the most important question you will ever ask yourself stay tuned
this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym the most important question you will ever
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the most important question you could possibly ask yourself no it's not Who am
I or what am i I spent a lot of time delving into those philosophical
questions and while they're fun and they're stimulating to the intellect
they never really gave me what I needed as far as practical tools and techniques
and applications to guide my life and to actualize the things that I wanted to
actualize to to self realize and to actualize my potential achieve the
things that I wanted get the results that I wanted none of those things ever
really helped me none of those questions never really helped me so what is the
main question the question is the question actually that I start every
coaching session with and that is what do you want what do you want what do you
desire that may seem overly simplistic but it's really not what do I want or
what do you want is a question we should be asking ourselves for our entire life
this is what guides us what we want is an indication of what our potential is
calling us to do and by following that potential we actualize ourselves we
actualize that potential watching the ocean hear it does have a tendency to
splash out behind me you may be saying well I set a goal for something I wanted
our results that I wanted and I got it and I'm not really happy and it lasted
for about a day or two and nothing I understand that happens a lot we focus
on the results rather than the experience we're trying to create and we
get so focused on the result that when we get it sometimes we don't know what
to do with it or we're excited for a day or two and we celebrate and then we say
to ourselves what do we do now and then akin they can feel really empty
if you're overly focused on results then you forget that what you're really after
is an experience and experience of life and the truth is you never really arrive
an engaged life is a life where you're always working on actualizing your
potential you are always wanting something and the one thing and the
results are just guides the results are just stepping stones to let you know
that you're on the path and sometimes you need to achieve something that you
think you want only to realize that you don't want it to realize that that's
really not the direction you should be going a lot of times we want things that
other people want for us and sometimes we have to go and get that
to know that it's not what we want there's so many doctors and lawyers who
became doctors and lawyers because that's who well that's what their
parents wanted them to be they wouldn't achieved it and then they'd say well I'm
not happy well of course because you wouldn't you achieve something that
wasn't really you all is not lost though it doesn't mean you should stop wanting
it doesn't mean that you should stop going after the things that you want are
the results that you want now you just know one result that
doesn't fulfill you so you get to go and find another but it's really about the
looking it's really about the wanting end of the actual izing and the going
after that what you want that is really what living is all about
that's what will fulfill you sitting around and not doing anything because
you're afraid to be disappointed it's only going to make you miserable
going after things that you want and overly focus overly focusing on the
results and then getting the results again you may not be happy it's about
looking beyond the results it's about looking at what kind of life experience
you want to have the kind of life experience I want to have is where I'm
always wanting something always going for what it is that I want always
engaging whatever it is that I want to achieve and want to go after and always
fulfilling my values when you look back on your life it's not about all the
results that you achieve it's about the overall life experience you create the
reason why I love NLP is for the same reason that I love yoga
based on techniques it's based on a process and out of it I get results but
it's not like I achieved the result of being flexible and then I stopped
practicing yoga or getting stronger or balancing my body you don't stop you
keep practicing NLP is the same way you keep practicing the techniques and the
processes that help you get what you want because life itself is a practice
when you engage in it that way when you engage in what you want then
slip into a flow and in that flow we forget ourselves and we're truly engaged
in the living and sometimes you will will step out of that flow sometimes
we'll take a wrong turn sometimes we'll do something that
doesn't work for us or that's really difficult or painful or that makes us
suffer and it's not about it's not about getting angry that we that we fell out
of our flow it's not about staying in the flow constantly it's about getting
back into it you're gonna slip out of it a lot of people will sit around and be
angry at themselves because they weren't spiritually aligned well enough because
they they stepped out of their flow no no we all we all lose our flow from time
to time just get back in as long as you stay aligned with your values and you
align your goals and the results you're trying to achieve with your values
you're going to experience the life you want to live and only tools can help you
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