you
we're gonna go on a double date I'm
excited well boy we're going to get
sushi first yeah that's where we're
meeting yeah for lunch we're gonna get
tight then sushi and then we're gonna go
to the park a lot of people in the
beginning didn't believe in us and today
they still don't lesson one don't listen
to other people
you'll be influenced by many take this
as a life lesson the more you listen to
others opinions of yourself the more you
create resistance in your head the more
resistance you feed your mind the more
you hold yourself back from being happy
so just don't listen unless whoever the
person you're dating is hurting you
physically or emotionally just don't
listen
right now in refighting what we wanted
such a beautiful day today
we started out long distance it was a
test of emotions of ourselves a
challenge I like a good challenge we
didn't give up on each other and need
every opportunity to connect on a daily
basis lesson two no communication equals
no relationship catching up on each
other sending dumb memes of dogs and
cats throughout the day to make each
other smile and laugh was what kept that
fire going I didn't go a day without
calling him we said good morning and we
said good night we Skyped weekly because
we missed each other
what's love if you don't miss each
other's face so in Japan they have these
little knickknacks that you can buy at
restaurant family restaurants for kids
or something like that well it doesn't
have to be for kids it could be for you
this is a back scratcher
what the heck yeah this is like a
keychain back scratcher anyway we're
gonna go to the park it's like the
longest name ever and we're with pigeon
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if you guys don't know that we should
check out their channel because they
have a lot of tips and tricks on
international relationships and
long-distance and all that stuff and
they just came out with a book yeah I
can't get below no I know a lot of
people on my channel like especially
like messaged me about our relationship
and like how we got through
long-distance and how we got through
being it or how we're still getting so
it's like good advice so I think that if
you guys are interested you guys can
check that out congratulations to them
releasing that book that's awesome
they're amazing they're so cute it's my
first day off in like a month I'm just
like I need to do something kotomi
thinks it does look like you lesson 3
say I love you often many times we tend
to hide from our true feelings
keep from feeling vulnerable and avoid
pain and the unknown but what that does
to our brains is feed us more resistance
by holding back our true feelings and
not expressing emotion we have a hard
time committing understanding and being
honest with ourselves in order to live
truly we must feel
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I want you to make a very wonderful
pause will be tell me a good fact about
Japan yeah an interesting back fact
about Japan's are yet to use he's a good
fight thank you
lesson for having alone time keeps the
relationship fresh with all the time you
make for someone you must give each
other space to recharge be with oneself
and think or create alone by giving each
other space we allow opportunities to
give more to each other and the
relationship oh they're like Naturals he
doesn't need to do anything
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he's used to this he's taken so many
couples photos oftentimes people think
of needing space as a negative thing but
alas it is not it helps you maintain
your individuality and immerse yourself
spiritually how'd you feel today baby
yes super good do you feel like a ninja
can you make a ninja possibly please
show me I need something better more
fairway
yes oh you're so quick actually
Oh Yugi has an idea what is this boy
it's kind of creepy right
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I don't know what this place is nice
what is this
this would be a good photo like right
here but like what is it is it a room
aura sure let's go city I haven't been
here in so long it's very refreshing
we're thinking of going to the haunted
house though I think we're gonna go
check that out because it might be a
little bit different this season lesson
five drop all expectations as an
international couple we realize that we
have our differences and learn something
new about each other and our habits
every day having patience with each
other and becoming an open-minded human
being has killed a lot of stress in the
relationship
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that's where we go
Oh
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I'll never know why lesson six know your
worth if someone doesn't make you happy
most of the time if you feel down on
yourself unmotivated it's never seeing
any effort need to speak to you be
intimate with you get to know you even
from a distance or in an international
relationship it's not worth the love you
have for yourself he's waiting on the
first I know right wait relative or
right yeah let me be there
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okay the end of the night and we're
heading home and I'm kind of drunk it's
like a comfortable kind of like I know I
know my limit now like if I were to
drink more than this I probably want to
make it this is fun don't drunk what are
we doing we're at the grocery store it's
almost 11:00 yeah p.m. we need bananas
this is drunk grocery shopping this
looks more green this is what you want
what the green bananas I want some
kimochi and some fruit look at this
fruit we have some work in and baby
leave you know what baby leave do I want
this do I want spinach
I want spinach go man are you drunk - oh
no common night at midnight and I top it
a night I'm getting some salad a salad
this is a salad of we have the salad ah
