brainy dose presents how to let go of
the past and embrace your future all of
us dwell on the past from time to time
and that's okay we're human beings with
emotions as we go through life and
encounter different experiences it's
only natural that we sometimes cling on
to what once was
having said that replaying the past over
and over again doesn't change it and
wishing things were different doesn't
make it so if you find it hard to let go
of the past whether it's the end of a
relationship getting fired from a job or
anything in between the following tips
will show you how to let go of the past
and embrace your future number one
accept the things you cannot change
acceptance is the first step to letting
go and setting yourself free you can't
change the past you can only make
decisions today to help how your future
turns out accept your past and the
people who have been a part of it accept
your circumstances and remember that
they don't define you bring yourself
into the present moment this is where
life happens number two understand your
relationships it's important to take the
time to reflect on your own history
without judgment simply observe
understand that you are not your past
the situation's patterns and people in
your life created your experiences they
didn't create you except the person you
are in this moment and accept others the
way they are understanding your past and
some of your patterns will help you
recognize why you hold on and repeat
certain behaviors number three identify
negative emotions it takes practice to
learn how to notice and identify your
negative emotions when you start to feel
a negative emotion try to pinpoint
exactly what you're feeling for example
if you feel jealous when you see an ex
with a new person recognize that the
emotion is jealousy and acknowledge the
thoughts going on in your head
that make you feel that way don't blame
your emotions on someone else recognize
why you feel the way you do and think
about what happened that got you to this
place
number four evaluate your willingness to
let go some emotional wounds can feel so
deep it almost seems like there's no way
they can be let go there may be an
endless shadow cast by the pain of your
past that is clouding your future it is
easy to get stuck in this darkness but
are you willing to let it go and move on
if not try to figure out what's stopping
you the power of moving on relies on
your willingness to take steps forward
and how much effort you're willing to
put in number five learn to forgive
resentment and unwillingness to forgive
will keep you locked in the past and
prevent you from moving forward with
your life try to let go of whatever it
is that's holding you back you'll
realize that you are not what other
people say you are you are not your pain
your past or your emotions generally
it's the negative ideas about ourselves
and our hurtful self-talk that get in
the way of who we really want to be
being able to let go requires a strong
sense of self which gives the ability to
learn and grow from our experiences
number six create new positive
experiences create change by focusing on
new positive experiences make a
deliberate decision to initiate positive
change in your life and make positive
actions that will connect you with your
desired outcome create new memories to
replace the old ones and start enjoying
your current life once you start to let
go of your negative emotions you can
live more in the present moment number
seven do things that scare you fear
holds us back from doing a lot of things
it closes our minds to possibilities for
our future and locks us into our comfort
zone most fears imprison us and fill us
with doubt and what-ifs
the more you do to get out of your
comfort zone the more fear will subside
do things that scare you and you will
grow and succeed
number eight take responsibility for
your own happiness do not attribute
unhappiness to anything outside of
yourself if you do you will be blaming
others or events rather than spending
your energy improving yourself a crucial
step on the path to happiness is taking
personal responsibility this means not
blaming other people for your
unhappiness and figuring out ways to be
happy in spite of the past and the
previous behaviors of other people once
you take personal responsibility you
will be able to recognize that happiness
depends more on your attitude than it
does on external conditions number 9
express what works for you find your
voice and share your thoughts and
feelings with others if you continue to
communicate what works and doesn't work
for you you'll no longer bottle up your
emotions expressing yourself is an
important part of feeling good about
yourself and your relationships number
10
let go of expectations
expectations have a way of keeping us
stuck they lead us to fear certain
outcomes you can spend a lifetime
thinking about how good things could
have you and how they didn't turn out as
you had hope
as time goes on you'll continue to learn
that things don't always go as planned
actually they pretty much never do when
it comes to the past all you can do is
accept whatever you're holding on to and
then let it go that's when everything
changes is there anything you have a
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