hello and welcome to a brand new advanced
advanced listening practice lesson
lesson I'm drew baju the world's number
number one english fluency guide and
and the co-founder of English anyone
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you are though let's
let's begin well I thought I would
would make this video today because
because I had a really interesting
interesting talk with my dad today
today I finally got him on skype you
you know you know we're like good
good buddies good friends but we just
just don't communicate we don't really
really speak that off and I don't
don't know maybe it's the same thing
thing in your family like maybe you're
you're a guy and you have a father
father and you don't speak with him
him very much but when you do it's
it's just like riding a bike this
this is a great English expression
expression you can use to talk about
about something that even if you haven't
haven't done it in a long time when
when you do decide to do that thing
thing again it's just like riding
riding a bike so
so if you haven't ridden a bike for
for many years you get back on a bike
bike again and it's really easy to
to start doing again so when my dad
dad and I do get to talking you know
know we talked about a lot of interesting
interesting things and it's like we
we never stop talking so it's always
always fun when we do talk and we've
we've you know always got plans to
to talk more often even though we
we really never do but we probably
probably should make plans to do that
that more anyway so I was talking
talking with my dad and we were talking
talking about a peculiar habit this
this word peculiar peculiar just means
means something that's odd or strange
strange but it's a little bit more
more of an advanced way of expressing
expressing this so to have a peculiar
peculiar habit or a peculiar habit
habit means to have something that's
that's maybe a little bit odd or different
different from what most people do
do and this actually isn't such a
a peculiar peculiar habit really for
for most people in terms of communicating
communicating with other people but
but the peculiar thing the weird or
or interesting thing is
is that we both do it and you know
know as another kind of expression
expression that you can use the apple
apple doesn't fall far from the tree
tree you probably have something like
like this in your native language
language the Apple so you have an
an apple tree and the Apple like Falls
Falls that's kind of like the parent
parent is the apple tree and the the
the child is the Apple down here so
so the apple doesn't fall far from
from the tree it
it just means the parents are often
often a like or often like their kids
kids or vice versa kids are often
often like their parents anyway so
so we were talking about the fact
fact this peculiar habit that we have
have is bringing up conversations
conversations are just starting to
to talk to people randomly you know
know just people that we meet on the
the street or at you know the bus
bus stop or at the movie theater or
or wherever we happen to be because
because we both do this he was talking
talking about other people kind of
of think it's strange that he does
does this i mean if you've seen my
my dad on the channel I mean he's
he's a he's a fun-loving guy he likes
likes to communicate with people he
he likes to talk so he likes to you
you know try to open up communication
communication with people the same
same way i do when we're you know
know talking with people and maybe
maybe other people are kind of I guess
guess a like a typical situation would
would be like especially here in Japan
Japan when you sit on a train with
with people nobody talks to people
people they don't know you would never
never begin a conversation with like
like a complete stranger and it's
it's very rare that people kind of
of break out of the situation that
that they're in normally when they're
they're you know just doing their
their kind of everyday work so a situation
situation like when I go into a Japanese
Japanese convenience store and I'm
I'm talking to the the clerk about
about behind the counter i would say
say oh hey how are you in like they
they they kind of like snap out of
of their usual working mode which
which is like yes hello you
you know they just say their thing
thing and they accept payment and
and then the customer leaves and this
this is what most people do when they
they go into a convenience store so
so they don't really have a connection
connection but actually like sometimes
sometimes I'll go into the convenience
convenience store and I will most
most people have name tags or even
even in Japanese like they will have
have the name tag and you can read
read and also oh hello you know whatever
whatever the name of the person is
is and they kind of look at me like
like like it's a completely different
different world something like that
that but anyway I just thought it
it was really interesting that this
this isn't a habit that specifically
specifically taught by you know people
people that are trying to get help
help other people get fluent in a
a particular language
language but it's actually really
really valuable skill it's kind of
of something I do do I mean with master
master English conversation members
members i give them speaking missions
missions like this where they go out
out and have to practice with people
people that they wouldn't normally
normally speak with but I it's a really
really good example of a way that
that like something that's just like
like a natural habit that you have
have it just happens to be good also
also for language learning so when
when you're thinking about doing something
something like this like try to think
think about the habits that you have
have naturally that you use in your
your own language that have really
really nothing to do with learning
learning a different language it's
it's just something you do naturally
naturally for your own language and
and think about the way you can combine
combine these things are use these
these things apply these things when
when you're talking about building
building fluency in English or any
any other language so this is you
you know having the confidence to
to speak to other people no matter
matter what they'll say to you you
you know maybe like they don't want
want to talk to you and that happens
happens sometimes I say oh hello I
I remember I was actually sitting
sitting at a i was at a restaurant
restaurant with some other people
people in the group of people some
some of them I didn't know some of
of them i did not and I said oh hello
hello to some woman and I was like
like oh you have like a nice shirt
shirt on or something like that and
and she kind of gave me like an angry
angry look and you know she didn't
didn't really want to speak with me
me and she's actually said that she
she was like you know I don't want
want to talk with you right now I'm
I'm not in a talking mood or something
something like that so I said okay
okay that's fine and I just turned
turned and started talking to somebody
somebody else so it does happen just
just like anything else you're going
going to have some people that either
either don't want to talk to you or
or it's annoying or you know whatever
whatever that thing happens to be
be but on the whole so on the whole
whole wh 0 le like the total so even
even though some part of that might
might not be so great most of it is
is most people are really happy to
