- [Instructor] Breakups suck,
and there's no way around them
other than going through the hoops.
As painful as it is right now,
we want you to know that I won't always be this way.
Here are the seven stages of heartbreak
One: obsession for answers.
We often yearn for closure
because the confusion hurts too much.
But closure doesn't always come;
and more importantly, it doesn't change the outcome.
You might be determined to gather answers
from your ex-partners' family, friends, or coworkers,
but eventually, playing detective gets old,
which is why you move to stage two, denial.
You might have stopped searching for clues and answers,
but this doesn't mean you're ready
to accept things just yet.
It's too much for you to process still.
So you're avoiding it for now,
hoping it's just a bad dream you'll wake up from.
Three: sorrow.
But no matter how hard you try denying the truth,
it eventually catches up to you.
You start asking yourself, why me?
And this time you really let the waterworks out.
Four: relapse.
So you finally manage to see
the breakup is really happening,
but you're not ready to let them go.
You try to win them back
and come up with a million reasons
why they should still be with you.
Five: anger, but it doesn't work.
You feel fed up and angry about the situation.
You start holding onto grudges
because it's better than not holding onto anything at all.
Six: acceptance.
But even then, you eventually grow tired
of resenting your ex.
So you try something healthier
by accepting the breakup for what it is.
You're not necessarily happy about it,
but you're no longer bitter either.
Seven: hopefulness.
Breakups can leave us feeling scarred and doubtful,
but the heart knows how to mend over time.
When you're ready, you start dating again
and see your past relationship as a lesson.
It's important to remember
that all the heartbreak you go through
should be taken as an experience.
Each one brings you one step closer
to finding that perfect one.
Are you going through a breakup?
If so, which stage are you in?