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- Hi, good evening.
Welcome back to another late night chat with me tonight.
We are gonna be diving deep and eating some good food.
So let's get started with a cheeky little beverage.
What are some soft skills
that are arguably crucial for life?
So I actually had to look up what soft skills were
before answering this question,
but soft skills are essentially habits
and qualities that help you interact
with people in a positive way.
So this could look
like communication, teamwork, active listening,
like it's honestly impossible to prioritize and rank them.
But if I had to only select one,
it would probably be emotional intelligence,
because being able to manage
and understand your own emotions as well as reading the room
and understanding other people's emotions,
you are like set for life.
Hard skills on the other hand are specific abilities
and knowledge that you learn
in order to perform a certain job or a task.
Like you usually learn this
through school training or just practicing
'cause you love it.
But if I could only choose one, it'd probably be writing.
Because being a good writer means
that you can think clearly.
Like think about it,
every time you write,
you're transcribing that voice inside your head.
It's like the best
most efficient way to see what's inside your mind.
It forces you to organize your thoughts
and ideas into logical, coherent arguments.
So inside the cup I have some lemon ginger ice
cubes that I made last night.
Very simple.
And then to top it off, I'm gonna add some soda water.
Ooh, this looks hella refreshing.
Oh, this is amazing.
How do you make the most out of therapy sessions?
So therapy is definitely an investment.
And so for me to optimize all my sessions,
I immediately jot down what we spoke about.
Obviously the more detailed you are, the more you'll retain.
But just this like simple act of writing what you spoke
about is gonna help you see
what patterns reemerge over and over again.
So one thing I'll share was my tendency
to romanticize the past.
Like if enough time passes on something,
let's say like a lost friendship or something,
I'll tend to only remember the good things.
Like all of the cracks that you can't remember,
you just fill it with fantasy.
So it warps your reality on what actually happened.
And so I was really analyzing why I tend to do this
and it's because the past feels safe.
It feels safe because I've already been there,
rather than what's happening now or the future,
which is full of uncertainty.
Those people are gone.
These are old versions of you,
old versions of these people, they're not here anymore.
I feel like life is just a series
of just like letting go and understanding
that romanticizing something is just you clinging
onto a safety blanket.
It's tough love.
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Ooh.
Oh my god, this looks so freaking delicious.
I'm excited to eat this guys.
Wow, let me get a little bit
of everything in this actually.
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Wow, I can't believe I made this.
Okay, so I wanna chat about aging in the YouTube industry.
Like if I'm gonna be completely honest,
I think I had a moment
in like my mid twenties where I was like
oh my God, I'm actually getting old.
Like I'm not a spring chicken anymore.
I'm starting to see all these new younger creators
just crushing it with their morning routines.
And so yeah, I was like kind of sweating a little bit,
but you know what's crazy?
Since becoming 30, I've just really relaxed
into myself and it's been really nice.
Like I think it also helps that YouTube is a platform
that everyone uses.
It's not just reserved for the young people.
Like it's not like a Snapchat.
Like I wonder if people still use Snapchat.
Everyone uses YouTube and it's amazing
because the audience is like growing up with me.
If you look at my analytics, the demographic is me.
It's like from 24 to 34.
So that's really cool to see.
So in a way I don't feel like we will ever
be pushed out.
As long as we keep watching it,
there's gonna be creators that we resonate with.
Like even the YouTubers that I watch,
they're all my age and older preferably.
I think like aging and like losing my youth
is something that I try my best
not to put so much attention on.
Yes, if I look in the mirror,
I'll like spot fine lines and wrinkles,
but I don't have this like urge
to freeze anything on my face.
I mean maybe it's easy
for me to say right now because I still think I'm young.
Hot take.
I think thirties are still extremely young.
I think forties is young, like we are still in,
like I'm still in the second quarter of my life.
I feel like as I get older I'm just finding other ways
of finding self-worth outside this external meat
shell that's like constantly gonna change.
I know that from like 10 to 20 years from now,
if I look at this footage now,
I'll be like, Goddam I was a fetus.
