Heya playa, if you want to know how to slide into your crush's
DM's effectively you don't actually start by sending them a direct message.
Instead, you should follow the technique that I'm about to share with you right after this.
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My name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching
you how to be your best self and look, there's no magical phrase that you could send over to your
crush that's immediately going to get them to open it up and want to start dating you.
Instead, you gotta put in a little bit of work and it starts like this.
Tip number one is to be someone that likes their pics but not as soon as they post it.
Think about it like this, every time your crush decides to post a new picture
they're gonna get swarmed with lots of people all liking it at the same time.
And when you just join in that crowd you don't really stand out.
What you could try doing is liking that picture maybe 10 minutes or so
after they post it. That way your notification is the only one that
pops up and it might have a better chance of catching their attention.
Now when it comes to Stories though, this is a totally different play. If you crush posts Stories
on Instagram, what most people tend to do is just kind of click along watching every single story
and not really interacting with it. This is where you're going to stand out by actually responding
back with an emoji response to their story. That's actually going to show up in their direct messages
and it's going to create the opportunity where you can now start that conversation.
But a simple like or reaction might not be enough to spark a
conversation so what you're going to want to do is follow tip number two
and that's to start commenting with questions on things that they post.
Most people tend to leave very basic comments like "cool pic", "nice", "awesome" but,
what you're going to do instead is ask a more detailed question about something in that photo.
Are they posting with friends? Did they go somewhere cool? Are they just excited about
something that they bought? Ask a question that will evoke an answer from them. Maybe
you want to ask an opinion-based question so they can go a little deeper into who they are.
The question that you ask is going to be that jump-off point for you to now
slide into their DMs. Once they respond back in the comments of their picture
you can now send them a direct message and follow up to keep that conversation going.
It's gonna then seem a lot more natural for you to have a private conversation
rather than you messaging them out of nowhere asking them a random question.
Here's the thing though, not every single person's crush is super active on Instagram.
Maybe they rarely post pictures and don't even post Stories at all, so what do you do?
Well, tip number three is for you to be the one that's actively posting and
asking questions and giving opportunities for your crush to now interact with your content.
Every time you post a new picture or meme over on Instagram, try tagging your crush and a few
other friends and also throw in a question into the caption of that post. That might
inspire your crush to actually respond or to even just react with an emoji. And once they do,
that now gives you the opportunity to springboard into their DMs and make it happen, captain.
And also make sure to use all the interactive features that Instagram gives you in Stories.
Set up polls, ask questions, basically what you want to do is create an open
environment where your crush can actually just give you a little bit of feedback.
For them to just take that first step and to start that conversation
if they're not someone that's actively giving you a chance to do it too.
Look, sliding into someone's DMs is not about finding the perfect thing to say that's gonna win
them over. It's all about creating a meaningful connection with your crush. Having them feel like
you're someone that's interested in them, they're someone that's interested in you, and when you're
having this private conversation it doesn't end up being awkward or weird or feel out of place.
And it all comes back to having a real genuine interest in that
person. Wanting to learn about their hobbies and their interests and just
who they are so that you can take your Instagram friendship to the next level.
But how do you keep that Instagram conversation going? Well, I'm going to share a few resources
with you in just a second but first I want to give a huge shout out to my patrons and YouTube
channel members. These are the people that help support the channel every single month so
if you want to learn how you and I can video chat one on one every single month
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Now what I want you to do is to click on the resources over here on the side.
One is going to be a video that's going to help you have deeper conversations and the second
is going to be my Ice Breaker Conversation Starters Guide. This is a guide that you can
use to start having more deeper and fun and interesting conversations with your
crush. Check out those two resources and I'll catch you next time. As always, love and peace.