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So, okay, here's the thing with narcissists,
they are actually two people and
I actually have a whole video on why narcissists live double lives and
you can check out that video as well.
Here's the thing, they have this inner self,
which is this scared little person and
I'm going to tell you something,
what if I told you that narcissists are actually
way more afraid of you, than you are of them.
It's true.
I know it sounds crazy, but it's actually true.
They are way more afraid of you than you are of them.
I like to use the analogy of “The Wizard of Oz”.
So, if you think about “The Wizard of Oz”,
everybody thought the wizard of oz,
was this all-powerful, all-knowing and
you see Dorothy and her friends,
they're all going to this wizard and
this wizard is going to help them and
this wizard has built this massive, huge powerful compound,
called “Oz”, Emerald city, right?
They go there and it's glowing and it's made of emeralds,
how many narcissists have built these massive huge homes, right?
We know, we've seen them and
they get there and go through the gates,
oh my gosh, it's scary, so scary to talk to this wizard,
who's this massive huge powerful booming voice,
it sounds so confident and all-knowing and
they say, “Hey, I want courage, I want a heart,
I want a brain and I want to go home”.
They know this is the person who's going to be able to help them,
because they certainly can't help themselves,
they don't have any of those things, right?
The dog goes and like realizes this guy's a fraud,
it's actually this scared little man who's feeble and
he's like, behind a curtain, he's actually just pulling these strings and
he's actually this scared little person behind the curtain, afraid.
That's really how it is with narcissists too,
there's this person they try to project that they are,
but then there's this really scared little self inside and
they don’t really want anybody to know that
there's this scared little self inside and
then there's this person they try to project that they actually are,
but that's not who they actually are.
They build all this stuff around them
for people to think that that's who they actually are,
but that's not who they actually are.
They have these two sides to themselves and
they don't want to be found out and
it's so, so sad for them really in a way,
because they have these things that they can't reconcile,
because they feel like a fraud all the time.
They think they have no self-worth,
they think they have no internal sense of value whatsoever.
So, they feel like they have to layer it on,
through all of this external stuff,
through either de-valuing people, or controlling people,
or through having things, or prestige, or compliments,
or having people adulate them all the time,
that's how they get some sense of value for themselves,
but it's really just a sense of fraud and
what happens is, they project a lot of times,
this sense of confidence, this sense of entitlement,
but they don't actually have it,
which is kind of an interesting thing,
because sometimes they convince people they have it so well and
that they're so much smarter and
they have so much more knowledge or intelligence, or whatever,
that they get themselves to these positions of authority,
just based on how they project themselves and
because they have such a deep-seated need for power and
such a deep-seated need for respect and
being in positions of control or tension,
that they do have people convinced they are smarter,
or better or whatever, because they need have that.
So, it is an interesting thing,
because people do think that about them many times.
It's sad, it's really sad for them,
that they don't actually feel that inside though about themselves.
They are really giant frauds.
I mean, it's so sad.
It's sad that they feel that way and
they don't actually feel that grounded sense of “I'm worthy”,
I'm worthy inside and I'm worthy outside,
reconciling that; those two sides of themselves.
They don't actually feel both inside and outside I'm worthy and
whole and complete, unfortunately, and
because of that,
they treat people poorly, they have no sense of empathy and
they leave a path of destruction behind them and
they narcissistically abuse people and
they're very, very toxic to the people around them.
That's just the reality of it.
So, that's why the narcissists are giant frauds.
If you are dealing with one, it's extremely draining and
they literally drain the life out of you and
I know because I've had to deal with them
in my own personal life as well and
that's why I'm on this mission,
that's why I'm on this passionate crusade to help you guys.
I believe I’m the only attorney on the planet
that's on this mission at the level that I'm teaching people
how to powerfully negotiate with narcissist in a real way.
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