hello do you have driving anxiety yet you've got no idea where he came from are you baffled as to
what's causing him and you've racked your brain and you just can't think of where this problem has
come from well in this video I'm going to explain more about why that is and why it's so confusing
my name's Paul and I work online with people all over the world to help them overcome their fear
of driving and one of the most common things for people ask me both in sessions and in the comments
is people say look you always say that driving anxiety is caused by something from my past it's
caused by a past event but it isn't because I've got no idea what it is you won't know what this
event is because if you knew what it was you wouldn't have the problem but people understand
that you say look there's nothing in my life that's ever happened that I don't know about well
that is where you are very wrong I want you to answer this question honestly were you ever three
years old now if you're honest you've answered yes there was a time in your life when you were
three years old can you remember everything that happened when you were three years old
can you remember anything that happened when you were three years old now most people say
they can't remember anything that when they were one two or three I mean how could you
but did it happen yes see the point of that is that there has been a time in your life when
you were alive and you existed and you were going to sleep and waking up and eating and doing stuff
like you are now but you are completely unaware of that time in your life and even at the ages of 0 1
2 3 4 You are taking things in in fact even though I'll say even at those ages that's when you're the
most receptive because up to the age of seven your mind is more receptive than any other age
so the point of this is that when you're saying I don't know what this event is you keep sand as
an event for my past and there isn't one there is but you've got no idea what it is if you ask your
parents about things that you did when you were a child and they'll probably say oh do you remember
you always used to go and light Supply on those swings in the playground and you're thinking what
what swings I don't remember that but your parents have a vivid memory sometimes they'll even show
you photos of when you're a child and you'll think I don't remember being there I don't remember
wearing those clothes see so the point is we all have lots and lots of stuff in our life that
we can't remember and when people say to me it isn't about a past events because I can remember
everything you can't I can guarantee you probably at least 90 percent of your life is hidden away
in your subconscious so think of you like this imagine that you go into a small shop and they'd
say this shop is about 30 feet square and they've got lots of books that's like your conscious mind
that's the limit of your conscious mind but then you ask if you can go to the subconscious section
and they open the door in the back of this room and he opens to a library which is a hundred
square miles through to 100 miles high with books stacked 100 miles in the air for 100 miles in each
direction that is the difference between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind you
see everything you ever do in your life every day every event is stored in your subconscious but you
can't access it normally if you're thinking what's the cause of this problem you've got no chance you
are never going to access hip I mean think about it would you want to be able to access your entire
life at one time can you imagine how crazy that would drive you to be able to remember every
single day and everything that's ever happened I'm glad that that stuff is shut away because it
would drive you insane to have access to all of that information all of the time another reason
that you can't access this memory is because sometimes your mind locks it off so sometimes
it can be something so bad that your mind kind of thinks right I'm going to put that into a room and
I'm going to lock it off and you are never going to access that even if you go into hypnosis and
use these techniques you're not going to access it and that's why sometimes even with hypnosis
people say well I did it and I couldn't find it Well I don't want to worry you but if you can't
find it with hypnosis it's normally for a good reason which is your mind kind of locks it off in
a room and it's saying right you're not going to get to that I'm not going to allow you to access
it well you do about that is you have to go into more detail and kind of persuade your mind to open
the door and I've experienced this myself as a kind and therapist so don't worry if you can't
find a memory sometimes it just takes a little bit of convincing your mind to allow it to show so you
see when you do therapy we use methods that allow you to access that subconscious and like I say
it's not about lying down it's not about closing your eyes imagining magical forests and Counting
yourself down a magical staircase yes you can do that stuff but that is not the best way of
doing it it's quite a slow way it's not the most effective way and it doesn't work for many people
but there are many other methods you can use to access your subconscious mind and just in case
you don't believe in the subconscious as I've mentioned in other videos that's what controls
your breathing blinking walking even driving before you had driving anxiety that's where
you've got a problem you see it's gone from your subconscious to your conscious so if people say I
don't believe in the subconscious well that means you can't breathe or blink or do anything without
being conscious of it so most people are way past up it's widely accepted the subconscious exists
but there are still some people who say well I don't have a subconscious well that means you're
having to think every time you blink and breathe and walk left foot up right foot up left foot up
right foot up blink breathe blink left foot we all have the subconscious I can promise you that now
let's move on to the second part of this video which is about what I said earlier about people
being confused people have left comments on my video saying this is just so confusing I don't
understand any of this great that means it's working I want you to imagine that what you're
thinking of when you're working out the cause of your anxiety it's a bit like being on a map
now you can walk around his map you can go to all the places that you know and you're looking for
something but you won't find it because you're limited to your map what happens is when you get
to the edge of that map think of it like being out and about and you go to the edge of an area
you know and you start to go into the unknown that's when you start to go out of the conscious
into the subconscious so when people say to me your videos are really confusing thanks that's
a massive compliment because it means that I'm helping you go to a place you haven't been before
I'm confusing you I'm stretching your thoughts I'm pushing you to the edge of your map and in
sessions I would push you off the edge of the map into the unknown into your subconscious which is
where the solutions lie check out his videos on screen now and if you want to work with me
one-to-one online from anywhere in the world to overcome your fear of driving contact me through
my website 1stDrive.com thanks for watching and as always I'll see you again soon for more videos