- Some days, I feel a bit more confident
and some days I love myself a bit more
and other days I'm like,
"Who the fuck is this in the mirror?"
But I think we have to realize
that we attract the frequency that we live on.
So if we constantly walk around doubting ourselves,
saying negative things about ourselves,
we're only gonna attract people and experiences
that make us feel that same exact way.
In order for me to attract what I want,
I have to love myself.
I have to say, "Wow, Chloe, you are beautiful."
I'm still learning to do that.
Quite frankly, even now with like makeup and hair and stuff,
I still doubt myself.
And it's like, if I put this song on, I'm like, okay,
I can't expect someone else
to treat me the way I wanna be treated
and love me the way I want to be loved
if I can't do it myself.
I love how beautifully chaotic this song feels.
And even when we were mixing the song, we're like
"Do we raise the sample up? Do we raise it down?
Do we raise down some of the backgrounds? What do we do?"
But I just love it.
And I'm constantly inspired by Tune-Yards
because they do such a beautiful way
with all of the layering of the production and the vocals.
And it's like layered in such a masterful way,
you hear everything
but it's also like, you're just overly stimulated
and that's what I wanted this song to feel like, you know.
With the verses, I'm so inspired
by Kelis and Floetry and Jill Scott and Erykah.
And then you have of course the Queen, Bohemian Rhapsody,
reference at the end, so it's just so much fun
how all of my inspirations all kind of come together.
This is priceless.
There's nothing that you can do or try to say,
it'll never really amount to how much I give it to myself,
so it's like, you gonna go broke tryna to handle me, boy,
you could try to keep up, but I don't think you ever will
but you can try.
Take it from someone who knows how to handle me.
You're not talking about another significant other
or another companion, you're talking about yourself.
it's just like, this gentle calmness,
it's like, this maturity.
It's like, you don't have to explain yourself,
you don't have to play any games, you just get it.
That real grown kind of energy.
There's a lot of people who would like a chance
and that's not just with me but that's with any girl
who knows and believes in her confidence
and her strength and power, that's what it attracts.
So it's like, there's a lot of competition.
And in order to keep up
you're gonna have to pay me with compliments
do a lot of ass kissin',
make me feel loved and important.
When I'm saying, you know,
I got someone with the time to listen,
I'm again, referencing myself.
I want someone to be there
and to like, be my best friend and to talk with me
and it's like, I'm the best listener to myself,
I hear all my most deep, most inner thoughts.
So I've always been inspired
and loved Tweet's "Oops(Oh My)" record.
And I love how it has double meaning.
So in the pre I kind of really wanted to do that there,
like I could show me a good time,
outside in the world and also when I'm alone at home.
So that's really what (laughs) that portion means there.
(laughs)
Here's what you gotta do.
You have to stimulate my mind
as well as my soul and my spirit,
you have to be very kind and funny.
I love to laugh, I like to think of myself as a comedian.
And you have to have like, really great work ethic
and drive because I want to be challenged.
I want to be excited and be like, oh, you're doing that,
well, then I can do this better.
It's like a challenge almost, in a way.
So I think if I had to give like a playbook
those would be like the top three, four things.
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Going so high in that part of the hook
kind of happened naturally.
Whenever I come up with melodies for a song,
I love to just hear the track
and I'll go and like, I'll freestyle
maybe four to like, six passes of the song
and there was one take
where I was just falsettoing the whole thing.
And I really fell in love with that melody.
And it didn't feel right doing the octave lower.
♪ Treat me like I treat me ♪
It just didn't feel right going down there
and I wanted it to feel really big and explosive.
And after I cut it,
it felt like a little bit of something was missing.
So I was like, me being a big fan of Imogen Heap,
I love the use of a good vocoder.
And I know it's pop song and I know there was so much,
but I was like, "Let's add it, it'll fill up the layers."
Because I could have done it with my voice
like I did at the outro,
but I wanted it to feel a little like,
I felt like having a vocoder there
made it feel a little more pop
and a little more fun and dancey.
And I really love it.
I feel like sometimes we tend to like,
see a yellow or red flag and be like,
"Well, this is really nice about them.
I'm just gonna go with the flow."
But what we have to realize is that we all deserve the best
and if there's something in our gut
that makes us go, "Uhh", then we just gotta let it pass.
So that's when I was like, exceptional,
anything less is unacceptable.
I feel like a school teacher when I say that.
You know, when someone constantly talks a good game
and they're like, "I could do this for you.
I could give you this.
I'm gonna make you feel like no one else has made you feel."
It's like, that sounds really good.
You can talk a good game, but I have high standards,
so that's why I'm skeptical,
but we gonna see how it plays out.
You could talk it, let me see you walk it.
I understand who I am,
I understand what I need and what I want, do you?
And it's like, if you come and play the game, boy,
play it by the rules.
(laughs)
I love this song because it's like,
yes, there's deep meaning and messaging,
but it's like those hints of sexy and playfulness
which I love.
Like, we can never take ourselves too seriously
and it's like, ooh, I'm flexible,
but only in all the ways my legs can go.
Like ladies, we know what we can do in the bedroom
and behind closed doors.
You won't be able to unlock that side
until you unlock this side
but it's fun to kind of tease sometimes.