to have someone to say like Hello
Hello or even just smile at somebody
somebody even if you don't say anything
anything you know walk into stores
stores or whatever I see random people
people like out walking and i'll just
just give them like a little you know
know
know hello
hello like that this little bow like
like an odd that kind of thing and
and it's going to really help you
you build your confidence because
because again you're out lake even
even initiating a conversation with
with someone especially if you're
you're really nervous to speak it's
it's not just like you go from nothing
nothing to speaking you there like
like a few steps that happening between
between so you can kind of say hello
hello you cannot to someone in like
like if they not back then like you've
you've taken a step closer to maybe
maybe having a conversation with
that
that person
person and then you say maybe hello
hello or hi or something in the eighth
eighth if they say hi back and say
say oh nice weather isn't it or something
something like that this
this is the kind of thing that happens
happens when you get into an elevator
elevator or you're standing somewhere
somewhere with somebody waiting and
and like you know you're just looking
looking to have a friendly conversation
conversation you trying to connect
connect with people even if it's just
just somebody that maybe you'll never
never see again or you know it's just
just a random person that you just
just feel like talking with but really
really the point is that you should
should be using all of these opportunities
opportunities whether it's in English
English or in your own language to
to actually develop the skill of communicating
communicating with people that you've
you've never met before because if
if you can do this in your own language
language it's much easier to translate
translate that into speaking a different
different one so in the case of myself
myself again because i have the natural
natural tendency of like wanting to
to try to communicate with people
people I don't know that even though
though I'm really scared to do it
it in Japanese I'm not scared anymore
anymore but when I was first learning
learning the language i was i was
was really nervous about doing that
that but it still made me want to
to like try to say something like
like say hello to figure out some
some way to communicate with these
these with these people because it's
it's only like when you finally communicate
communicate that everyone becomes
becomes human otherwise we're just
just kind of robots you know going
going about our daily life I'm just
just walking to work or I'm working
working as a clerk in a convenience
convenience store whatever that thing
thing is but the moment we speak to
to each other that's the moment we
we become you know human to one another
another in like everything changes
changes and it changes in an instant
instant
instant so
so this is something my dad and I
I both enjoy it was funny that we
we were talking about it now this
this kind of connects with another
another idea that I wanted to actually
actually talk about in this video
video so this yeah
yeah I was like planning on kind of
of doing this video and talking about
about permission and forgiveness so
so this is another it's connected
connected to this idea but i wanted
wanted to talk about that specifically
specifically when I thought about
about making this video so especially
especially in Japan I'll just use
use this as another Japanese example
example but it's much better like
like being a foreigner or pretty much
much anybody in the kind of Japanese
Japanese system where people have
have very strict rules are pretty
pretty strict rules about how you
you should be doing something that
that if you're going to try to do
do something different and you mentioned
mentioned that beforehand like if
if i go to my Japanese boss I work
work at a japanese company and I say
say hey I want to try to do something
something different i have a
$OPERAND
$OPERAND good
good idea they would say no like we're
we're not going to do that i mean
mean some people might but usually
usually on the whole on the whole
whole is probably not going to work
work that way so
so in Japan often it's better to do
do something first and then ask for
for forgiveness rather than permission
permission so
so this is good again goes along with
with the same idea of like when you
you when you go and talk to a clerk
clerk at a convenience store you don't
don't necessarily have like permission
permission to speak with that person
person maybe they don't want to talk
talk to you it doesn't really matter
matter but it's better just to try
try to like do it first and then get
get forgiveness afterwards so you
you can ask for forgiveness like oh
oh I'm sorry it didn't realize you
you didn't want to talk or you're
you're busy or something like that
that so if you can develop again these
these habits like when people think
think about studying languages they
they think about nouns and verbs and
and you know specific things that
that they have to study in order to
to get the language but you don't
don't learn a language in a vacuum
vacuum
vacuum this
this is another great expression to
to be in a vacuum means that something
something is not connected to other
other things how you learn a language
language is also determined by what
what your level of confidence is what
what other kinds of things you know
know what your interests are so all
all these things come together when
when you're thinking about learning
learning a language and that what's
what's its kind of what would create
create the the you that can get fluent
fluent so it's not about just the
the language and that's why do you
you know I teach a lot of the actual
actual words and phrases from english
english but i spent a lot more time
time making videos like this where
where i talk about the psychology
psychology the mindset the way of
of thinking that comes behind being
being fluent and Oh see my said well
well that was interesting we got somebody
somebody did you see my face that
that was pretty interesting we had
had some people come in i'm actually
actually recording at a was pretty
pretty funny I'm
I'm gonna keep this in the video anyway
anyway we'll see how it goes so
so anyway the point is that you should
should be thinking about all the interesting
interesting things the different things
things that happen all the things
things that actually are kind of around
around the the words and phrases that
that you use and that's what's going
going to help get you fluent anyway
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having a fantastic day comment
comment down below tell me about some
some like random person you tried
tried to meet or after watching this
this video come back and comment and
and tell me about maybe somebody you
you met through an experience like
like saying hello at a convenience
convenience store or something like
like that and it doesn't matter whether
whether it's in your native language
language or whether it's in English
English or you know whatever anything
anything else like that the
the point is I want you to develop
develop confidence such that you can
can use that confidence for whatever
whatever it is you want to do whether
whether it's learning the language
language or improving your professional
professional career or anything else
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