hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn
about 20 signs of fake love now let's begin number one refusing compromise
all couples run into problems but the couples who love each other find ways to compromise
they're willing to make sacrifices because they care about their partners as much as they care
about themselves so if your partner doesn't really love you they may refuse to compromise
they won't make sacrifices because they care about themselves more than they care about you
number two intentional spontaneity dates are one way to show your partner that you care if
you plan something your partner will see the effort you've invested into the relationship
and that communicates love a loveless partner makes no effort to plan
dates or activities they don't put effort into the relationship so the responsibility falls on
your shoulders you do all the heavy lifting but a one-sided relationship isn't loving or healthy
number three the white flag when you and your partner fight what happens does your partner give
up immediately do they assume every fight ends in a breakup if you're in love you'll fight for
the person you care about you'd do anything for them because they are your number one
but if your partner doesn't love you they'll stop fighting for you they'll wave their white flag
anytime anything goes wrong because they're not willing to persevere through hardship or conflict
in other words fake partners love you when it's easy and then they run away when it's not
number four guarding their feelings does your partner keep you at arm's length a loving partner
makes an effort to be vulnerable but a loveless partner keeps their emotions to themselves these
partners don't want to be vulnerable because they aren't interested in deepening your connection
now this isn't true one hundred percent of the time some partners seem closed off thanks to
bad experiences in their past these partners can and will be vulnerable with the person they love
but yeah it does take time loveless partners on the other hand keep their walls up no matter how
long you're together number five creating distance all loving couples have one thing in common they
want to spend time together if your partner doesn't love you they'll start pulling away
you ask to spend time with them but they're always busy you plan a date in advance but
something comes up at the last minute so if this sounds familiar your partner is creating distance
between you why well because their feelings for you may be fading number six public neglect in
public partners should be proud of each other a loving partner adores the person they've chosen
so they want to show that person off to the rest of the world loveless partners will neglect you
in public maybe they ditch you to hang out with their friends or even worse they may
try to hide you if your partner does either of these things it's a surefire sign of fake love
number 7 emotional discomfort does your partner make you uncomfortable this is a very important
sign of fake love if you aren't comfortable around your partner then something is definitely wrong
your partner should be the person you feel the most comfortable with they're your best friend and
you're confidant they're the person you laugh and cry with so they should make you feel confident
safe and secure so if your partner makes you insecure they don't love you instead they're
trying to control you controlling partners undermine and criticize your choices they make
you feel bad about who you are because they don't care about your happiness they want to keep you
under their thumb and that's not love number eight invisible romance so when was the last
time your partner did something romantic romantic gestures show your partner that they matter to you
it keeps the spark alive by reminding them why you fell in love in the first place your partner
doesn't have to be the most romantic person in the world but they should show you that they care so
if your partner doesn't try to be romantic they may not be in love with you number nine passing
blame will your partner admit their mistakes will they apologize when they're wrong fake partners
never take responsibility for their mistakes they'll flip every situation on you they don't
care if you take the blame because they don't love you nearly as much as they love themselves
number 10 the attention deficit does your partner pay attention to you
loving partners give their undivided attention to their significant other
they go out of their way to show their partners that they're present and attentive fake partners
will pay attention to anything but you they don't make time for you and they don't listen to you
because in their mind you're not a priority number 11 subconscious pronouns do you and
your partner talk about the future when they describe their future are you a part of it
this one is huge for long-term relationships you may imagine your significant other in your future
but they may not feel the same way about you if your partner sees you in their life you can
actually hear a change in the language they use if your partners use the pronouns we and us they
imagine a future with you in it they love you and they're hoping you'll be together for a long time
on the other hand if they use the pronouns i and me they don't see you in their future
they don't anticipate your relationship lasting and their love may not be as deep as it seems
number 12 mutual unhappiness are you happy around your partner is your partner happy around you
mutual happiness is key to any stable relationship you should bring out the best in each other if
you're not doing that then you and your partner may not be in love so just ask yourself am i happy
with my partner does my partner smile and laugh when we're together if the answer's no you may be
in a loveless relationship number 13 invasions of privacy privacy is important in every relationship
many people think couples should tell each other everything well most of the time couples do but
it's important to maintain your individuality no matter how much you love your partner if your
partner doesn't respect your privacy that's a bad sign many insecure controlling partners will try
to compromise your privacy they'll insist that you're keeping secrets they'll look through your
phone without asking and they'll accuse you of breaking their trust these manipulative partners
are selfish and they lash out when they're feeling insecure so if your partner invades your
privacy they're not trying to love you they're trying to control you number 14 hiding secrets
while privacy is important keeping secrets can be a sign of fake love alright let's say your partner
actively hides their job from you or maybe they don't tell you who their friends are or what they
do on the weekends loving partners don't keep these kinds of secrets if you're in love you
let your partner into your life you want to share the most intimate things about you and you want to
know the same things about your partner a loveless person will hide big chunks of their life they'll
keep secrets and they'll protect those secrets with stories and lies the bottom line is you
need to trust your partner and if you don't love doesn't stand a chance number 15 demanding change
as your partner asks you to change for them when you love someone you love them for who they are
flaws and all but fake partners will encourage you to change who you are they don't love you
for you they love you for the person they expect you to be and that's not real love
number 16 unloving language does your partner tell you that they love you loving partners find ways
to express their feelings they may not say i love you 20 times a day but they show their affections
any way they can so if your partner doesn't express their affection that's a sign of fake love
they don't tell or show you how they feel because they don't feel much to begin with
number 17 petty conflict does your partner disagree with you about everything they pick
fights about the tiniest most insignificant things and for the life of you you can't
figure out why here's the reason why loveless partners search for reasons to fight they know
deep down that their love isn't real and that frustration creates unnecessary conflict
number 18 taking breaks have you and your partner ever taken a break if your partner
wants a break from you that's a red flag if your partner sees other people while you're apart
alarm bells should be ringing in your head a loving partner wants to be with you
it's that simple number 19 the priority list are you low on your partner's priority list
when you're in love it's easy to prioritize your partner you want to give them everything
you can because you love them from the bottom of your heart a loveless partner will stop making
you a priority they'll choose their work their friends and their hobbies over you
they'll make you wait and then they'll blow you off why because they don't actually love you
number 20 drawing comparisons does your partner compare you to other people in their life do they
threaten to find someone else if you do something wrong this is one of the most manipulative things
a partner can say they're forcing you to change but a loving partner would never do this they'd
never put you in such an uncomfortable position so don't let anyone bully you into changing who you
are if your partner threatens to stop loving you they never really loved you at all hey thank you
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