IYANLA (VOICEOVER): Trust is an important element
in the healing process.
Thinking about me trying to break y'all up?
(VOICEOVER) Clearly, both Jillian
and Ray are having a hard time trusting themselves--
Is that really what you think? (VOICEOVER) --and me.
I really felt that way.
IYANLA (VOICEOVER): So I've decided to lighten
the mood with a game--
We gonna have some fun right now.
Get your little board-- (VOICEOVER) --in order
to get them to let their guard down.
So just put the answer as you know it best, OK?
So-- - Lord.
[MISCHIEVOUS MUSIC]
IYANLA: Who was first to say I love you?
Let me see.
(LAUGHS) Ah-hah!
Really?
What made you do that?
It was spur of the moment. Just came up.
I looked at her, and I was like, ah, I really do love her.
Then she looked at me like--
[TUTS] all right. I'll let it go.
[COUPLE LAUGHING]
IYANLA: How long into the relationship?
- Not long. - It wasn't long at all.
Maybe--
I would [INAUDIBLE] say it was like three weeks.
[LAUGHS] [MUSIC ENDS]
Really?
OK.
What was your first argument about?
[MISCHIEVOUS MUSIC]
OK, show your answer.
Dinner choices?
Mm. [JILLIAN LAUGHS]
Oh, what? Tell me.
[MUSIC ENDS]
Now as soon as you saw that, you knew, right?
RAY: Mm-hmm. - What is it?
I actually drank the last cola in the fridge,
and I didn't restock the fridge, and her favorite drink is cola,
and literally, she let me have it.
What was the upset for you?
You took something of mine.
Really?
To your future husband?
He doesn't drink sodas--
[CHUCKLES] he drinks water, and that was the last one left.
OK, so let me ask you this question.
[SUSPENSEFUL MUSIC]
What is your partner's pet peeve about you?
OK, let's see.
[MUSIC ENDS]
[IYANLA LAUGHS]
[INAUDIBLE].
When you correct her.
Tell me more about that.
There are so many things-- things that
happen on television, things that's happened
on a day to day basis.
It seems like, I can't stand when you do that, (CHUCKLES)
all right?
I correct her all the time about stuff.
JILLIAN: Really?
Really?
Why don't you like that?
I don't know.
It just bothers me.
Is it what he says, or is it being corrected?
Being corrected. [WOMEN LAUGH]
Being corrected. Yes.
IYANLA: Mm-hm.
OK.
What is your partner's greatest fear?
[SUSPENSEFUL MUSIC]
For themselves.
OK.
Let me see.
[MUSIC ENDS] Really?
[SOMBER MUSIC] That crosses your mind?
RAY: Yes, losing more of me.
I don't want-- I don't want that to happen at all.
IYANLA: It's not that we desire it, or we want it,
But what do you tell yourself would
happen if you, A, were not to marry him,
but B, were to lose him?
What do you tell yourself would happen?
[MUSIC FADES]
I wouldn't say what's the question
if I were not to marry him.
Why say that?
Because I asked you.
JILLIAN: Why don't you say what can we do to make
it work so we can get married?
Or what type of--
Who-- who are you-- who are you--
are you asking that of me?
Yeah.
But you didn't come to me to ask you the questions
that keep you comfortable. - Mm-hm.
You came to me to help you learn how
to do the uncomfortable things.
Did you answer the question that's in your book?
Mm-mm.
I didn't like that question.
I took it out.
IYANLA: What did you put, Mr. Ray?
I'mma let you see it.
What I tell myself will happen if I don't marry Jillian is--
I won't respond to don't.
What I will do is show you what's
to come when I marry Jillian.
I know I'm marrying this woman.
(STAMMERS) I never said you weren't.
I don't understand that.
(STAMMERS) And-- wait a minute.
You said if I don't.
How does-- that's not even in my equation.
This is what I have a challenge with--
[GRIM MUSIC]
--that you come asking for help and support,
and then you go and tell me how to do it.
(VOICEOVER) I sense that Ms. Jillian and Mr. Ray are trying
to avoid facing a larger truth about themselves individually,
and about their relationship.
But, until they can speak it, it cannot be healed.