have you ever been around a narcissist
if you have you know being around one
can make you feel like your soul is
being stuck dry until there's nothing
left sanderson's sister style sometimes
we brush off this draining feeling and
even change how we act to please The
Narcissist because we love them and in
hopes it play hates them
it may seem harmless making one or two
tiny changes but those little tweaks can
take big chips out of you and who you
are let's take a look at five ways
narcissistic abuse changes who you are
according to science
number one literal brain damage our
brains are the most intricate and
delicate of puzzles when one part of our
brain is stimulated or changed other
parts need to adjust to compensate when
you experience consistent narcissistic
abuse in your life your brain will
change to compensate for this treatment
in our article long-term narcissistic
abuse can cause brain damage author
educator and researcher Kim Saeed
explains that both the amygdala and the
hippocampus are both negatively impacted
by being a victim of narcissistic abuse
the amygdala which controls our life
functions and fight or flight response
and get to a point where it's constantly
on meaning you constantly feel on edge
your hippocampus which is crucial for
short-term memory can decrease in
function the more you're exposed to
narcissistic abuse this means they can
Gaslight you even easier than before
these decreased brain functions are a
huge way narcissistic abuse can change
you number two unknowingly becoming part
of the cycle if you see a young child
screaming in a store you might think to
yourself ah they can't tell their
parents what's wrong but what if you see
a teenager doing the same thing do you
still have the same thought chances are
your thoughts shift to what were you
taught as a kid Emily labatut of
Southern University law review wrote in
her article on the effects of
narcissistic abuse that a healthy
interpersonal relationship is where the
individual can see the situation from
their perspective as well as someone
else's perspective however if your
parent was a narcissist they only saw
things from their own eyes because only
they are important in 2021 this idea was
proven by University of Amsterdam
researchers in a study monitoring
children of narcissistic parents both on
and off social media unless the child
makes a conscious decision to stay off
social media and or act differently
they're more likely to become a
narcissist themselves that's a fun idea
what if Cinderella became just like her
stepsisters
let's move on number three Force
agreeableness
we've all heard of Pavlov and his doc
humans are the same and can be
conditioned if you are used to being
around a narcissist and them getting mad
at certain conversations or actions this
can condition you to act and speak in
certain ways in Ahmed Pub's health
science journal rivka adri Saidi
explains that a child with parents that
are authoritative rejecting and
traumatic towards the child can grow up
with certain learned or conditioned
personality traits such as introversion
kindness and agreeableness now we're not
saying that introversion kindness and
agreeableness are bad qualities however
they can be negative when you act this
way to stay out of a narcissist
crosshairs number four
PTSD but for narcissistic abuse abuse
comes in all shapes and sizes when you
are experiencing narcissistic abuse
consistently it's possible that you can
develop a sort of post-traumatic stress
response this response is called
narcissistic abuse syndrome or
narcissistic victim syndrome registered
psychologist registered social worker
and writer Shirley Porter lists the
symptoms of narcissistic abuse syndrome
as confusion fear guilt shame low
self-esteem and reduce self-confidence
so the longer you're around a narcissist
and their abuse the more at risk you are
for developing these thoughts and
feelings
remember you are loved and important
even if a narcissist is telling you
otherwise please reach out to a mental
health professional if you've
experienced narcissistic abuse and
number five changes to your self-esteem
have you ever had a day where you're
feeling amazing your fit is on point and
literally nothing can knock you off your
pedestal these days may not happen as
often in the presence of a narcissist in
2018 a different group of researchers
from the University of Amsterdam did a
study on narcissistic leaders and their
followers they found that the lower the
followers self-esteem the more abusive
they perceive to their leader due to the
followers low self-esteem and consistent
negativity from the leader the follower
begins to do more seeking the leader's
approval almost a carrot on a stick that
the follower never obtains this
ultimately resulted in reduced
performance and higher rates of burnout
narcissistic abuse is like erosion you
may not see a change immediately but
over time you can see the DraStic
difference have you ever experienced
narcissistic abuse did you see any
changes in yourself after a while of
being around that garbage let us know
your story in the comments below we have
more videos on signs of narcissistic
abuse here if you want to learn more as
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