Texts You Should NEVER Send A Woman [0:00:00]
[Music] Ooh, she’s excited to see me tonight.
I’m excited to see her and I’m going to show her.
Stop!
Don’t send that text.
In today’s video, I’m laying out over a dozen text messages that you should never
send a woman.
Why aren’t you answering me?
I can see that the message was delivered.
What’s going on?
So, the why aren’t you answering me text, guys, you don’t want to send it, it makes
you look aggressive, it makes you look obsessed, it makes you look needy.
Come on, that’s not the message you want to send, you want – give her more than a
couple of minutes.
And, usually women have three reasons why they’re not responding to a guy.
First up, she’s legitimately busy.
Maybe she’s at work, she had something pop up that’s incredibly important that she
has to take care of.
She got busy with something else.
Next up, she got distracted.
She was waiting for her friends to show up she was texting you passing some time and
all of a sudden, her friends showed up, they called her name.
She put her phone away and she went over to meet them.
She got distracted.
Or maybe she just doesn’t want to text you back right now, maybe you asked a question
that’s making her think and she doesn’t want to think, she doesn’t want to give
you a long response, she would rather say it to you in person.
Maybe you said something that she wasn’t happy with.
In any case, she’s decided I’m not going to text this guy right back right now.
She doesn’t owe you this response.
Now, if it’s something important, you do want to talk with her, there are other means
of communication.
Give her a phone call, actually talk with her on the phone.
A big overarching thing with today’s video, gentlemen, is that men and women view texting
very differently.
For women, it’s social, for men it’s more practical and that’s why sometimes our expectations
are very different than theirs.
[Ring tone] Oh, she sent me a picture.
Who is that guy that has his arm around you?
It looks like it could be your dad.
Send.
Oh, it is your dad.
So, let’s talk about the who’s that guy text.
This just makes you look jealous.
Now, of course inside you may be jealous, you may be wondering who the heck is that
guy, but understand she sent you that photo, she wanted to share this information with
you and makes you just ask her in person if you’re really curious who that person is.
Okay, guys, so we’re going to the bar tonight, let me quick send a message to this girl I’ve
been dating.
Oh, she’s going to bed.
Hey, babe, how are you doing?
Going to bed?
I’m going to go to bed too.
Yeah, I normally go to bed this early.
I had a tough day at work.
See you.
All right, guys, are you ready?
Let’s go.
So, it seems so innocent the little white lie text, but here’s the problem is little
white lies lead to bigger lies.
And they also lead to suspicion because when she finds out you didn’t go to bed that
you actually went out with your friends, she’s wondering what else is he lying to me about.
You don’t want to have any type of person you interact with being suspicious of your
motives and what you’re doing behind their back.
So, avoid the little white lies, they lead to bigger lies and that just leads to a lot
of problems.
What do you want to do tonight?
I don’t know.
What do you want to do tonight?
Now, let’s talk about the indecisive text.
The vast majority of dates and going out and doing things are initiated by men and many
women the majority like it when a man is actually putting forth the initiative of what direction
to go.
It is something that, hey, don’t be afraid to take the lead and to take direction.
Actually, I find I do this in business especially when meeting up with people because people
in general can be so indecisive.
And it’s refreshing when somebody comes in and has a plan even if you decide not to
follow it.
So, what’s your favorite band?
So, what’s your favorite movie?
What’s your favorite color?
Do you want to have children?
What do you think of global warming?
Who do you think should be the next president? Whoa.
Whoa.
Slow down machine gun, Kelly.
You don’t want to do this rapid fire texting.
This is where you’re asking question after question after question after question.
Texting is supposed to be relatively light and, yes, if you’ve got a lot of questions,
well, set up a time to meet with them, ask them in person.
Maybe go have a few drinks, but texting is not the place where you just want to throw
question after question after question.
It gets old fast.
Hey, what’s up?
Good.
Yeah, what’s up with you?
Let’s call this one the boring bro text.
This is when you send a very simple message and you’re just expecting response.
This makes you look lazy.
