What's up everyone Adam LoDolce here and i just got off a coaching call with one of our clients
and i wanted to just talk a little bit about this idea of moving slow throughout the dating process
now we have this strategy that we call the 7 Little Love Steps and these are seven intentional steps to go from being single to attracting long-lasting love and we have one little love
step that seems to just get everyone hung up on including myself back in the day when i was
going through this process and it's Little Love Step Number Five where we pace the progression
of our connections so speaking to this client and she met this guy a few weeks ago and they really
hit it off and she said that she had this really courageous moment where she stepped outside of her
shell to go up and talk to this guy and they just hit it off and it was incredible she's so excited
but this guy is moving pretty fast okay like he's been texting with her every single day like
multiple times throughout the day he wants to see her more and more often like they went on a first
date then he wanted to take her out the next night for a second date and i said whoa hold your horses
let's make sure we are pacing things and there are really three core reasons why it is that we
do this and why little of step number five is so important the first reason is by pacing things
it gives us time to really get to know someone before we commit our hearts to that person uh
as you've probably noticed of the dating process in the first month or two of getting to know a
person they have what i call this dating mask it's a mask that everyone has on where you don't really
know who that person is and the reason why we pace and have an appropriate amount of time to
get to know a person anywhere from six to eight dates before being exclusive to that person is
we want to see what that person's like when they take that mask off where we get to know that
person before we go exclusive with them and before we really start investing our emotional energy
into that person so that's reason number one the second reason is that by moving slow and pacing
it allows you to be in control of the process a little bit and also it builds a lot of tension
in the connection by you saying things such as look i'm at a stage in my life where i want to
just move slow and get to know you before we take things to the next level i hope that's okay with
you by saying those types of things that puts you in the position of power and control and it builds
a lot of great tension which keeps him pursuing you keeps him moving forward and the opposite of
doing that is to just move really really fast burn the relationship out anywhere from three weeks to
three months into the connection and then poof it just blows up in your face and nothing really
happens then you move on to the next we don't want that to happen so we again want to pace and be the
pacer move slower than he even wants to move which in turn actually makes him want to speed things up
and the third reason why it is that we pace and this is an important one
is when we pace it gives us an opportunity to weed out the type of men who can't handle pacing okay
there are some guys that when you use little love step number five as part of our strategy there's
some guys that can't handle it because they're too controlling they are narcissistic they don't
like it when a woman doesn't follow exactly what it is that they say and those type of men tend
to be horrible life partners so what it does is allows us to kind of weed out those types of men
and really open our hearts out to the types of men who are open to a healthy relationship those love
bombers gone okay that this strategy doesn't work when you pace with someone who love bombs they're
not going to go along with that and they're going to just kind of drift away into the background so
i want to hear from you do you struggle when it comes to pacing and slowing things down
and are you really ready to start taking the right steps moving forward so leave that comment right
there below and if you are then head on over to lovestrategies.com i'd love to speak with you and
i don't know i want to shoot this impromptu video because i don't do this enough so hope
you enjoyed it and i will speak to you very soon you beautiful beautiful lady alright bye