin' the,
what is that, the Frankie, the Ricky Bobby,
the Flex, what is that?
It is Texas and the year was 2009, after all.
Does that look like a shy, shy girl to you, auntie?
No.
So stop it.
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And they also got a little
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I see you, okay?
Get your story.
You can listen to your stories now.
I'm not gonna judge.
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I'm gonna start listening to Bad Reception,
which is a 13 act comedy featuring over
40 comedians that is completely improvised,
as in created on the spot.
Sounds like it's gonna be hilarious,
and would it surprise you to know that I was in theater,
okay, and did improv in high school.
Does that sound like a shy, shy girl?
I usually listen to those audio books while
I'm doing chores or stuck in traffic.
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In the comments below let me know if you
care what other people think about you.
What are some misconceptions people have about you?
Let me know in the comments.
Or are you one of those like bad girls club,
I didn't come to make friends, type people?
(smack)
I don't believe you.
You care.
I'll see you on the internet somewhere.
Bye.
(slow dance music)