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regular basis right behind me is the statue of Bruce
Lee one of my heroes and one of the reasons why he is one of my heroes among
many things is his achievement of excellence in his lifetime he was only
32 years old when he died and just seeing his statue gives me that sense so
he's like a metaphor and a model for me and a model of excellence and for a lot
of people they don't really understand how to create excellence and if they
stumble upon it they're not even sure how they created it and until the 1970s
the human potential movement and things like NLP came onto the scene it was just
kind of thought that either were good at something or you just never were going
to be good at something and of course we learned now that that's not true and so
it basically breaks down to three things an NLP we really look for patterns so
we're looking for patterns of excellence patterns that create excellence and for
a lot of people they focus a little too much on content like what's the story
behind it like oh I became good at something because when I was a little
boy or when I was a little girl I started doing this with that and that's
all fine and there's something to that but what NLP does is it looks like it
looks at patterns and structure so I can break this down I can break excellence
down into three main patterns or three main structures that you want to be
focusing on just understanding and being very clear about any one of these three
patterns that alone can get you to what you want
into achieving excellence but don't leave anything up the chance implement
all three and speaking of Bruce Lee one of the
things he used to say is don't punch your target don't just aim at the target
aim inches beyond the target so instead of punching at someone you punch through
someone and that's one of the things that a lot of people don't do when it
comes to setting goals they're not looking for the deeper values behind the
goals so if the goal is the target a lot of people get really focused on the
target instead of going beyond the target beyond the goal so if your goal
is to make more money buy a car buy a house what is it that you're trying to
fulfill by getting those material objects or achieving those goals and it
doesn't have to be objects it could be you want to run a marathon or something
like that so the first thing to do is to focus on what are the patterns of what I
would call values that you seek so the seeking of a value are values is a
pattern to understand when you're aiming for excellence so it's what is it about
excellence what is it what is excellence going to do for you so you want to find
what that is that deeper meaning because that's where motivation lies when you
understand beyond the goal beyond the target what it is that you want to
fulfill and you connect with that you'll never have to worry about motivation so
you won't you won't be thinking about all I cuz I get this all the time I get
questions like well I'm just not motivated or I watch too much TV or play
too many video games and if I could just get rid of that then I could I could
achieve whatever it is that I want and it's not about getting rid of that it's
about understanding that there is a deeper value that you're trying to
fulfill by playing the video games it probably gives you some short-term
fulfillment but then when you're done you're like ah that was a that didn't
work so well for me so this also brings me now into the second pattern which is
strategy so what is the strategy once you know what the value is or the
that you're looking to fulfill what's your strategy for doing that so if
you're not achieving excellence now it's not because your values aren't in place
the values are there it's just your strategy to fulfill those values isn't a
very good strategy so you just need to change up the strategy and you'd like to
pursue whatever it is that whatever it is that you define as excellence but
when you come back from work you're just too tired and the work that you're doing
isn't connected to the excellence that you want to achieve the work that you're
doing is just to pay the bills and believe me I've been there most of us
have unless you were born into wealth we all have we all have to pay our bills
and we usually have to work jobs that we don't want to so how do you get around
that well you have to in your off hours work on whatever it is that you want to
work on but you come back home a lot of times in your tire and you don't want to
do it so then you go play video games then you go watch movies understanding
what that strategy and you might be thinking strategy that's not a strategy
that's that's being lazy laziness is a strategy start thinking in terms of
patterns not content when you say oh that's laziness then you're giving a
meaning to it and you're calling and that's what gives it the content that
I'm talking about we want to get out of content so instead of saying oh it's or
having having a story about it well I worked all day so I deserve to go watch
a movie or and I'm not saying you don't it's just you have to get out of that
mindset of the content the story behind it or the meaning behind what it is that
you're doing and go to the strategy so first one is values the second one is
strategy what is the strategy that you're using to achieve excellence and
look at everything as a strategy you being lazy is a strategy to fulfill a
value and once you start breaking this down and understanding these patterns
then you can change them more easily but when you're stuck in the story when
you're stuck in content really really difficult to break out of this so start
looking at patterns and structure with it so that's just to the third
resources values strategy and resources so what are resources and I mentioned
this to people especially when I'm coaching people they say resources what
are you talking about resources resources are the internal parts of you
that you're not accessing and if you could access them then you would get to
achieve whatever it is that you want so if I know that I want to make more money
and I know my value is behind it say its security and freedom and my strategy I
realize my strategy for doing this was just to save money not to make a bunch
more money and so now I'm realizing I got to change that strategy so I changed
the strategy but then it's still not happening or I'm still not doing it or
I'm having trouble implementing the strategy because I keep falling into old
patterns of being lazy or watching TV or whatever it is that's when you need to
locate a resource or resources to achieve your the excellence so what are
resources resources can be things like persistence determination creativity
sense of humor resilience compassion harm think about it like this
what do you need in order to implement your strategy what's not there that
you're not accessing now you might be thinking oh it's something like I just
need more time or I need more money or I need more I need more connections and
whatever the field is that I'm that I'm doing
stop thinking externally certain things that are external you can't control what
you can control is which what's within you there's a presupposition in NLP that
we have all the resources we need to achieve anything so presuppose that you
have the internal resource because because more than likely you do and so
search inwardly and ask yourself what is it do what what is it that I need in
order to execute this strategy that I'm not accessing right now what is also
helpful is look at the values you're looking to fulfill by achieving
excellence and those are usually good indications of what resources you need
sometimes the values themselves can be a resource of values and resources are not
the same thing I don't want to confuse you about that values are what you're
looking to fulfill but sometimes the resource is also the value so let's say
you want to fulfill the value of creativity wealth creativity is also a
resource so maybe you're just not accessing that venue maybe the value
you're wanting to fulfill is freedom and you're not accessing freedom within
yourself you're locked into this limited way of thinking or a limited way of
believing so the axe the resource you need to access within yourself is say
free thinking or more creativity which is what happens when you break out of a
limitation you you're able to access more creativity
so just to recap the three things to focus on or your values the deeper
values beyond the target or the goal or the achievement of excellence what are
you looking to focus it's usually more than one value really
high-level value the second one is strategy what strategy are you using to
not get what you want what strategy are you using to not achieve excellence and
maybe just try the exact opposite try anything different that's another
presupposition in NLP if something's not working try something different try
anything different so change up the strategy and when you have a strategy
and if you're not able to implement that strategy it's probably because you're
not accessing an internal resource so find out what that is access it put it
back into place and you might be thinking well how do I do that how do I
access it remember a time when you were feeling whatever it is that the resource
is so if you say it's determination or persistence remember a time when you
were very determined and very persistent and just by accessing that memory you
will access the resource and the feeling of that and then you can implement it
into your new strategy so don't leave anything up to chance don't just focus
on the values or the goal that you're trying to fulfill don't just focus on
the strategy and don't just focus on whatever resource is missing focus on
all three sharpen all three and it's also a work in progress as you make
progress these things might change up a little bit and it's not so much that
they're changing it's just that you're getting more clear about them so maybe
you implemented a missing resource and then you start to realize that you need
another resource there's another resource that's missing that you're not
accessing and then maybe as you go deeper maybe as you start to get what
you want you realize that there's a deeper value even deeper than what you
had found of the values that you've discovered before so you need to go even
deeper with this and then most importantly be willing to change up your
strategy a lot of people get caught up on their strategy because they're not
clear about their values so they put they double down on the strategy and
they never want to change the strategy the strategy is probably the thing that
you're going to end up changing the most because until you've actually done
something you're really only guessing so keep changing up the strategy until
the strategy works for
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