- [Kim] Hey, here are my jazz hands!
Small talk, small talk, small talk.
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(child laughing)
- Hi. - Hey.
- Quick question, can you tell which one of us
is an introvert and which one of us is an extrovert?
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- Yeah.
This guy, permanent jazz hands.
- Sorry. - All the time.
- I'm an extrovert.
I get my energy from the world around me,
and mostly, from people around me.
As many people as possible.
- I am a very proud introvert.
I get my energy and I recharge best on a couch.
I like to keep it from flying off, that's what I say.
If I get up off of the couch, it might fly away.
So I thought we could share how each of us handles
life's situations. - With the other one.
- As an extrovert or an introvert.
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- The best setting for this is a party
with lots of people, some of which you know a little bit
and some of which you don't know at all.
- And we show up and Penn's like,
Hey here are my jazz hands.
Small talk, small talk, small talk.
- I don't do jazz hands. - Hey, you absolutely do.
So I'm an extrovert, let's talk for 15 minutes
about people we know in common, yeah.
- That's a good way to get to know people.
- [Kim] Oh hey, Steve, I haven't seen you in 10 minutes.
Yeah, let's talk for 15 minutes
about the last time we saw each other.
- Steve's a nice guy.
You don't wanna talk
to Steve? - CrossFit,
have you every tried CrossFit?
Let's try CrossFit.
I can talk for 10 minutes about CrossFit.
Small talk, small talk, small talk.
I'm not awkward at all.
- I do not talk about CrossFit
unless someone else volunteers CrossFit.
- Are we sure? - But they don't talk
about CrossFit.
- Are we sure?
I love it because when I'm not ready to play the role
of an extrovert, I can just stand next to you, and you can
lead the way. - You literally do latch on.
Like no offense, this is you, okay.
I have to find the one person that I know
and not leave their side like one of those little fish
that hang on to sharks when they swim like ramada,
remora, remora fish.
- What?
- Not a ramada fish, that would be a fish
in a hotel. - In hotel.
- Remora, like you know the remora fishes.
They go and they like suck on them.
They go (slurps) and they suck onto the side of a shark.
- Like a parasite? - Yeah.
- I'm a parasite?
- No, you're a very cute parasite.
I was just trying to use a metaphor.
This is a extemporaneous situation.
For real, you walk in
and you case the joint. - I do.
I look for non-obvious exits. - Like where
is there a garage door?
Honey where's your garage door?
Your house is so nice.
Where are your lowest windows?
I love this house.
Where's the window, I could say, jump out of?
And leave this party without telling anyone, thanks!
- No. - Like that is (mumbling).
- If they have a dog
I can be found with the animals or the children.
I'm usually hanging out with the kids or the animals
at a party.
- Or more specifically you just ghost me, sometimes.
Like I will be sitting there talking to someone
and I'll get a message on my phone
and I'll read it, it's from you and it's like,
I'm sitting in the car right now.
Take your time, but I'm here now.
And take as much time as you want, but leave now.
- Sorry.
- I love people.
I love parties.
I love being around people at parties
until I don't.
And when that moment comes,
I know myself - It approaches rapidly.
- I know its best to leave. - Yeah.
- But I do it.
And so nobodies gonna invite us anywhere anymore.
I'm kinda okay with that.
I'm kidding.
Another thing, extroverts are really good at
is talking on the phone, I think.
I, when I say my daily allotment of words for the day
I am done. - You have no more.
Yeah.
- I have no more words. - I got that from my dad.
Someone could robo call my dad for life insurance
and he'd be like,
Tell me everything that has happened to you
from the time that you were born
until right now.
You are just fascinating!
- He sounds like Yosemite (mumbles).
Foghorn Leghorn - He does sound
like Foghorn Leghorn.
You are the opposite.
You actually say, we'll order Chinese food.
And she'll call (Penn makes phone sounds)
Okay honey you have to do this.
Why?
Because I said all of the words I can say today.
I don't want to talk to this person.
You do it.
- Yeah. - All you have to do
is order Chinese food.
- No, but I just,
sometimes words are hard to say
to people and it takes a lot of energy.
Meanwhile, I hand him the phone,
this happened last Friday,
I hand him the phone and he's like,
Hey, yeah, abso... yes, the usual
uh, really, you're getting married?
That's ama... congratuala... how are the kids?
Awe, that's so great! - Are you talking about
Stephanie from Peking Garden? - Yes.
- She's awesome.
- So he knows Stephanie - Yeah we're good friends now.
- On the phone and they chat.
Only from ordering food.
It sucks my life stores
to talk on the phone.
Another thing I think extroverts are very good at
is being spontaneous,
and accepting invitations with no notice.
If it's a social invitation
I need some warning
to kind of work - Prepare...
myself up to it emotionally.
And I know this about myself.
Penn on the other hand is like,
hey you know those people we just met like 30 minutes ago.
They invited us to dinner tonight.
Isn't that great, so great.
I can't wait to not be awkward
because I can talk to anybody at anytime about anything.
- But we never go to those things.
Because you always come up with an excuse.
- Well I just need time
- We just got invited to dinner with this couple.
Oh well don't like the kids have a test that day.
Okay they had a test that day.
The test will be over.
And then you're like, but, but, but...
we're not gonna get a sitter on such notice.
And I'm like why don't we call and check.
You're like no, no
she's got a boyfriend.
She doesn't get to spend anytime with her boyfriend.
She needs to spend some time with her boyfriend.
Like, you can text her
and let her come up with her...
I don't want to do that okay!
That's how it is, you go
So this is when we first started with this.
She goes to three excuses
before she finally says I don't wanna go out.
Now she just knows to lead with it.
- Yeah. - And I understand that,
by the way.
- I'm definitely better - Like I get that.
- about that.
And that being said,
I'm really slamming myself and introverts.
But I think the world needs introverts.
Right? - Totally!
- I think that introverts, like myself
we read a room very well.
We're very empathetic.
And I think it's very
it takes a little more out of an introvert
to be up and social. - Yeah.
- That being said, I love going to parties.
I love my friends.
- I'm really glad that you're an introvert.
I'm glad you're not like me.
I would be exhausted if I was married to me.
And I would not like that.
So, I'm super grateful that you're like
There's not two pens in this family.
- Oh my gosh.
Could you imagine? - Although there kind of are.
- Yeah, there are actually
there are literally two pens. - Daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy,
daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy.
Well anyway, this is how we work together.
That was a quick look into our lives
and how some of us are just kind of like
Golden Retrievers who just lick people
when they meet them.
And some of us are a little more
measured. - Yeah.
- But also equally adorable.
And see look. - Ruby.
Ruby is - She's both.
- She's both.
- Thank you for watching...
- (laughing) Ruby.
She would like to say something,
hold on, excuse me.
- Ruby, do you wanna take us home?
- Yeah. - Take us out of this.
- Say subscribe! - Take us out of this.
Take us out of this Ruby.
Say, thanks for watching!
- Awe
- My little extrovert.