It makes you look like you’re not doing anything original that you didn’t really
think about this.
You could send this to anybody.
You’re just throwing it out there and expecting her to do the work and to let you know what’s
been going on with her day and all of that stuff.
And oftentimes women are going to send a very simple boring response and that’s really
all where the conversation is going to go.
Think a little bit give her a better text.
Hey, how’s it going?
Where are you?
Who are you with?
What are your GPS coordinates?
Please send them ASAP.
So, I call this one the worry dad text.
And if you are a dad you’re worried about your kids, you have my permission to send
this as much as you want.
But, for the rest of us especially if you’re interacting with a woman you’re just starting
to date, she’s not going to give you all that information, she has her own life.
Maybe wants to keep some things private, doesn’t mean she’s hiding things from you, she just
simply doesn’t want to share her GPS coordinates.
So, don’t put a tracker on her phone.
[0:05:11] So, I know we just met last night, but I want
you to have my babies, all twenty of them.
So, we’re going to call this one the going overboard text.
If you had a great time, you want to follow up with that person, of course, but don’t
go overboard, don’t send messages which put a lot of pressure on that person, scare
them away, make it seem like it’s very one directional.
In most cases, relationships have a natural progression.
They do take time for people to get to know each other before they want to have children
together, so don’t scare this person off by throwing out all your emotions right there
in the text.
Oh, I’m an idiot.
I’m so sorry I forgot your birthday.
I know you say it’s okay, but I am so stupid.
We’re going to call this one the endless apology.
You’ve asked for forgiveness, they gave forgiveness.
That’s done.
You don’t need to keep beating yourself up.
Some of you guys may enjoy this and that’s actually how it comes off that you’re looking
for attention.
All of a sudden, it stops being about them, it’s now about you and you want other people
to help you feel better because you feel so bad.
Get over yourself and simply you gave the apology, you did what you could when you see
them in person maybe bring up some flowers, make it up to them some way, but you don’t
want to say keep sending this message I’m sorry, I’m going to beat myself up, I’m
an idiot.
You may be, but, yeah, you don’t need to say it again and again.
All right.
So, I think I look pretty good here.
I know some of you guys are not going to like the shirt.
If you like this combination, let me know down in the comments.
Let me ask – let me ask, okay, take a selfie, send this out, what do you think?
Do you like it?
Are you sure?
I don’t really know what to think about that combination.
Are you really, really sure?
Because I had a few people tell me that they don’t like this combination.
We’re going to call this text the seeking approval for everything.
You keep asking are you sure, you’re unsure of yourself and you’re trying to put the
responsibility on other people.
Here is the thing, you are going to have to take chances in life and you will fail some
of the time.
Always know that you can pivot you can adjust, sometimes you’re going to wear an outfit
some people are going to like it, some people aren’t.
It doesn’t matter.
Simply walk forward with confidence if you make a mistake, take a step back and correct
yourself, otherwise keep moving.
I’m so bored right now.
I have nothing to do.
What are you up to?
Send me a picture.
I’m so bored.
I wish I was there.
We’re going to call this one the entertainment text.
The issue with this one is it after awhile nobody likes to receive these because you’re
just sucking away energy.
You’re asking for pictures, asking for stories, asking for updates, always complaining about
what’s going on in and around you.
And here’s the deal, if you’re always complaining about what’s in and around you,
people don’t want to be around you, so stop sending those.
Occasionally once in awhile it’s acceptable, but if you’re sending them again and again,
that’s a bad thing.
[Camera clicking sound] So, this one is the pointless selfie and I have to admit that
I like sending these to people just to confuse them.
But, most of the time especially in the early part of the relationship, this isn’t necessarily
what you want to do.
Unless you’ve got a great relationship with them, this could come off as the wrong way.
So, be careful with those pointless selfies.
On the other hand, if I’ve sent you a pointless selfie, feel blessed.
So, what to watch next?
How about learning about emojis?
I’ve got you covered in this video.
I actually bring up some scientific research talking about which emojis you should use
and which ones you want to avoid when texting women.
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