there's a lot of salad on here at this
hour
yeah
wait come with me please don't leave me
you know I drunk shop grocery shopping
drunk is easier to introduce yourself
beautiful girl hi my name is Eugene and
I love this girl so much
right here I'm gonna get chicken this is
good chicken dick gains rate cheap in
Japan my talk is cheap
this is fine see port two bucks
I know how to be any relationship can
have its ups and downs but different
types of relationships such as long
distance or international can have a lot
more obstacles and challenges so I'd
like to introduce you to some experts on
the topic hi everyone we are baby Chan
we are youtuber as well and we will
focus mostly on International couple
long distance relationship and so we are
going to make this video only in English
our good friend Kelly asked us some
advice how to be in a long-distance
relationship and some tips so too you
know how to make it works yeah actually
we are kind of focused on long-distance
relationship lately as it tips and
advice we even wrote a book about it so
saying all of it in five minute will be
quite hard but we're gonna try to give
you like the most important advice so
for me the first tips that would give is
quite easy you need to make sure that
you have the same idea of the
relationship before going exactly what
are you searching for is it serious is
it casual are you gonna be able to show
the people while she's gone or is it
like something extremely serious were
you waiting for each other I need some
done but a lot of people don't do that
and then after the surprise that's
something collapse one of them is really
serious another one is not yeah it's
gonna make really huge problem
after all exactly so that would be the
first the first things to do make sure
you're on the same page then second for
me would be communication you need to be
extremely good at communication yeah
yeah especially if you were with
Japanese girl like Japanese people don't
communicate often office with you by
like less than like Western
so we always put the priority to
communicate the most exactly when
occasion is very important and you need
to force yourself to tell as much as you
can for each other especially about your
feeling if you feel sad you can tell it
to your partner communication is very
important because you're gonna be aware
and actually it's gonna be the only
thing that you have need to talk about
each other need to talk to each other
about you feeling about what you're
feeling what's good was not good when
you feel sad when you feel happy sure
yes if you're not bonus to your partner
like relationship will never work
because you will never know what your
partner is thinking exactly no and his
communication brings to like another
point that is very important which is
the mindset and mindset for me is super
important and the mindset is you are a
team it's never you against each other
it's you together as a team nobody is
very important you both look to the same
direction so when you're fighting
remember you're the same team you are
together you are here against the
problem together not against each other
both of you will be super emotional and
you will have kind of misunderstanding
in your mind that your partner is doing
something really wrong and yourself is
right really but this is not how you
gonna do you should think so you need to
always think about what's the best for
your couple because you're on the same
page and you you want you want to make
your relationship work so like you need
to have a priority all the time to think
about your couple not about yourself
exactly which it actually brings another
point which is priority yeah you mean a
long-distance relationship and you want
it to work it needs to be one of your if
not the priority of your life in general
yeah so like when you're when you're
doing long dissertation like we
always need to think about once you
finish along this relationship
so when to meet each other next time so
like we need to think about like really
important we need to think about the
relationship as a
the most important thing of your life
otherwise like you're gonna put
relationship aside and it will never
work
you will never plan anything for the
future and everything will collapse long
distance always needs to be temporary
that's why it's so important to choose
an end date which is on other tips like
we're focused like we wrote a book on
this relationship so many things to say
guys listen to Kelly she knows a lot as
well another thing from me is like you
need to have confidence about your
relationship
it doesn't mean about being confident
about yourself but like you always need
to think that this relationship will
work your partner will love you you will
love him so much so it helps to have a
mindset that if he's going out with
other friends maybe I will feel jealous
but it doesn't mean it will affect our
relationship because I know this
relationship will work I know he loves
me so this kind of confidence about
relationship itself is really necessary
yeah yeah no I think you have it you
know what I'm gonna put this here define
the relationship put it as a priority
have an end date be good at
communicating be honest with each other
have a good mindset of always being a
team and be confident about your
relationship already with all of this
you should be set up to have a good
relationship and guys you know John or
YouTube we do a lot of video everything
is in English or in English subtitles so
you can watch anything you wants all
right Thank You Kelly for having us and
see you guys there isn't back to you
Kelly
if you want to learn more about long
distance and international relationships
check out aurelion and click Tommy's
channel as well as their free guide and
ldr book in the links below
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