I was so flipping young.
So I think there is like a like a,
I don't know, age dysmorphia.
I don't know youth dysmorphia.
Like where you feel like you look older
than you actually are.
Honestly, it's like a gift and privilege to get older.
And so if you have the luxury to age, then appreciate it.
It's freaking crazy.
I think right now my main focus is my wellbeing,
my mental, physical health.
And maybe it's because I wanna live as long as possible,
so that I can see my son age and grow up to be a man.
What's your opinion on the education system?
Okay, now this is something that actually needs a facelift.
I think like now we're starting to realize
that standardized testing is not an accurate way
to measure intelligence.
Like, oh my God, like the SATs star testing.
It used to freaking break me down.
I'd be a nervous wreck and suddenly I'd forget everything.
So I think the way we evaluate intelligence
and education is gonna rapidly change,
especially with all this AI stuff
that's going around like Chat GPT.
It's gonna change everything,
especially the education system.
And for those who are like, what's that?
Let me fill you in.
So chat GPT is the most powerful AI tool that's ever
been released to the public.
Like it's kind of like Google where you can ask it anything,
but instead of it just giving you just like a bunch
of pages for your answers Chat GPT will answer it
in a very straightforward conversational way.
You can literally ask it to do anything,
including writing your essays, write computer code.
You can even write a Christmas card to your grandma.
Like if you can think of the prompt
you can have Chat GPT create it.
So this is going to completely disrupt the education system.
So I saw a video from Sinead Bevell who predicted
that we're probably gonna have to change
the way we test for knowledge.
Like if a student can use Chat GPT to write an essay
on the reconstruction era and get a B minus,
that doesn't mean that we stop writing altogether.
Like when the calculator was invented,
it's not like we were like, no we're not,
we're not ever gonna do math anymore.
But we use the calculator
as a a tool to do more advanced equations.
Not that I'm doing them.
Right now, I don't have the solution
of what to do, but I'm thinking maybe we can ask chat GPT.
So you're probably wondering how does it work.
So Chat GPT works because it uses a large language
model that essentially is script 45 terabytes worth
of information online.
And so it used all that info as a database,
so that it can find and predict
like connections and patterns,
so that it can figure out what it's gonna say next.
So everything that it says, we taught it.
This is like no technology we have ever, ever seen before.
I'm quoting Tristan Harris, a digital ethicist who says
that this AI technology has the ability
to give us God-like powers,
but then that means
that we need to have the wisdom
of Gods to harness these powers.
So what's the difference between intelligence and wisdom?
Well, intelligence is specific.
It's kind of like the hard skills
that we spoke about earlier.
It's like how well you know a certain thing
or how much you studied
or how well you can speak in string sentences together
or how you put two and two together.
But I feel like wisdom is being able to see everything
through a wider lens
and also being a vessel for the greater good of humanity.
I ripped this description from Danielle Bollelli
who is like a modern day philosopher and writer.
He's incredible.
I got that from him
and it really put things into perspective for me.
How do you deal with uncertainty in life?
It's an everyday challenge.
No, but for real.
I think to end things
on a positive note is that life has always been changing.
It's always been uncertain.
And so it's just, I think it's like realizing
what's in your control and what's out of your control.
If it's in your control, do something about it.
If it's out of your control, just surrender.
With all that said, I think it's just
like a daily reminder to be present and really
enjoy this like sweet transitional spot where
nothing will ever be like this ever again.
But these are just the things that I've been thinking
about and this channel has always been an outlet
for me to share my interests.
When I was 19, I really enjoyed thrifting and fashion
and to an extent I still do, but I don't find like
much joy talking endlessly about fashion anymore.
Like these are the things that I like to talk about.
So if anything, I just hope that this video,
through this video, I can find pockets of connection
of people who are interested in the same thing.
I guess we just have to strap on and see what happens.
That is it on my end.
It is late.
It's even later 'cause it's like 10:15 now.
But yeah, I hope you guys enjoy this video
and I will see you guys in the next one.
Bye.