- You like gave me one compliment.
What'd you say before?
You're like, you look cute.
Whoa. That's it. My day was made, right there.
I was like, today Lila gave me a compliment.
- Hey (laughter)
I know.
- Oh
- Yo, we're still like straight up, like (laughter)
- Go!
- When you look into my eyes, what do you see?
- Okay. I think when you asked me that
it makes me think about how, when we
since we FaceTime for so long and it's like,
I don't know
like looking into your eyes
now in person it's like, now they're right there.
You know?
- Yeah.
- I felt like I knew you because we had spoken
for how many hours, you know, and like
- Four.
- Four. Like nights on FaceTime,
and all day and watching movies.
I really, I don't even think that there's words to, like
- I remember seeing you in 4G or 5G,
whatever, real life.
- Real life.
- And I'm like, yo, her face.
- It was crazy.
- It was crazy,
I kept hugging you to like, feel you and stuff.
- Yeah.
- And I wanna shake you.
- I know (laughter).
- Do you remember that?
- It's just like, how do,
and there was so much anticipation built,
like, we spent so long being like
I want to meet you, but we were in quarantine.
- And I didn't care.
- And you live 800 miles away.
- Yup.
- How do you describe the story of us?
- First, I'd start off by saying, it's crazy.
People are like, what?
Tell me about it. I'm like, okay.
Tell them about like the, you know, 2016
how you messaged me.
I messaged you!
- You messaged me.
- I messaged you.
Based off of one picture.
I went to her page to see more pictures.
She had none.
- She had none.
- I was very upset.
So I had to let her know.
So I messaged her and I was like, I'm very upset.
You only have one picture,
but that one picture you look great.
- For like six months, we managed
to stay in contact without meeting, that's crazy.
- That's crazy.
- Like how many people do you have conversations
with online that are just like, a quick conversation
and then that's it.
- Yeah.
- You know, it's nuts.
- How many people people do talk to
about science, also for the first time?
- Science.
- So yeah.
- It's good. It's crazy.
- It's humbling.
- Humbling?
- Yeah.
- Why?
- Because, you know, I don't know.
It's a very rare thing.
And it's one thing when, you know, you meet somebody
and then you can just take situations for granted
but this isn't like, one
of those situations, cus' it's, what are the odds?
- Yeah.
- And then, it wasn't just like a chance thing.
Like we had to put in work.
- Yeah.
- And it's like, there's a reason
Why we both put in the work, like.
- Here we are.
- Here we are, here we are here, you know.
- Yeah.
- Yeah
- Solid.
- (whispers) It's my, it's my turn.
- (whispers) Yeah.
- Okay.
- I don't need to use this card.
- You got it.
- What do you think is a possible challenge
for us in the future?
And what can we do about it now?
Very efficient question, let's go.
Lay it on the table, take care of it.
- What do I think, is a possible challenge
for us in the future?
I, I don't know what we can do about it now.
Figure it out, I don't know.
I think, you would, you know,
if this all never happened, like COVID and stuff,
you would've been traveling, before everything went down.
You were talking about like, you were gonna
go to L.A. in March, and then you were gonna go to L.A.
Maybe in July or something, and neither of us, still
have left Atlanta or New York.
- Yeah. Like four trips planned.
- So I think it's easy to be so comfortable
with the distance when both of our lives are very limited.
Like I'm just doing school all the time,
And you're just like, hanging out with your friends
and doing music
- Booling.
- Booling. And I think, that in reality
- it's much easier to get jealous, or
like distant or just like sad
about it when the other's like exp, like doing a lot.
And right now I would say that compared to before
compared to like real life, we're not doing that much.
You know?
- I'm doing so much.
- Really?
- No, I know what you're saying, um.
- What we can do about it now?
- Live in the f-
- I don't know.
- Live in the present.
- Right.
- And build a stronger foundation,
and just make memories.
- Right.
Describe the moment you realized I was in love with you.
- When I realized you were in love with me?
- Yup.
- Oh, I don't know. Hm.
Well I guess like, I liked the way
that you phrased it before, where your definition
of I remember I asked, what's the difference
between being in love versus a loving someone.
And your definition was uh,
being in love means that you're always choosing that person.
That's like, a big in the foundation
of what I think is kind of like that defining, like
I felt that you always choose me, you know
plus the way you look at me, uh, our conversations.
- Yeah.
- I felt your gates come down a lot.
Did I have to say that right? Gates?
Walls!
- Walls. (laughter) What are gates? My walls.
- Yeah.
- Yeah. After we met, yeah, slowly.
- Yeah.
Yeah, but I dunno.
I wish we could quantify it or something.
So like we could, you know, know right off the bat.
- Yeah. Is there a moment?
- I don't know.
- Yeah. I don't think I would have a moment.
I couldn't point one out either.
- I'm not sure I'm still learning, but I know
that I had that switch before of like how set I was on you.
Unlike usually, I don't know.
I think it's more natural when things are kind of like this
as opposed to like a, you know?
- Sure.
- Cause like what happens, what's going on?
But it's just like, you know, as opposed to that
- Yeah
- I don't know!
- I hear you, no, I agree. It was the switch, I think.
- Yeah. I was like, I'm not gonna mess up.
- Mh-hm.
Yeah.
We did it.
- We did do it.
- [Woman Speaker] Is there anything else
you want to ask each other?
- Anything else you want to ask me?
- Let's just put her for future.
Where would you like to see this relationship kind
of go forward, for me?
- Um, I think,
well, the reality of it is, I'm stuck here
for the next couple years in school and my program.
- What school? No.
- You know, like I'll be in, in my program for two
and two more years and you have no idea where
you're going to be in six months to a year.
Where you're going to be living,
what you're going to be doing.
But,
I think that we've continued.
We've like stayed such a constant in each other's life.
And like someone to go to, that, I can see that remaining,
I think for a long time, and growing and you know
obviously the distance is a thing
and it's kind of like, is the distance ever gonna end?
Or, what? But, I don't think that that's a question that's
possible to answer right now
because neither of us have any idea what,
where we're going to go, you know?
But, as for now, there's no pressure on that.
How are you going to answer that question?
- I don't know. We'll figure it out.
- Well there you go.
- I already have three sweatshirts at your place.
- Yeah.
- Two undies.
- And a toothbrush.
- That's it, you have your toothbrush there.
- Yeah.
- We'll figure it out.
- Period.
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